How do I stop my friend from buying me the most awful gifts? She tends to spend quite a lot of money (that she really can't afford) on things that I absolutely hate! We have vastly different tastes. When her birthday comes around I go to the shops that I know she likes and buy her stuff from there. But when she buys for me she buys the stuff that she likes. I don't like her spending so much on me, as I know they don't have a lot of spare cash, and would be much happier with a book or something small. She has already bought me a candelabra, a huge wooden cat, a large display of fake flowers, a clock with flowers at each number, gothic jewellery, etc and it's embarrassing when she comes round and the stuff isn't there on display - but I really can't stand the stuff! I don't want to hurt her feelings as she is a very generous person, so how do I stop her buying things that I don't want. I've known her all my life, so she knows what my taste is like, but I still keep getting these awful things that I don't want and that I know she has had to scrimp to pay for.
The main problem is that she tends to buy ornaments etc and so she will obviously expect to see them when she calls round. I have about 30 years worth of these things sat in the attic! But she's so kind and generous that I really need to tread carefully.
She often calls round so it's not as if I can just get a few things out when she's coming - I don't always know when she's coming.
I'm grateful to have a friend like her - I don't want to hurt her feelings by not having all these things on display, but I really can't live with them! My lounge is cream and green, so why did she buy me 4 hairy, lilac cushions with little crystals on them? What do I do with them without hurting her?