This is a question I've been pondering for a while now, based on my personal experience with not only some of the answers I see on Yahoo Answers, but in real life as well.
I am a crossdresser/transvestite. While I rarely dress up fully as a woman, I often dress in female clothes because I enjoy the "feminine" expression it gives me. Like most crossdressers, I am male identified, heterosexual, still like being a man and my masculine qualities, and have a very good dating life.
For a while now I've been involved in a transgender support group where all transgendered identities and expressions are welcomed and supported, from crossdressing to androgyny to genderqueer to transexualism and everywhere in between. The facilitators of the support group I attend are MTF and FTM transsexuals, both fully transitioned, and have been extremely welcoming and supportive of not just me but everybody else who was came to the meetings. While this isn't always the case, I have seen a lot of division and factioning among the transgendered community on Yahoo Answers, other internet pages, and in real life as well.
One of biggest divsions I've seen is how many transsexuals will try to draw a sharp distinction between themselves and the rest of the trans community, some going as far as saying that transsexuals are not part of the transgendered community. I have also seen that some have extreme hostility towards crossdressers/transvestites in particular. I am not letting fellow crossdressers/transvestites off the hook either, because I have seen just as many hostile and divisive comments made by them towards transsexuals and the rest of the trans community as well.
Case in point is an answer recently posted dealing with how God views transgendered issues. While there were a lot of diverse answers on there, one transwoman used Deuteronomy 22:5 as a way of implying that crossdressing/trasvestism is sinful but other evidence in the Bible that being a transsexual isn't. One other transwoman went as far as blasting every other person with a transgender identity but a transsexual who is earnestly seeking SRS as an abomination to God. Of course they are entitled to their opinions, but it disheartens me to see all of this. As a Christian myself, I am well aware of Deuteronomy 22:5 in particular as well as a slew of other passages that can be used for and against transgender issues. I also know that taking a legalistic approach to the Mosiac laws, not just Deuteronomy 22:5, is largely impractical. Otherwise, every woman who wears jeans would be considered a sinner because they were originally a mans garment, just as much of a man wearing a skirt (even though skirts were at one time a very acceptable male garmet). The same goes for a person wearing a cotton/rayon shirt would be a sinner because the Deuteronomy also decries wearing clothing of mixed fabrics as a sin. You can see the question and answers here:
Anyway, back to my point. I tend to follow the concept of that transgender, and gender identity in general, is a broad spectrum that covers a wide range of gender identities/expressions and is by no means a "one size fits all" or you're either a male gender or female gender and no in-between. Even in cisgendered people, every women has masculine qualities to her just as a man will have some feminine qualities. This is supported by the APA as well as many other mental health professionals.
I believe that gender identity is hard-wired into each and every one of us. Most of the time it's a good match. In the case of transsexuals, it is such as mismatch that there is a need to medically transition for a better quality of life. In other people, their gender identity can be more shades of gray and color to where it leads one to gravitate towards an expression that is more or less different from their birth sex but they don't feel the need to transition. Of course I realize that every transgender identity has issues that are unique to itself, and every person with gender identity issues is going to be different from the next.
What I would love to see is for trans people to start seeing some of the common features and struggles each trans person has and to get past what identity is more the right way, medically verified, God-accepted, etc. United we stand and divided we fall.
I would like to hear opinions from anybody with a transgender identity or who is familiar with trans issues on how the trans community can come together and focus more on our common traits, struggles, and interests rather than the differences that cause division and hostility. While I don't consider any thoughful answer to be right or wrong, I intend to give the best answer to somebody who has the best idea of how the trans community can move past all the infighting amongst each other and come together as a diverse an