Hi, 24 year old male. I have been with my girfriend for close to two years now. About close to a year I had the same feelings toward my girlfriend as I do. I did not open up and isolated myself from my girlfriend. She realized something was amiss found out from her best friend. That just sent ripples and my girlfriend was distraught. Believed I was the one, do you not think I am beautiful, and so forth. I do not want to say I felt pity, because she is an amazing person. However, just seeing her so distraught I could not do that to her.
During that time I was dependent on my girlfriend and her family they would let me stay at their house in bad weather and when I finished long nights after work. Probably the best was open up a whole network of friends. Not saying I am not social just work, sports,school, and my volunteer service was and still my life. Just never spent free time outside of those networks. Feels great have connections of friends through my girlfriend.
That is whee this story goes. The only feelings I have to my girlfriend and staying with her is for that network of friends and not being alone. I am not sure if it is a phase. I just do not feel we are meant to be. I am outdoors person: Hiking, running, kayaking, tubing, gardening. Going for my second degree so can work in natural resource field. She enjoys TV, movies, studying, history, and being in the library. Very studious person.
I just feel no connection any more with her. I am lossed on what to do. Part of me feels there could be redemption in my feelings toward her. Part of wants to stay with her to keep those friends. Part of me wants to go because I cannot see where it is going.