• Why is my best friend ignoring me?

    So my best friend and I have been friends since I was a sophomore in high school and now I am a freshman in college, and she is a sophomore in college. Fall semester we spoke nearly everyday and she was having a falling out with her boyfriend and her friend group, so I would devote hours at night talking to her on the phone and trying to make her... show more
    So my best friend and I have been friends since I was a sophomore in high school and now I am a freshman in college, and she is a sophomore in college. Fall semester we spoke nearly everyday and she was having a falling out with her boyfriend and her friend group, so I would devote hours at night talking to her on the phone and trying to make her feel better and letting her vent and talk about it. I take a lot of pride in being the best possible friend I can. We have really been through a lot together and I feel like I have always been very supportive and attentive. So this semester, I got a boyfriend and my life changed a lot. My friend group and I had a falling out, I am not speaking to my closest friend here at school, etc. So last semester she was having the friend drama with her group of friends at her school, and this semester I dealt with mine. The frustrating this is that we have barely spoken to each other this entire semester. If I call her, she won't answer or text me or call me back. If I message her and ask when she can talk on the phone, she doesn't respond. But she tweets and blogs all the time about how much fun she is having with her friends at school and calls them her best friends and says her friends are the funniest people she has ever met. It's AWESOME that she's having a great time, trust me, I am happy for her, but I just wish that she would respond to me when it's obvious I am in need of a friend or someone to talk to. The pattern is that she won't respond to me for a while, so I just stop trying, and then she will text me out of the blue and tell me that she is really busy and doesn't have a lot of time to talk but she hopes I am not mad, and that even if we aren't talking regularly, she never feels distant from me. It's great that she always feel close to me although we aren't speaking, but that still hurts me because I need someone to talk to. I have cried numerous times about this to my boyfriend and my mom and no one to come to a reason why she is being so un-supportive. When her and her boyfriend were dating, we would spend hours discussing the relationship and she has asked me how my boyfriend is about one time this entire semester. I know that she loves me and that we are still friends, but it just hurts to see that although she tells me she is really busy, she still has time to have a great time with her friends, and not reply to me. When I called her last, a few days ago, I told her that I called her to hear her voice on the answering machine and that I love her and miss her and need a friend. She didn't respond in any shape or form. The last time she texted me saying she still loves me although we don't talk, I told her that I am really happy she is in a good place, but that I have just needed her more than she needs me and need a friend. She didn't respond to that either. It just hurts when it is your friends time to reciprocate the support, and they can't. Should I just let it go? The more I think about it, the more annoyed I get. But I will see her in like a week when we get home, so I don't want to feel like I resent her when I come home. Should I tell her that she hurt my feelings? Or just let it go?
    2 answers · Friends · 6 years ago
  • How can I deal with a mean, disrespectful friend?

    So here's the story - We are both freshman in college and the semester is almost over. At the beginning of the semester I got a boyfriend. Fall semester me and this friend were basically attached at the hip. When I got a boyfriend (we are very much in love, he has never done anything seriously wrong), I had to work at balancing my time... show more
    So here's the story - We are both freshman in college and the semester is almost over. At the beginning of the semester I got a boyfriend. Fall semester me and this friend were basically attached at the hip. When I got a boyfriend (we are very much in love, he has never done anything seriously wrong), I had to work at balancing my time between her and him. I was totally willing to do that, no problem, because I wanted both of them in my life. Well, for some reason, my friend has slowly turned into a ***** about my boyfriend. It's gotten to the point where I feel like I can't even talk about him AT ALL around her because she is so negative about him. I feel like I can't relate to her anymore because she is still at the point in her life where she gets black out drunk most weekend, does drugs, and has a bunch of random sex. I don't usually do what she does on the weekends with her and she takes that as me being antisocial. When she gets drunk, she starts flirting with guys and hooking up with them, but if I run into my boyfriend at a party, that's a problem. It all started with some mean comments and nasty vibes about him, but now her actions are out of control. It's putting a strain on my relationship with my boyfriend because he is constantly feeling hated by my group of "friends" and I am always made to feel controlled and sad that they can't be decent about an important part of my life. I have always wanted a boyfriend like this, and have finally found someone who loves everything about me, and I am made to feel bad about it. They know he makes me happy, but they can't be happy for me. My boyfriend has really put in an effort to make them like him (picked up my friend from the airport when her grandpa died, bought her birthday gifts and a card, hangs out with her one and one to try and reconnect), but he keeps getting shat on. Saturday night was the worst. A carnival came to our school and my friend and I were hanging out with her new group of friends (and she puts in zero effort to make me feel included with these people I don't know, but whatever). They were all wasted except for me. We were in line to get on a ride and my boyfriend called me. I took the phone out of my pocket and my friend snatched it and SCREAMED at my boyfriend saying "YOU CAN'T COME OVER HERE! I AM GETTING ON THIS RIDE WITH HER AND NOT YOU AND THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT!" I was so speechless that I didn't say anything. Then everyone was in line for another ride, and my boyfriend leaned in to kiss me. My friend started screaming about how she hates PDA, and she grabbed our bodies and physically tried to separate us but I just kept hugging him back. Then she got mad that we weren't listening to her. My boyfriend said "I am in love with her and will kiss her if I want" and my friend gave me the nastiest look, stormed off, and whispered to our other friend and then they did a "pound it" motion. However, during this time, another boy and my friend were touching and she was running up drunkenly to random people and giving them hickies. I don't understand why she is allowed to touch others, but if my boyfriend even touches my back she freaks out. She does not think about my feelings at all and has a weird sense of entitlement where she thinks she can control things about our relationship. I like it when he calls me and when he kisses me. But she doesn't consider my feelings, and hurts them, and is rude, and makes a scene, and yells at him. This kind of thing has been going on for a while. One time I was at a party and she was there and my boyfriend texted me saying he missed me, and she took the phone when I wasn't looking and said "STOP SAYING YOU MISS HER, YOU WILL ******* MAKE IT THROUGH"... yes, in all caps. When I started getting the comments I told her I would like my relationship to be respected and she said she would work on it. That was months ago. It has only gotten worse. I have cried too much over this. If it's so easy for her to be rude and disrespectful to me and the person I love, then I don't think I can be friends with her anymore. I don't know why I waste my time trying to keep up a relationship with her and being supportive of all of her things with boys, if she just walks all over me. It's really discouraging that someone who called me their best friend started treating me so absurdly once I got a boyfriend. I would NEVER EVER grab her phone from her and scream at the boy she has a thing with, or make a scene if he kissed her. That's just not who I am and I am RESPECTFUL. Obviously there is a fundamental difference between us and I feel pretty hopeless about it. Sorry this is so long. What do you think?
    2 answers · Friends · 6 years ago
  • Why did Michelle Obama wear a head wrap to Indonesia?

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/11/10... I don't understand. If Bush was still president and he went to a mosque in Indonesia, I doubt Laura Bush would dress like a Muslim person. And then they don't want people to think they are Muslim.... tisk tisk.
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/11/10... I don't understand. If Bush was still president and he went to a mosque in Indonesia, I doubt Laura Bush would dress like a Muslim person. And then they don't want people to think they are Muslim.... tisk tisk.
    2 answers · Politics · 7 years ago