After four years of marriage, my wife and I have separated. For those four years, my wife was essentially my best friend. We met online and lived over three hours apart from one another. When we decided that we were going to remain together and ultimately get married, I moved away from everything I knew to be with her, leaving behind both my family and the friendships I had cultivated over the course of the previous 25 years.
Her family had regular weekend gatherings and, typically, after those were done, we were so tired that we didn't really have the energy to go out and do other things (which might result in us being social and meeting new friends). As a couple, we never really went out and did the sort of things that resulted in expanding our circle of friends and singly, I felt the need to spend as much of my free time as possible with her, so I never really had the opportunity to branch out and find new friends of my own.
My wife was the only friend I had and now she is gone (and likely not coming back) and I have to deal with that, but that's a question for another category. My problem now is trying to find and cultivate new friendships closer to home. Work is over an hour away from me (and moving closer to it isn't an option right now) and most of my co-workers are older, married women, so it would be difficult to find the sort of interactions there that would help break me out of my funk. I'm not really hip to the bar or club scene. When I get home, however, I feel so isolated and alone and I know that if I don't find some sort of social outlet soon, that I might very well go crazy (well, crazier, anyway).
Thanks in advance for any useful advice.