• Who gets the house for this divorce?

    So, long story short, wife and I are about to divorce. I do not have an easy way to live somewhere, but my wife has her well-off parents with a room for her and storage for her things. I have friends whom I could stay with, but not for very long. We have lots of equity in our house, roughly 60k (got lucky with the market), and I would like to stay... show more
    So, long story short, wife and I are about to divorce. I do not have an easy way to live somewhere, but my wife has her well-off parents with a room for her and storage for her things. I have friends whom I could stay with, but not for very long. We have lots of equity in our house, roughly 60k (got lucky with the market), and I would like to stay in the house. My wife makes about 50 cents an hour more than I do for income. I have had the same car since before we met even, and she ruined her last car and decided to buy a new 25k car about 8 months ago. My fantastic credit got us 0% financing on her car, and she would like to keep her car. However, she is die hard for some reason, concerning the house. She feels like if she can't live there, I DEFINITELY cannot. She has never given me a good reason for this, and as far as I can tell, it is purely a "it's mine" childish attitude. The wife's car payment would be roughly $400/month whereas I would not have this payment. This factor alone is what would change everything in allowing me to actually be able to afford living in the house still. The extra income would allow me to pay for housing costs, food, gas, and more and have about 200-400 extra per month. My wife would only be able to have about $280/month for the same, with her car payment. She also may have to forfeit the car in order to survive financially, which would be an additional sum of money she'd owe on, and would have no way to get to work without assistance from someone (Not sure she could get that). At this point, I don't really care who gets the house, just so long as one of us does, and will be nice about letting the other person slowly move out. I would LOVE to stay in the house, and payout my wife's equity to stay, but as I stated before, she seems irrationally irate at the idea of me staying there. With the money she'd get from the buy-out, she'd have enough to pay off her car AND some. And she'd have tons of furniture for whenever she does move out, as I'd let her take a bunch of it for its fair price knocked off of what I'd owe her for her equity share. I guess what I'd like to know, is if anyone has any experience of a similar situation or any ideas on what will happen. I would like to think that I can keep the house, for the reasons I've listed, but I just don't know. I can't help but think a judge would laugh at her ridiculous reasoning as to why she doesn't want me to live there. But I also would think he'd tell us to sell the place. I don't want to do that, because refinancing it would save me TONS of money in insurance on the loan, and I may even be able to pull off a low APR and closing costs because of my credit and history with the bank. My wife has good credit, but not as good as mine. As a last note... I did not want the divorce. I have no real understanding as to why my wife wants it, and I have given up trying to talk with her about it. She said she wants her freedom, and is tired of having everyone need things from her, and just doesn't want to be married anymore. Thank god there's no kids!
    2 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 6 years ago
  • Does wearing socks around the house help contain athletes foot?

    wife and i are arguing about athletes foot. We just started treatment of it, and the treatment states to apply the cream to freshly cleaned and dry feet. Then to wear cotton socks that will absorb moisture or wear sandles (I'm assuming in general, to keep your feet as dry as you can). She says that I am spreading it all over the house by not... show more
    wife and i are arguing about athletes foot. We just started treatment of it, and the treatment states to apply the cream to freshly cleaned and dry feet. Then to wear cotton socks that will absorb moisture or wear sandles (I'm assuming in general, to keep your feet as dry as you can). She says that I am spreading it all over the house by not wearing socks. I am convinced that wearing socks is not going to change anything, and that it is already spread all over the house. so, does wearing socks around where we've already been walking for days with athletes foot, unaware that we had it (Apparently it was a mild case, with no itching or burning or redness), really change or help anything at all? It's quite dry in the house. I don't see how wearing socks could change anything, and I think she's just a little paranoid...
    4 answers · Skin Conditions · 7 years ago
  • Alone and Helpless to thwart off the beast...?

    I keep having this dream where I feel as though I’m alone in a mansion that is incredibly fancy, that is my home. There are tons of stairs, floors, and windows as well as very high ceilings. It’s very fancy, particularly, in that I tend to want keep things simple, and NOT fancy, in real life; so I assume that I am somehow richer than I have imagined... show more
    I keep having this dream where I feel as though I’m alone in a mansion that is incredibly fancy, that is my home. There are tons of stairs, floors, and windows as well as very high ceilings. It’s very fancy, particularly, in that I tend to want keep things simple, and NOT fancy, in real life; so I assume that I am somehow richer than I have imagined that I would ever be. Even though I feel alone, I know that I am sleeping next to my wife. I am awakened to some strange shuffling in the lower portions of the house, and decide to stealthily check out what the noise is, without waking my wife. As a background to this, I am heavily involved in Martial Arts, when not dreaming. I am very familiar with the common practices of Ninjitsu, Tae Kwon Do, and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. I always keep weapons near my bed “just in case”, and train very regularly. Upon waking to the noise, I am drawn downstairs, and around the house, only to find nothing. Assuming that the noise was nothing more than a pan or something in the sink that fell, I go to the kitchen and grab a glass of water. I slam the drink, as I always do for my midnight glass of water that I occasionaly get, and proceed back upstairs. I shut off all the lights, only guided to my room by the feint light of the moon, coming into the house from all of the windows. Upon making it back into my room, I notice that my wife is not there, and I am not bothered by this in any way for some reason. Immediately after I let out a sigh of relief to be back in bed, I am hit in the face, chest, and basically a large area of my body by some cold and fleshy abominations hand, in such a manner as to nearly flatten me into the bed. I immediately open my eyes and gasp in horror as there is an enormous beast made up of swirling black matter screaming at me so fiercely that the entire house is shaking and pictures are falling off the walls from the screaming. The thing is so big that it extends to the ceiling with ease, and is crouching, in order to fit in the room we’re in, low enough to attack me. I feel an utter helplessness overwhelm me as I tremble in fear, but continue trying to put the beasts arm, which is pinning me to the bed by the throat, in an arm-bar and break it. Everytime I attempt to use my legs to start the armbar, they simply go through it, and I become completely overwhelmed to the point of the worst, and purest form of a feeling of helplessness, in that I will soon be killed. Then I awake in real life, in a sweat… No clue what this dream means really. I more or less feel as though it is my minds interpretation as the feeling of helplessness, as a reminder to why I study Martial Arts so much. I find it funny that I never dream about REAL threats, like other people. I dream about horrible monsters and things...
    2 answers · Dream Interpretation · 8 years ago
  • What are some other songs like return to innocence by enigma?

    I recently started to really enjoy listening to the chanting in the song, and was wondering if anyone knows any other songs which are similar to it. I really would like to find some very spiritual chanting that is similar sounding to the two taiwanese people who sang the chanting in the song. The power of the chanting really helps me to relax and... show more
    I recently started to really enjoy listening to the chanting in the song, and was wondering if anyone knows any other songs which are similar to it. I really would like to find some very spiritual chanting that is similar sounding to the two taiwanese people who sang the chanting in the song. The power of the chanting really helps me to relax and feel at peace...
    Other - Music · 9 years ago
  • Whatever happened to "the customer is always right"? Is this situation as morally bad as I think it is?

    I have a small business on Ebay, which is very helpful for a little bit of extra cash for a little bit of work. So I know how Ebay works, and have had my fair share of disputes with buyers who never pay up, ad well as seller's who never send a product. However, I keep wondering how in the world Ebay is supposed to be okay with having people sell... show more
    I have a small business on Ebay, which is very helpful for a little bit of extra cash for a little bit of work. So I know how Ebay works, and have had my fair share of disputes with buyers who never pay up, ad well as seller's who never send a product. However, I keep wondering how in the world Ebay is supposed to be okay with having people sell stuff, when so many complaints about bad service are around. I happened to get screwed by a seller, who sent me the wrong size T-shirt, and I wound up sending it back, only to never receive another shirt at all. They claimed that I gave them the wrong address to ship back too. I never gave them any address at all. They were just supposed to use the address they sent it to the first time, since it obviously got here the first time!!! This BS situation aside, I find myself wondering how Ebay can be okay with stupid things like this. I think that a seller should have to register waaaay more about who is liable for their business on Ebay selling. I'm talking about Social Security Numbers, business sales tax, and business license numbers etc. All of those kinds of things should be used in order to create a more safe feeling for the buyer. You would be much less fearfull of buying stuff off of Ebay, if you knew that the seller was actually risking anything by selling to you. Feedback and ratings and what not can only tell someone so much about your businesses reputation. I couldn't even leave negative feedback for the business that I bought the shirt from! More than 45 days had passed, and I could not file a dispute with Ebay if the seller was working with me through email, in order to extend that timeframe. It doesn't matter that the seller was not telling me the truth, just that they were working with me. With so much BS going on, I think every buyer should at least be able to leave a rating, no matter how much time has passed by from the initial purchase date. Paypal was no help either, and they simply told me to talk with Ebay instead. Funny, cause Ebay told me to try taking up my problem with Paypal later too. I hate it when businesses do stuff like this, and no one cares. It seems to be the way a lot of businesses are acting now'a'days. Whatever happened to "the customer is always right"? Tell me your story... Have you been screwed on Ebay as well? lol...
    5 answers · Philosophy · 9 years ago
  • The U.S. direction... Where's it headed? This is more of a discussion than a question...?

    I'm no historian, but I consistently feel doubt towards the direction that the US is headed in. I can never come to any really convincing theories on the idea that we are actually headed towards a better US. The constant small reminders of Rome's, now old, tale of a great rise and fall, link in with my perception of today's America.... show more
    I'm no historian, but I consistently feel doubt towards the direction that the US is headed in. I can never come to any really convincing theories on the idea that we are actually headed towards a better US. The constant small reminders of Rome's, now old, tale of a great rise and fall, link in with my perception of today's America. Am I the only one who thinks this is happening? Well... I know I'm not. But does anyone have any thoughts regarding the matter, that have eased their mind? I know we have much to be happy for in this country. But there are days when I think we are headed to a real cluster-F*** of a problem. I understand we're in a recession now and things will get better, hopefully, before they get worse. I just want to keep the country in a constant state of balance is all... Perhaps there is no way to keep yin and yang at a constant balance? Or that there is always a large battle in the midst of all of the small battles we witness daily, just building up slowly without us knowing... Taking a different step now... I've been watching a lot of documentaries about random things in the past few months, and reading up on some peoples opinions on our country now'a'days. In particular, I find it saddening how many people feel that our country has become a giant "sissy". We have a bada$$ military and all, but how come people can sue one another, if they have the money... Isn't sueing someone supposed to be for when a "REAL" honest to god "injustice" has occured. Or is everyone so inclined to be greedy, that they will simply manipulate the idea behind the word injustice, so that it will fit their every need? Perhaps the real question here, is why is money such a powerful object? Real power comes from a mans body and mind, not from that which he created... Perhaps man's sight of material items possessing enough power to destroy certain things, but not all things, is a perversion of the mind? They don't think things through completely, and only see what is right in front of them? I don't know... Guess that's the idea of Greed... I watched a documentary about our national debt the other day, blew my mind. How come we haven't fixed this huge F***ing problem yet? The priorities of our country have drastically changed!!! I also watched a documentary about Wal-mart, I think it was called "Walmart - the high cost of low prices" or something. Made me sick... Are these the kinds of F***'s we breed in this country? People so concerned with material wealth that they are truly mind manipulated into believing that they are better than everyone else because of their birth right? Sounds like a Monarchy amidst our democracy somehow... Just another reminder that mind control comes in many shapes and forms I guess. Sometimes it comes from word of mouth about invisible all mighty beings in the sky, and sometimes it comes in the form of green colored paper... Weird... I can't even begin to see the tip of the iceburg with this subject I believe. I just want to hear some comments about what other people think... Agree... disagree... either way you've probably got a point...
    5 answers · Philosophy · 9 years ago
  • Need to replace the capacitors in my samsung LN 4061, which should I use for replacement?

    Came across a common problem with this, and several other, models of samsung tv's that have been released since 2006. Some of the capacitors on the power supply bulge or burst after about 1yr and 6mo to 2 yrs of use. The specs on the bulging capacitors are 2200uf 105c 10v. I have read on different forums that the bus needs at least 12v, and that... show more
    Came across a common problem with this, and several other, models of samsung tv's that have been released since 2006. Some of the capacitors on the power supply bulge or burst after about 1yr and 6mo to 2 yrs of use. The specs on the bulging capacitors are 2200uf 105c 10v. I have read on different forums that the bus needs at least 12v, and that people have had success using 16, 20, 25, and even higher v's for replacement, none of which you hear about anyone having any problems later on down the road or not. I've also heard that this is a risk to go to high in volts. After looking around, I noticed that only a few places carry capacitors near me. None of which had anywhere near the specs I needed, so online was my best bet. On mouser.com, the listing for 16v caps that meet the other specs is here: http://www.mouser.com/Search/Refine.aspx... Now my question is, which of these should I choose. There's so many, I think I'm in over my head here. If anyone can tell me if which one I pick really matters, that would be great. I've found videos on youtube about this whole problem, and how to fix it. But it seems to be a problem to try and figure out which capacitor to use. Should the capacitors actually be the exact same size as the one's on the board, or does the size not matter, just the specs? Any other info would be much obliged... Thanks in advance!
    4 answers · Other - Electronics · 9 years ago
  • Need to replace the capacitors on my flat screen samsung LN 4061, which do I use?

    Came across a common problem with this, and several other, models of samsung tv's that have been released since 2006. Some of the capacitors on the power supply bulge or burst after about 1yr and 6mo to 2 yrs. The specs on the bulging capacitors are 2200uf 105c 10v. I have read on different forums that the bus needs at least 12v, and that people... show more
    Came across a common problem with this, and several other, models of samsung tv's that have been released since 2006. Some of the capacitors on the power supply bulge or burst after about 1yr and 6mo to 2 yrs. The specs on the bulging capacitors are 2200uf 105c 10v. I have read on different forums that the bus needs at least 12v, and that people have had success using 16, 20, 25, and even higher v's for replacement, none of which you hear about anyone having any problems later on down the road or not. I've also heard that this is a risk to go to high in volts. After looking around, I noticed that only a few places carry capacitors near me. None of which had anywhere near the specs I needed, so online was my best bet. On mouser.com, the listing for 16v caps that meet the other specs is here: http://www.mouser.com/Search/Refine.aspx... Now my question is, which of these should I choose. There's so many, I think I'm in over my head here. If anyone can tell me if which one I pick really matters, that would be great. I've found videos on youtube about this whole problem, and how to fix it. But it seems to be a problem to try and figure out which to use. Should the capacitors actually be the exact same size as the one's on the board, or does the size not matter, just the specs? Any other info would be much obliged... Thanks in advance!
    3 answers · TVs · 9 years ago
  • Scandalous behavior at work, how do I expose it?

    I have a few reasons to suspect that my boss is using a pay raise that he gave me 3 years ago, and took away about 2 weeks ago, in order to be able to have a relationship with one of my coworkers. I just found out that he gave it to her today, and all the pieces fell together. All the reasons that he gave me for wanting to have me fired and take... show more
    I have a few reasons to suspect that my boss is using a pay raise that he gave me 3 years ago, and took away about 2 weeks ago, in order to be able to have a relationship with one of my coworkers. I just found out that he gave it to her today, and all the pieces fell together. All the reasons that he gave me for wanting to have me fired and take away my pay raise were stupid and trivial, at best, and I've been wondering why all of this happened so suddenly. I'll admit, the things I did weren't necessarily right, but my manager turned a blind eye to everything for 2 years now, and trusted that my supervisor would take care of things. My supervisor knows everything about my "wrong doings" like being late to work, and making it up on my own time, and I would never be able to rat him out on allowing me to do so. No one ever cared, nor said anything was wrong with it at all, as long as it was planned and fair to the company; until two weeks ago when it supposedly BLEW UP out of proportion. My theory now, is that my manager is creating everything he needs to get in the pants of one of our stunningly attractive coworkers. She just had a baby, has a dead beat husband, and never gets to know anyone very well around the office, which is very hard to do because we all know each other very well within about 3 months because our job makes us work so closely. I always tell people she's too good to be true, and I'm beginning to think I was right. She is very low on cash, and if you ever saw her husband, you'd wonder how in the world that guy pulled her. Lets just say, he is not the most studly of men... All this aside, does anyone know any good ideas on how to find out if I'm right or not? I can't go to HR, cause HR raises flags and then there would be no evidence, nor any job for me after wards. I really don't care if I keep my job or not, because I've been looking for a new one since two weeks ago when this all started, but I feel like I should at least try to expose this crap with evidence. It makes me sick to my stomach to think people would stoop this low, but I would be able to believe this kind of scandalous behavior was happening, far more than my boss suddenly changing his mind about my tardiness after 2 years of knowledge of it. I'm not even sure if it's worth my time to even bother with really... So far, I have a motive by word of mouth from the female, and a possible motive of a relationship with/for the boss. The manager is known to have had many problems in his current marriage, and has been seen with a few other women... going somewhere alone... during times when he was not sleeping at his own house with his wife because of arguments and marriage counseling taking place. The female coworkers motives would be: pressure to keep a job, since husband can't keep one, and desire for more pay. She seems to be unhappy with her marriage as well, but never wishes to discuss it, though we have all heard her random spoutings of her having big arguments with her husband several times. They both were, mysteriously, "out to lunch" for 4 hours a few days ago as well... Which is unheard of for any of the people we work with. Especially the group that she works with. Their groups supervisor was told to simply ignore that she was gone with the manager. The manager has been known to go to lunch for an hour and a half, but never much longer than that. Please tell me it doesn't at least look as suspicious as I think it is, and that I should at least try to find some kind of dirt on it all... Or is it just me?
    1 answer · Other - Business & Finance · 10 years ago
  • Scandalous behavior at work, how do I expose it?

    I have a few reasons to suspect that my boss is using a pay raise that he gave me 3 years ago, and took away about 2 weeks ago, in order to be able to have a relationship with one of my coworkers. I just found out that he gave it to her today, and all the pieces fell together. All the reasons that he gave me for wanting to have me fired and take... show more
    I have a few reasons to suspect that my boss is using a pay raise that he gave me 3 years ago, and took away about 2 weeks ago, in order to be able to have a relationship with one of my coworkers. I just found out that he gave it to her today, and all the pieces fell together. All the reasons that he gave me for wanting to have me fired and take away my pay raise were stupid and trivial, at best, and I've been wondering why all of this happened so suddenly. I'll admit, the things I did weren't necessarily right, but my manager turned a blind eye to everything for 2 years now, and trusted that my supervisor would take care of things. My supervisor knows everything about my "wrong doings" like being late to work, and making it up on my own time, and I would never be able to rat him out on allowing me to do so. No one ever cared, nor said anything was wrong with it at all, as long as it was planned and fair to the company; until two weeks ago when it supposedly BLEW UP out of proportion. My theory now, is that my manager is creating everything he needs to get in the pants of one of our stunningly attractive coworkers. She just had a baby, has a dead beat husband, and never gets to know anyone very well around the office, which is very hard to do because we all know each other very well within about 3 months because our job makes us work so closely. I always tell people she's too good to be true, and I'm beginning to think I was right. She is very low on cash, and if you ever saw her husband, you'd wonder how in the world that guy pulled her. Lets just say, he is not the most studly of men... All this aside, does anyone know any good ideas on how to find out if I'm right or not? I can't go to HR, cause HR raises flags and then there would be no evidence, nor any job for me after wards. I really don't care if I keep my job or not, because I've been looking for a new one since two weeks ago when this all started, but I feel like I should at least try to expose this crap with evidence. It makes me sick to my stomach to think people would stoop this low, but I would be able to believe this kind of scandalous behavior was happening, far more than my boss suddenly changing his mind about my tardiness after 2 years of knowledge of it. I'm not even sure if it's worth my time to even bother with really... So far, I have a motive by word of mouth from the female, and a possible motive of a relationship with/for the boss. The manager is known to have had many problems in his current marriage, and has been seen with a few other women... going somewhere alone... during times when he was not sleeping at his own house with his wife because of arguments and marriage counseling taking place. The female coworkers motives would be: pressure to keep a job, since husband can't keep one, and desire for more pay. She seems to be unhappy with her marriage as well, but never wishes to discuss it, though we have all heard her random spoutings of her having big arguments with her husband several times. They both were, mysteriously, "out to lunch" for 4 hours a few days ago as well... Which is unheard of for any of the people we work with. Especially the group that she works with. Their groups supervisor was told to simply ignore that she was gone with the manager. The manager has been known to go to lunch for an hour and a half, but never much longer than that. Please tell me it doesn't at least look as suspicious as I think it is, and that I should at least try to find some kind of dirt on it all... Or is it just me?
    3 answers · Philosophy · 10 years ago
  • Scandalous behavior at work, how do I expose it?

    I have a few reasons to suspect that my boss is using a pay raise that he gave me 3 years ago, and took away about 2 weeks ago, in order to be able to have a relationship with one of my coworkers. I just found out that he gave it to her today, and all the pieces fell together. All the reasons that he gave me for wanting to have me fired and take... show more
    I have a few reasons to suspect that my boss is using a pay raise that he gave me 3 years ago, and took away about 2 weeks ago, in order to be able to have a relationship with one of my coworkers. I just found out that he gave it to her today, and all the pieces fell together. All the reasons that he gave me for wanting to have me fired and take away my pay raise were stupid and trivial, at best, and I've been wondering why all of this happened so suddenly. I'll admit, the things I did weren't necessarily right, but my manager turned a blind eye to everything for 2 years now, and trusted that my supervisor would take care of things. My supervisor knows everything about my "wrong doings" like being late to work, and making it up on my own time, and I would never be able to rat him out on allowing me to do so. No one ever cared, nor said anything was wrong with it at all, as long as it was planned and fair to the company; until two weeks ago when it supposedly BLEW UP out of proportion. My theory now, is that my manager is creating everything he needs to get in the pants of one of our stunningly attractive coworkers. She just had a baby, has a dead beat husband, and never gets to know anyone very well around the office, which is very hard to do because we all know each other very well within about 3 months because our job makes us work so closely. I always tell people she's too good to be true, and I'm beginning to think I was right. She is very low on cash, and if you ever saw her husband, you'd wonder how in the world that guy pulled her. Lets just say, he is not the most studly of men... All this aside, does anyone know any good ideas on how to find out if I'm right or not? I can't go to HR, cause HR raises flags and then there would be no evidence, nor any job for me after wards. I really don't care if I keep my job or not, because I've been looking for a new one since two weeks ago when this all started, but I feel like I should at least try to expose this crap with evidence. It makes me sick to my stomach to think people would stoop this low, but I would be able to believe this kind of scandalous behavior was happening, far more than my boss suddenly changing his mind about my tardiness after 2 years of knowledge of it. I'm not even sure if it's worth my time to even bother with really... So far, I have a motive by word of mouth from the female, and a possible motive of a relationship with/for the boss. The manager is known to have had many problems in his current marriage, and has been seen with a few other women... going somewhere alone... during times when he was not sleeping at his own house with his wife because of arguments and marriage counseling taking place. The female coworkers motives would be: pressure to keep a job, since husband can't keep one, and desire for more pay. She seems to be unhappy with her marriage as well, but never wishes to discuss it, though we have all heard her random spoutings of her having big arguments with her husband several times. They both were, mysteriously, "out to lunch" for 4 hours a few days ago as well... Which is unheard of for any of the people we work with. Especially the group that she works with. Their groups supervisor was told to simply ignore that she was gone with the manager. The manager has been known to go to lunch for an hour and a half, but never much longer than that. Please tell me it doesn't at least look as suspicious as I think it is, and that I should at least try to find some kind of dirt on it all... Or is it just me?
    6 answers · Law & Legal · 10 years ago
  • To Quit, or not to quit my job... That is the question!?

    I recently almost got fired from my job. I had always asked my supervisor if "this and that" was okay to do, and he always said yes to my requests. Things like being a few minutes late, and making up the time by coming in earlier then recorded on my timesheets on later dates. We are frequently late for our shifts in the morning, because at... show more
    I recently almost got fired from my job. I had always asked my supervisor if "this and that" was okay to do, and he always said yes to my requests. Things like being a few minutes late, and making up the time by coming in earlier then recorded on my timesheets on later dates. We are frequently late for our shifts in the morning, because at 5am, most of us have a hard time getting up to make it on time. As well, we have about 3 hours of down time, where we literally just wait in case someone has questions in the morning about mail. It's hard for all of us to justify being there at 5am, when nothing ever happens until 8am, nor do we really get any benefits for being there that early. We tend to be incredibly hungry after about an hour of being there, and with no way to have a good breakfast in the morning, unless prepared the night before, we usually want to eat right away! So, we got in the habit of leaving one person at work to watch for customers, and doing a breakfast run. Recently, we discovered that the Manager was not okay with this, or our tardiness, and never spoke a word of anything, until he decided to write me and 3 other people up. He screwed me the most, out of the 4 of us by cutting my pay by $100 per paycheck, and removing my title. I have been looking for a good enough reason to leave, and this sure seems like one to me. I am not a bad employee at all. Their's a reason I had a title that he could remove! He never once mentioned anything about not liking something we did or didn't do, until he just blew up one day. I'm not sure what to do as of today. I was ready to walk out of the building on the day he decided to cut my pay. I was furious, and thought I was losing my yearly bonus as well. Turns out he left bonuses alone, but I cannot mess anything up for another 3 months while I'm on write-up or else I'm fired. And I'm pretty sure my title is gone for good either way... I've never been fired, and this whole situation feels hopeless to me. I'm worried that if I contact HR, and notify them, that they will wind up screwing over many other people I work with, and most likely fire my supervisor. So that is out of the question. I'm pretty sure I'm going to quit, regardless of what anyone on here says, but I just wanted to see what everyone thinks about this? Anyone been through similar problems? I feel as though I have been totally injusticed, and my manager is reacting to problems like a child. Blowing up whenever he feels like, and ruining people because of his own stupid behavior. It's his own F'in fault we have to be at work at 5am, he wasn't able to convince anyone that the 5am shift is completely useless, as it really is; and he never says a word to us about liking or disliking anything we do, until it's too late. He always used to tell me when I first started "no news is good news", so I always thought I was doing alright... If I leave, lots of people will be screwed out of many things; I take care of a lot of stuff. And while I know I'm not irreplacable, no one is really, I know I will totally screw up my managers plans by being gone. He will have to find and make, nearly everyone in our department, do the daily tasks I do. Most of the stuff I do, no one wanted to learn how to do in the first place; or it was something they needed someone they could trust to do these things. I've got a few job interviews, but nothing serious yet. I'm not in dire need of a job as much as some are, but with enough time, I could be in dire need of being employed again if I quit. What do you all think?
    6 answers · Philosophy · 10 years ago
  • My own path, or wait for time to pass...?

    I know this isn't really a philosophical question, but I think a philosophical mind might be able to inform me of a great "something" I had not thought of... I have become torn recently. I found out about a possible future in an online business, and love the prospect of it all. The people who showed me the ropes on how everything... show more
    I know this isn't really a philosophical question, but I think a philosophical mind might be able to inform me of a great "something" I had not thought of... I have become torn recently. I found out about a possible future in an online business, and love the prospect of it all. The people who showed me the ropes on how everything works, very good friends of mine, have made it cllear to me that I had a definite possiblity of doing this as my job, and enjoying it. It's even gotten to the point where I'm very confident that I could do this whole business myself, and start off on my own. But there-in lies the problem. They are waiting for the money to become great enough to where they can buy a location for keeping the inventory at, and not making enough so that I can help. All money they make, is going right back into the business, to buy more inventory. That means that I could be waiting for quite awhile, before I ever get hired and start to work there. There's also no guarantee as to when I would ever get hired, or if... Here's route A, and route B... Route A: I go my own way, start my own business online. -I don't have to rely on anyone else but myself -I get to start out doing everything right away. no waiting... -I plan my own schedule, and work at my own pace Route B: I wait until my friends who showed me how to do everything, start making enough to actually be able to pay me. -I don't have the headache of running my own business, just working and getting paid. -I get to work with my friends every day (We do work well together. I worked with them for free for about a month, while learning, and everything was fun and great) -I have first dibbs at becoming a second in command staple in an up and rising company. I am lost as to which direction to go... If anyone has any suggestions, please let me here them! What would you do?
    2 answers · Philosophy · 10 years ago
  • My own path, or wait for the time to pass...?

    I have become torn recently. I found out about a possible future in an online business, and love the prospect of it all. The people who showed me the ropes on how everything works, very good friends of mine, have made it cllear to me that I had a definite possiblity of doing this as my job, and enjoying it. It's even gotten to the point where... show more
    I have become torn recently. I found out about a possible future in an online business, and love the prospect of it all. The people who showed me the ropes on how everything works, very good friends of mine, have made it cllear to me that I had a definite possiblity of doing this as my job, and enjoying it. It's even gotten to the point where I'm very confident that I could do this whole business myself, and start off on my own. But there-in lies the problem. They are waiting for the money to become great enough to where they can buy a location for keeping the inventory at, and not making enough so that I can help. All money they make, is going right back into the business, to buy more inventory. That means that I could be waiting for quite awhile, before I ever get hired and start to work there. There's also no guarantee as to when I would ever get hired, or if... Here's route A, and route B... Route A: I go my own way, start my own business online. -I don't have to rely on anyone else but myself -I get to start out doing everything right away. no waiting... -I plan my own schedule, and work at my own pace Route B: I wait until my friends who showed me how to do everything, start making enough to actually be able to pay me. -I don't have the headache of running my own business, just working and getting paid. -I get to work with my friends every day (We do work well together. I worked with them for free for about a month, while learning, and everything was fun and great) -I have first dibbs at becoming a second in command staple in an up and rising company. I am lost as to which direction to go... If anyone has any suggestions, please let me here them! What would you do?
    2 answers · Small Business · 10 years ago
  • Do I have bed bugs in my room?

    My wife recently had a run in with little red bumps on her, after sleeping on our bed. I was there too, but I didn't have any. Occasionally, I get red bumps on me as well. They almost seem random, and I figured they were spider bites, acne, or something else. I've seen spiders crawl up the wall next to our bed, and jump onto it. Fairly... show more
    My wife recently had a run in with little red bumps on her, after sleeping on our bed. I was there too, but I didn't have any. Occasionally, I get red bumps on me as well. They almost seem random, and I figured they were spider bites, acne, or something else. I've seen spiders crawl up the wall next to our bed, and jump onto it. Fairly creepy... I have been researching the tell tale signs of figuring out whether or not you have bed bugs, only to find nothing to match the signs. I basically have no evidence of them being on my bed anywhere at all. No left over blood residue or Fecal matter on any of parts of the top mattress, and the outer portions of the bottom mattress. The wife went to the doctor today, and they said it was something else (the name escapes me at the moment. Some form of chicken pox, I think it may have been scathies?). This is driving me batty, because I will have a hell of a time moving things around in my little room right now, to deal with this; if it is bed bugs. Our room isn't the cleanest, but we do try and wash the bed sheets regularly, and keep everything washed thoroughly. Vacuuming is near impossible, such little amount of space is around. But we could probably do more of that. So, should I start delving deeper, and see if it is bed bugs, ripping everything in my room to pieces? Or should I wait it out awhile, and see if I find a huge indicator of them?
    4 answers · Other - Home & Garden · 10 years ago
  • Do i have bed bugs in my room?

    My wife recently had a run in with little red bumps on her, after sleeping on our bed. I was there too, but I didn't have any. Occasionally, I get red bumps on me as well. They almost seem random, and I figured they were spider bites, acne, or something else. I've seen spiders crawl up the wall next to our bed, and jump onto it. Fairly... show more
    My wife recently had a run in with little red bumps on her, after sleeping on our bed. I was there too, but I didn't have any. Occasionally, I get red bumps on me as well. They almost seem random, and I figured they were spider bites, acne, or something else. I've seen spiders crawl up the wall next to our bed, and jump onto it. Fairly creepy... I have been researching the tell tale signs of figuring out whether or not you have bed bugs, only to find nothing to match the signs. I basically have no evidence of them being on my bed anywhere at all. No left over blood residue or Fecal matter on any of parts of the top mattress, and the outer portions of the bottom mattress. The wife went to the doctor today, and they said it was something else (the name escapes me at the moment. Some form of chicken pox, I think it may have been scathies?). This is driving me batty, because I will have a hell of a time moving things around in my little room right now, to deal with this; if it is bed bugs. Our room isn't the cleanest, but we do try and wash the bed sheets regularly, and keep everything washed thoroughly. Vacuuming is near impossible, such little amount of space is around. But we could probably do more of that. So, should I start delving deeper, and see if it is bed bugs, ripping everything in my room to pieces? Or should I wait it out awhile, and see if I find a huge indicator of them?
    2 answers · Other - Health · 10 years ago
  • The marriage proposal idea... what do you think?

    So, I'm a Martial Artist, and I have a lady whom I will be proposing too, finally, after 3 years of knowing... She has, jokingly, said before; she demands that I do all sorts of kicks, and flips, and rolls; landing in front of her, with hand out and ring in hand, as my proposal necessities. I laugh, she laughs... But I have gotten to the... show more
    So, I'm a Martial Artist, and I have a lady whom I will be proposing too, finally, after 3 years of knowing... She has, jokingly, said before; she demands that I do all sorts of kicks, and flips, and rolls; landing in front of her, with hand out and ring in hand, as my proposal necessities. I laugh, she laughs... But I have gotten to the point, where I think I might actually try to do that. Only problem is, I've got nowhere that I could do that in person with her there, without it being very suspicious... My plan is to have gloves, my gi (the martial arts uniform), and foot guards on; and perform my own, personally created, form. The gloves will have something on them that says "The slayers" and the foot guards will have "The breakers" on them. My goal is to use my feet to take out two people wearing shirts that say "Boundaries" and "Barriers", using "The Breakers". And the last opponent will be wearing a shirt that says "Heart", and I have to use my "Slayers" to attack him. All the while, wearing my gi that says "Love" on it. So I will be using our Love to break boundaries and barriers, in order to slay her heart... Cheesy!!! I planned to get all of this on video, then play it while we're over at a friends house, with lots of people around. Then, the last movement of the form is a forward roll onto one knee. Then I will say "Now that I have used our love to break down the boundaries and barriers of life, and slayed your heart, will you marry me?" I also plan on having the video highlight old movies of us together, and pictures, playing to "our" song before the form is shown. Anyone have any other suggestions? Sound good?
    8 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 10 years ago
  • All these people are panzies?

    After reading and answering several hundred questions in the family and relationships section, I have come to a conclusion... Most of these people, who have HUGE problems (Divorce, cheating, etc.), that ask a question about this problem, on this particular area of the forum, are panzies. I don't know that for certain, but I always get the... show more
    After reading and answering several hundred questions in the family and relationships section, I have come to a conclusion... Most of these people, who have HUGE problems (Divorce, cheating, etc.), that ask a question about this problem, on this particular area of the forum, are panzies. I don't know that for certain, but I always get the vibe that they are the people who have no self reliance or confidence, a high amount of self doubt/ low self worth, and many other issues from a lack of strength, will, or something esle, to handle these issues. They are not strong hearted people, by nearly any standards... Anyone else get that vibe a lot too?
    15 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 10 years ago
  • Religious zealots get done away with...?

    I have a hard time dealing with the idea that people still refuse to "not believe" in God, for whatever reason. How is it, that we will ever be rid of the curse, that is religious zealots? I don't mind the people that take only the positive that religion has to offer, and don't cause a stir to people who don't follow their... show more
    I have a hard time dealing with the idea that people still refuse to "not believe" in God, for whatever reason. How is it, that we will ever be rid of the curse, that is religious zealots? I don't mind the people that take only the positive that religion has to offer, and don't cause a stir to people who don't follow their religion. I'm talking about the people who insist on being that person who tells you all the details about what you're doing wrong, according to their god... When will this $hit storm be over? Will it ever go away? What does everyone think? I get really tired of bashing those people down, back into their place. They have no right in telling anyone that "according to God", based on the book they read, "you are not doing this or that correctly". I guess I'll just stop answering those questions, but they've become easier to answer to me. Gotten lots of practice I guess...
    7 answers · Philosophy · 10 years ago
  • Love and Happiness... Seperate?

    Is it possible to declare that love and happiness are seperate? Some would say, it takes happiness to have love; and some might say it takes love to make happiness? So which is it? Did the chicken of happiness come first? Or the egg of love?
    Is it possible to declare that love and happiness are seperate? Some would say, it takes happiness to have love; and some might say it takes love to make happiness? So which is it? Did the chicken of happiness come first? Or the egg of love?
    8 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago