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  • Where do I go for anxiety?

    Do I just go to my normal doctor that I'd got to for like diseases and stuff? Will he be able to give me something that day to help or would I have to wait a while because I'm hoping for quick help?

    2 AnswersMental Health8 years ago
  • How do I tell my parents that I may have an anxiety disorder?

    It runs in my family but neither of my parents have one but some of my aunts and cousins do. I'm not as bad as any of them but I don't want to let it wait and become really bad. But my parents are kind of judgmental about that stuff and I don't think they'd understand. They kind of make fun of all of the other people and I don't want to seem as messed up as them. How should I tell them without it being awkward and making it seem like I've got a ton of other problems and stuff?

    3 AnswersMental Health8 years ago
  • How to tell my parents about my anxiety?

    We aren't very open about things in my family and they're kind of judgmental but I need to tell them if I'm going to get help. How do I do it without making it awkward or seem like I'm really messed up?

    3 AnswersMental Health8 years ago
  • Do I have an anxiety problem?

    I feel sick all the time. Probably around 90% of the time. Even everyday things make me so nervous like school and stuff. I usually just don't eat before and sometimes have to make myself throw up so it won't be a problem later. I don't know what to do. Do I tell my parents and try to get help? Anxiety runs in my family a lot but my parents are pretty judgemental of the other people.

    2 AnswersOther - Health8 years ago
  • How do you meet straight acting gay guys?

    Not necessarily big masculine guys just guys who aren't walking around with purses and make up. It seems like the only out gay guys in my school are queens and I'm just not attracted to them. There's got to be at least one normal gay guy in my school or around where I live I just don't know how to find them. How do other guys meet guys that aren't obviously gay? How do you meet guys that might still be in the closet?

  • Should I ask this guy out?

    I'm thinking about asking this guy to go to the movies with me so we can get to know each other better but I don't know if I should. I know he likes me but it's always so awkward with him. That's kind of my motivation for trying to spend more time with him though. My two friends would probably come too but they'd give us privacy and he knows both of them better than he knows me anyway. Another thing is that I'm more of the submissive one I think. I'm a lot more shy than he is and I don't know if there's any rule that says the dominant one is supposed to ask the submissive one out. I don't want to seem to forceful and scare him away. If he wants to be the dominant one he can go for it he's just taking a lot of time to do anything. So should I do it? Or would it be a bad idea? And how should I do it? Thank you in advance.

  • How can I get more comfortable talking to this guy?

    We both like each other but we're both really shy. We usually hug each other as a greeting then make a few small comments and then stand there in silence for a while until I usually say bye and go off somewhere else. It's really awkward. I think we're both scared that we'll say something that will turn the other person off. And he's worse with conversations than I am. And that's definitely saying something. I'll ask questions and he'll give me short answers that I can't really build on and won't ask anything in return so I don't want to say anything back and seem too eager to talk. We both seem to be really talkative when we are comfortable with people we just don't know each other enough yet to know what's okay to say and what isn't. How can I become comfortable enough with him to talk? How can I make him more comfortable with me?

  • Is it normal for a gay guy to like a girl?

    I'm 16 and I have no physical attraction to girls. But my best friend is so special. I want to be with her. Not sexually of course but I feel like I could be with her. She's everything anybody could ever want but nobody treats her like they should. She was texting me today about how she can't find anybody who will treat her right and I just wanted to say "what about me! I've been here all along and I love you so much!" But I couldn't. It'd be to confusing to everybody. I told her that I could be straight for her but she hasn't been very serious about it which is understandable. I don't know how I could seriously admit to her that I do want to be with her. And it'd be so hard! There would be like no sex unless she wanted it and then I would do...that with her. But we're both so sexually driven the idea of a non sexual relationship seems weird. It seems like it would make so many problems. How would I explain this to everybody? Especially my parents. And how would I even be able to tell her? And do I even want this? How could I want this? This goes against everything I've ever known about my own sexuality and ability to have romantic connections. What should I do? Keep it to myself? Tell her? Should we try this if she even wants to?

  • Why aren't I ever attracted to other gay guys?

    I've only liked one bi guy for his looks. I've liked people before but only for their personality and it might seem weird but now I want somebody that I can like for their appearance. I know it's a good thing to not be shallow and to like somebody for their personality but it's boring to have to do that all the time. I want somebody that I can touch and be happy to touch. But I'm only ever really attracted to straight guys and the only gay guys at my school are super flamboyant which isn't attractive at all. I'm out of the closet and everything since 8th grade and I'm in 10th now so I thought I would have met at least one good looking gay guy by now. How do you meet good looking gay guys? And how do I stop being so attracted to straight guys?

  • I don't fit in anywhere?

    I'm 16 and gay. Most people in my school only see me as an accessory, tool, or monster. Girls like to show me around as their gay best friend which I hate. It isn't real friendship hell they probably would hate me if I wasn't gay. Straight guys only want to be friends with me to get with the girls I talk to. And religious people act like I'm a monster and need to be avoided. I have three real friends but even among them I'm the misfit of the group. They're all girls and are much closer with each other than with me. And I've never been good at anything so I can't find any group to fit in with. I'm not nice enough to fit in with super nice people, mean enough to fit in with super mean people, I'm not good at sports, and I don't have any great musical talents or academic interests. I just feel so out of place no matter where I go. I've never been anybody's number one and nobody's ever had a crush on me. Everybody knows me because I'm the only gay guy at school that isn't really creepy but that isn't exactly the greatest thing to be known for. Even my parents have two other kids and they probably like them better anyway. They're normal. They can have kids and fit in with our normal Christian family. But then there's me. Who doesn't fit in anywhere. It feels like I'm some deformed puzzle piece and no matter how hard I try to fit in there's just no room for me anywhere. I don't know what to do. I want to belong somewhere. I want at least one person to chose me over everybody else. Is there something wrong with that? Why can't there just be one person that would want me as much as I want them? Does everybody go through this? Is it just a part of being a gay teen in a small town?

  • How should I prepare for this situation (gay)?

    Okay so this guy from my school texted me and said he knows a closeted bi guy that wants to hook up with me. He told me that I couldn't tell anybody but I should meet him in the bathroom at school. I'm okay with all of that I'm interested in who it is and it would t be the first secret I've kept. Then he asked if I was ok with making out. Usually I am but I still don't know who this is. I'm really nervous. What should I do? Do I just show up? What are we supposed to talk about? It's a bit awkward even though I must already know him to some degree if he likes me. And I'm a little worried about making out because I've only ever done it with one other guy before who I had been in a relationship with and he told me I wasn't good at it yet (inexperience I guess). I've never been in this situation before. What am I supposed to do and wear and say?

  • How do you think I should end things for this character?

    The novel is about a group of immortals going to war with each other to try and either save or destroy humanity to bring back their old homes and loved ones. This character is on the side that is opposed to bringing back the old world (protagonists). He is gay by the way. There are two different ending for him that I've thought of and I'm looking for feedback on which one people like best.

    Option 1: He discovers that his old lover who he thought was killed is actually alive but is being controlled by the demonic god that they once worshiped. He destroys the god and after the war they settle down and begin attempting to have a peaceful life together until the day that they will both embrace death together.

    Option 2: His old lover really is dead but he falls in love with the main protagonist who is a straight male. During the final battle of the war he gets injured and fearing the worst confesses his love to the main character who doesn't feel the same but still admits to caring about him. He still survives and stays with the main protagonist but is left alone and feels as if he has lived longer than his gods wanted him too.

    I plan on writing a sequel because the first book doesn't cover everything I want to and there are things that I want to do with the characters that would make one book seem cluttered. So I want to choose an end for him soon so I can start making a more complex plot for the second book. If he gets to be with his old lover he'll be happier to an extent and a lot of his story will be about protecting what little happiness he still has in the next book but if he doesn't he'll be darker and more ruthless. Which one do you think is better? And please don't just tell me how the plot sounds boring or stupid or it doesn't make sense because this is just about one character so I didn't go into great detail with what's going on. Thank you for any answers though!

    3 AnswersBooks & Authors8 years ago
  • What does it mean if you dream of yourself with a different parent?

    When I was really young (I'd say 3-7) I would have dreams that my mom wasn't my mom. There was another woman who was my mom. She didn't act weird and they weren't weird dreams it would just be like she was taking me to McDonalds or something. And it was always the same woman and it was never my real mom. And nobody in any of the dreams said anything about her not being my real mom. They stopped after a while but is that weird? My mom has never been mean or abusive so why would I as a little kid dream that I had a different mom?

    1 AnswerDream Interpretation8 years ago
  • Two guys like me but I don't know what to do?

    I like them both. Me and guy A have known each other for the majority of our lives and have been talking for a year about going out. He's amazing and nice and I can be weird and fun with him but I'm not very attracted to him. I never get erections from him. Mostly because he's black and I'm not racist I'm just not very attracted to black people like that. He definitely isn't ugly though. But now guy B has come in and I like him more sexually but I don't know him as well. I'm more awkward with him but I assume it'll pass. I've kissed them both but I enjoyed it more with guy B. and he compliments me more and seems to be chasing after me more which has never happened before. Guy A is clearly upset about this and has been trying harder too. Everybody already kind of sees me and guy A as a couple and expects us to fall in love and get married one day. But then there's the problem that my parents don't want me with any black people...huge problem. I'm really confused. And I don't want to hurt anybody especially guy A. He told my best friend the other day that he has strong feelings for me and it's kind of making me feel bad that I'm even thinking about this other guy. And I do care a lot about guy A but for a long time he's been the only option so now with someone I'm more attracted to (and honestly a lot more in common) I'm kind of confused about who I like. Can someone help me? How can I figure out who to try to be with?

  • How do I stop eating meat?

    I don't eat meat like all the time but I do enjoy it. I want to become a vegetarian for moral reasons (killing anything that's alive seems wrong to me) but I don't know how long I could go without eating things that I like. For example I really like this duck that they have at this Chinese place near my house but I couldn't eat it if I become a vegetarian. How can I make myself stop wanting these things? And what are some websites with good vegetarian recipes? Thank you for answering!

    8 AnswersVegetarian & Vegan8 years ago
  • What places hire 16 year olds?

    I just turned 16 today and I kind of want a job but I don't know where to go. My mom can easily get me in at McDonald's because she's the district manager but that's kind of a problem...I don't want my mom watching over me the whole time. And that's the only fast food place close to my house. I was thinking of trying a clothing store or something like that (maybe at the mall or something?) but I don't know if any of them would hire me. And there is a dairy queen where I live but I never see anybody my age in there so I don't know. What kind of places should I try to apply to?

    3 AnswersAdolescent8 years ago
  • Why do I always feel sick ?

    I always feel like I'm going to throw up! Mostly when there is a lot of people around or when I'm thinking about a situation in which I'll have to be around a lot of people soon. My friend is having a birthday party soon and just thinking about being around just her and a bunch of her friends (I'm not close to any of them) makes me feel like I'm going to throw up. And I usually feel really sick after eating no matter where I am. I also feel sick just at home for no reason some times. It has been like this ever since I was little and I can't stand it! I have like no social life outside of school because of it. Nobody knows because I don't tell anybody (it's embarrassing). Also when I feel sick it makes my throat do this weird growling noise a lot and I have no idea what that is. What could this be? Is it just social anxiety? How could I fix that? Am I allergic to something I eat a lot or something?

    1 AnswerPsychology8 years ago
  • My hedgehogs ear looks like he hurt it but i don't know what to do?

    It has like little notches taken out of the top of it. I don't know what he could have done to it because all he really does is sleep when he's in his cage amd occasionally runs on his wheel and when I take him out I always watch him the whole time so he doesn't get hurt. They aren't big holes or anything you have to look really close to see them but they are there. Is this something really bad? He doesn't act like it bothers him when I touch it. Can I take him to a normal vet or am I supposed to take him to some kind of special vet because hedgehogs aren't a very common animal? Thank you for answering!

    1 AnswerOther - Pets8 years ago
  • How can I get this guys attention?

    I really really like this guy! He went out with my best friend but she's okay with me trying to get with him. He's bi...well at least I think he is. He's gone out with at least one guy before and he had interested in men and.women on his facebook for a long time then took it off then put it back on but now it just says interested in women. He also works with my sister but they never talk so I don't think that will help me much. He is a senior this year and I'll be a sophomore so we won't have any classes together. We've never really had a conversation before but I say hi to him every time I see him and one time I was just like **** it and told him I think he's hot but I'm usually not that brave. I get really nervous around him so I usually don't talk because I'll say something stupid. I've liked him for a while so when I found out a couple of months ago that he is open to dating guys I made it like my mission to get noticed but it hasn't really worked. How can I get him interested in me? Or at least get him to talk to me? Thank you for any help!

  • Why did humans evolve to have two separate genders?

    Why did most animals? Why wouldn't we evolve to just have one gender that is capable of producing milk and caring for children? Then we could reproduce asexually or maybe we could mate with anyone which would have made it much easier for us to reproduce. I'm just curious as to why this didn't happen and why we have two separate genders.

    10 AnswersBiology8 years ago