I seem to be related to my share of people who like to make trouble where there isn't any.
Here is a good example. My cousin decided to divorce her abusive husband, they had a 2 yr old child, and things were going as smoothly as possible. Our Aunt, who hadn't even spoken to my cousin in months, decided for (unknown reasons) to call the Soon-To-Be-Ex-husband and tell him that my cousin was planning on moving out of state, and was going to hide their child. This was completely false. My cousin was perfectly happy where she was and had just acquired a really nice house! She went on to tell him not return the child after his visit, and not let the mother see the child again until the court ordered it.
As you can probably tell, this caused a lot of problems. The Husband did in fact take the child, and the mother did not get to see her daughter for over a month. My cousin ended up spending so much in legal fees, and got pretty worked over in the divorce. She ended up loosing everything including her new home. The child unfortunately experienced a lot of setbacks like reversed speech, potty training, and so on. Which for some reason, my meddling family members are blaming on the mother.
This poor girl continued to get abused from this man even after the divorce was final, and in fact was put into the hospital with her child, and mother (grandmother) during a child exchange. But yet, the family members still are causing problems for her.
IS THERE SOME SORT OF MENTAL DISORDER IN MY FAMILY??
Not only does our Aunt do things like this, our cousins fallow suit, and even her own mother, father, and our grandmother get in on the action sometimes. What is wrong here? I have known my cousin all my life, and she is one of the sweetest people I have ever known. She is a good mother, but with all this constantly going on, she often asks me if there is something wrong with her, and why this seems to always happen. What can I say?
This also seems to be something my family is not going to stop anytime soon either. Sometime after her divorce she found a new man... a really nice one, and when she brought him home to meet the family, I personally saw people talking to him one on one, telling him all kinds of horrible and totally untrue things about my cousin! Our own grandmother even told him that she was lying about having Lupis! (I was with her for more than one diagnosis, so I know in fact she does have it!) Her own father even said, 'I'm sure you have better options'!!! And it just went on and on. So, again, they were really trying to sabotage her, and I CAN'T UNDERSTAND WHY!!!!
So basically, I am asking if this is an actual disorder. I really would like to think they are doing these things because they can not help it, but in all honesty, I do not really know if that makes it any better, or not.
Thanks in advance.