So here's the story -
We are both freshman in college and the semester is almost over. At the beginning of the semester I got a boyfriend. Fall semester me and this friend were basically attached at the hip. When I got a boyfriend (we are very much in love, he has never done anything seriously wrong), I had to work at balancing my time between her and him. I was totally willing to do that, no problem, because I wanted both of them in my life. Well, for some reason, my friend has slowly turned into a ***** about my boyfriend. It's gotten to the point where I feel like I can't even talk about him AT ALL around her because she is so negative about him. I feel like I can't relate to her anymore because she is still at the point in her life where she gets black out drunk most weekend, does drugs, and has a bunch of random sex. I don't usually do what she does on the weekends with her and she takes that as me being antisocial. When she gets drunk, she starts flirting with guys and hooking up with them, but if I run into my boyfriend at a party, that's a problem. It all started with some mean comments and nasty vibes about him, but now her actions are out of control. It's putting a strain on my relationship with my boyfriend because he is constantly feeling hated by my group of "friends" and I am always made to feel controlled and sad that they can't be decent about an important part of my life. I have always wanted a boyfriend like this, and have finally found someone who loves everything about me, and I am made to feel bad about it. They know he makes me happy, but they can't be happy for me. My boyfriend has really put in an effort to make them like him (picked up my friend from the airport when her grandpa died, bought her birthday gifts and a card, hangs out with her one and one to try and reconnect), but he keeps getting shat on. Saturday night was the worst. A carnival came to our school and my friend and I were hanging out with her new group of friends (and she puts in zero effort to make me feel included with these people I don't know, but whatever). They were all wasted except for me. We were in line to get on a ride and my boyfriend called me. I took the phone out of my pocket and my friend snatched it and SCREAMED at my boyfriend saying "YOU CAN'T COME OVER HERE! I AM GETTING ON THIS RIDE WITH HER AND NOT YOU AND THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT!" I was so speechless that I didn't say anything. Then everyone was in line for another ride, and my boyfriend leaned in to kiss me. My friend started screaming about how she hates PDA, and she grabbed our bodies and physically tried to separate us but I just kept hugging him back. Then she got mad that we weren't listening to her. My boyfriend said "I am in love with her and will kiss her if I want" and my friend gave me the nastiest look, stormed off, and whispered to our other friend and then they did a "pound it" motion. However, during this time, another boy and my friend were touching and she was running up drunkenly to random people and giving them hickies. I don't understand why she is allowed to touch others, but if my boyfriend even touches my back she freaks out. She does not think about my feelings at all and has a weird sense of entitlement where she thinks she can control things about our relationship. I like it when he calls me and when he kisses me. But she doesn't consider my feelings, and hurts them, and is rude, and makes a scene, and yells at him.
This kind of thing has been going on for a while. One time I was at a party and she was there and my boyfriend texted me saying he missed me, and she took the phone when I wasn't looking and said "STOP SAYING YOU MISS HER, YOU WILL ******* MAKE IT THROUGH"... yes, in all caps. When I started getting the comments I told her I would like my relationship to be respected and she said she would work on it. That was months ago. It has only gotten worse. I have cried too much over this. If it's so easy for her to be rude and disrespectful to me and the person I love, then I don't think I can be friends with her anymore. I don't know why I waste my time trying to keep up a relationship with her and being supportive of all of her things with boys, if she just walks all over me. It's really discouraging that someone who called me their best friend started treating me so absurdly once I got a boyfriend. I would NEVER EVER grab her phone from her and scream at the boy she has a thing with, or make a scene if he kissed her. That's just not who I am and I am RESPECTFUL. Obviously there is a fundamental difference between us and I feel pretty hopeless about it. Sorry this is so long. What do you think?