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  • How do I respond to this?

    Used to have a friend who would text me explaining how she’d want to kill herself. I always felt like I had to talk her off the ledge, and it was exhausting. I’m trying to figure out what a person is supposed to do in that situation. Your friend texts you about wanting to cut herself, but this is a common occurrence and you don’t believe her. Of course you’re still concerned for her but it’s taking a toll on you. How do you deal with this? How are you supposed to give your opinion when its not asked for?

    2 AnswersFriends2 months ago
  • How do I respond to this?

    Used to have a friend who would text me explaining how she’d want to kill herself. I always felt like I had to talk her off the ledge, and it was exhausting. I’m trying to figure out what a person is supposed to do in that situation. Your friend texts you about wanting to cut herself, but this is a common occurrence and you don’t believe her. Of course you’re still concerned for her but it’s taking a toll on you. How do you deal with this? How are you supposed to give your opinion when its not asked for?

    1 AnswerFriends2 months ago
  • I want her back but I don’t?

    I broke up with my best friend about 2 years ago. She was going through some family stuff and I didn’t know how to handle being there for her. I never had a real best friend before and I really ruined it. These past two years I’ve really closed up. I’ve really put myself in dark place. I see her on social media and want desperately to see how she’s doing, but she never posts. I want to talk to her and see her but at the same time I want to run away. It’s driving me crazy, I don’t know what to do. I just need someone to tell me to forget her.

    2 AnswersFriends2 months ago
  • I’m not allowed to be happy?

    I feel like I’m not allowed or not suppose to be happy. I can have a great day and be happy for a moment but something inside makes me feel uncomfortable and the only way to feel better is to just shut down and not feel anything. What’s wrong with me

    4 AnswersPsychology5 months ago
  • I just gave my cat away, Will she be ok?

    I’ve had this cat since she was a kitten (5yrs) and she’s had problems from the get go. But more recently she’s been peeing and destroying clothes bags blankets beds you name it. We’ve taken her to a vet and nothing was wrong so it’s a behavioral problem. We added a new litter box and she kept going out of her way to pee on things. She doesn’t like other animals and we already have two dogs so We assumed it may have been caused by them. And It doesn’t help that my family got a new puppy recently. but she had been doing the same things before puppy. We have spent hundreds if not thousands on this cat, I’ve done everything I can. This morning we sold her to a new family with no pets and I need someone to tell me that she’s gonna be happier with someone else.

    4 AnswersCats6 months ago
  • What should I do with my cat?

    I’ve had this cat since she was a kitten, 

    and she has never been abused or mistreated a day in her life. She has had a peeing problem for years but it has gotten significantly worse in the past year and my parents are sick of it. She pees on carpets, blankets, pillows, clothes, chairs, beds EVERYTHING. I’ve done everything I can think of to help her, I’ve read that most times it’s the owners fault. We’ve taken her to the vet and have had some teeth removed, but other than that she’s fine. She has two clean litter boxes, and we buy food prescribed by her vet (which is not cheap), I brush her teeth, I brush her, she has toys to play with, spots to hide in, a soft bed to sleep in. I even tried diapers at night while I’m not watching her, but it just makes a mess. I’ve given her everything and nothing works. My parents are ready to give her up and I’m tired too, but I feel sick to think someone else won’t tolerate her either. What would you do?

    3 AnswersCats7 months ago
  • What do I do about my cat?

    I’ve had this cat for 5 years, and she has never been abused or mistreated a day in her life. She has had a peeing problem for years and my parents are getting sick of it. She pees on carpets, blankets, pillows, clothes, chairs, beds EVERYTHING. I’ve done everything I can think of to help her, I’ve read that most times it’s the owners fault. We’ve taken her to the vet and have had some teeth removed, but other than that she’s fine. She has two clean litter boxes, and we buy food prescribed by her vet (which is not cheap), I brush her teeth, I brush her, she has toys to play with, spots to hide in, a soft bed to sleep in. I even tried diapers at night while I’m not watching her, but it just makes a mess. I’ve given her everything and nothing works. My parents are ready to give her up but I feel sick to think someone else won’t tolerate her either. What do I do?

    1 AnswerCats7 months ago
  • What are the pros/cons of getting a sphinx cat?

    I’ve only had tabby cats growing up, and I didn’t really mind the fur, but I’ve been looking into getting a sphinx cat. What are the pros/cons of getting one compared to a regular tabby cat?

    1 AnswerCats7 months ago
  • I can’t tell if I’m ok?

    It’s difficult to describe how I feel, it’s more of a bundle of emotions that just weigh me down. I can’t exactly pin point any one emotion, or event that causes this feeling, but I think it’s somewhere around the word “sad”. Sometimes it’s really bad and I feel like there’s a hole in my chest and I’m caving in, and other times it’s just a slight numbness, but I don’t think it goes away. Ive heard to “fake it” as in fake being happy, but even attempting a smile or a optimistic thought puts me on the verge of tears. I don’t know if this is fine, that people just are this way, that they live with this constant ache that just varies in degrees, or if there’s something wrong with me. It doesn’t seem intense enough to call it depression but it’s still not a good feeling.

    3 AnswersPsychology7 months ago
  • I can’t finish my drawings anymore?

    ive taken a high school art class for 4 years and it has given me more anxiety and stress than I can handle. I thought It was good that I was forced to make art I didn’t like. I thought this is how people get good. I thought that forcing myself through this I would come out better, and to some extent, I did. But slowly I began to hate drawing for myself, it was frustrating that I couldn’t think creatively or make anything for fun. I tried to look at my past work and I admired how effortlessly I used to draw. Now when I try to draw I’ll start with something simple, something easy to relieve some of the pressure, but I never finish it. I get irritated and annoyed it’s not looking how I want it or how it’s taking too long. Especially digital art, I have dozens of unfinished ideas that just leave me defeated. I don’t know want to do.

    1 AnswerDrawing & Illustration8 months ago
  • How to mentally prepare for college?

    I’m graduating this year, and I plan on going to college after, but I’m not sure I’m ready. Growing up college was never an option, my dad made that very clear. But this past year, he’s changed his mind, saying It would be a good experience. This was a complete shock and I think he expected me and my brothers to be excited? But I just feel numb to it. I feel like I’ve forced myself to block out expectations so I wouldn’t disappoint myself. But now it’s an option and I just feel anxious, I don’t want to live with a stranger (roommate), I’ve had a pretty crappy high school experience and I don’t want to live through that again, I want to be happy but I feel like everything is so disappointing. All my friends are excited, why can’t I? How can I? What’s wrong with me?

    5 AnswersHigher Education (University +)9 months ago
  • My brother is getting my dream dog, what to do?

    I've wanted a Samoyed dog for years, and I had planned to get one once I could rent an apartment on my own. I'm graduating high school this year so I wouldn't have the ability to take care of one in a dorm, but My brother (20) has decided to start college the same year as me, and is now getting a Samoyed puppy. My brother has practically gotten anything he wanted since graduating high school, he's an incredibly difficult person to be around and my parents do anything they can to stay on his good side. I know I don't have "dibs" on a dog, that's ridiculous, but i'm still hurt by the fact that I've always been second to him. what do you think I should do?

    5 AnswersDogs10 months ago
  • I’m tired of trying to make friends?

    I only have 2 close friends (I’ve known for 5 years) but I feel as though I’m beginning to out grow them. We don’t have classes together, and they have given little to no effort to try to talk or hangout outside of school. It’s senior year and my parents are really adamant on me making friends, but I’m so exhausted. I’ve honestly tried, I act confident, I’m polite, I talk about the things the other persons interested in, I do everything right. Though for some reason (one that I must be completely oblivious to) I get nothing back. Years of trying, only to fail, and I’m so tired of rejection. I don’t think I fear rejection but more so, am done giving so much effort and receiving so little. I truly don’t understand how some people can just so easily connect with others...

    Should I continue to try? Any advice or tips on how to overcome this? Or is this normal to give up in high school?

    5 AnswersFriends1 year ago
  • When should I share my opinion?

    I'm trying to keep from sharing my opinion when it's not wanted, but its hard to know when Its appropriate or not. For instance, when someone has a problem, do I share my opinion? or do I just let them constantly vent? Should I just be honest with them and tell them not to complain so much or do I just put up with it? I hear a lot of "I vent to my friends about everything" but I don't find that to be very healthy. How do I know the difference of being there for someone, and being a pushover?

    3 AnswersFriends2 years ago
  • My ex best friend is coming back to my high school, what should I do?

    I broke up with my best friend of 5 years about 7 months ago, and at that time she also had transferred to another high school (prior to break up). now I have seen her since at our mutual friend's bday party and we were friendly but didn't know how we stood relationship-wise. she has reached out to me trying to re-establish a friendship of some sort, but has failed to show me that she has changed. Recently, she has told me that she is coming back to my high school in less than a month and I don't know what to do. should I try to re kindle our friendship* (note that I would have to confront her and set new rules in order to not relive the past), or fake it and just endure her company my senior year? finding a new friend group is off the table, our mutual friends are much too valuable to lose.

    * I don't know how she would react to me be truly honest with her, since she has been known to share information and get people to side with her. My biggest fear is that I might lose my other friends. I trust them but I don't trust her (ex friend).

    2 AnswersFriends2 years ago
  • My teacher keeps telling me to smile, How do I tell him to stop?

    My teacher tells me to smile every time he sees me not smiling. He’s a nice guy and it’s in a playful kind of way so he isn’t harassing me, but it makes me uncomfortable and altogether angry. I try to just smile and shrug when he mentions this but it’s pissing me off. I’ve got a true resting ***** face and also don’t always feel the need to show my feelings (whether im Happy or sad) on my face. How do I politely tell him to stop?

    10 AnswersOther - Education2 years ago
  • I broke up with my best friend, but did I make the right choice?

    I broke up with my best friend, we’ve been together for 5 years but Since being together She has proven that she doesn’t respect others or their trust, and She talks poorly about them (which also makes me cautious when talking to her, fearful in what she may pass on to someone else). She has also proven to me that she doesn’t always take me seriously or respects me, when she continuously brings up the same problems but disregards any advice I give (which made me feel belittled, and thought something was wrong with me). And when I had a problem I would never burden her with it if I knew her advice wouldn’t be useful. Now at first I was ok with the break up I didn’t tell anyone else besides my parents, and I believed I was healing. But she sent a letter apologizing (I never told her what she did wrong) and said she would be there if I ever needed anyone. And now I can’t stop thinking about all the good times we had and i breaks my heart that I can’t be near her. I miss her immensely, and now I can’t tell if I was being over sensitive or I was right to believe that we had just become two different people.

    4 AnswersFriends2 years ago