• My boyfriend and I got in a horrible fight last night (NYE).?

    Last night my boyfriend and I were out at a bar for new year's. I got a little drunk (3 drinks), and then the bar gave out free champagne for the midnight countdown. About 5 minutes before midnight my boyfriend decided to go to the bathroom, and he said he'd be quick, so I waited outside the bathroom for him to make sure we'd be together... show more
    Last night my boyfriend and I were out at a bar for new year's. I got a little drunk (3 drinks), and then the bar gave out free champagne for the midnight countdown. About 5 minutes before midnight my boyfriend decided to go to the bathroom, and he said he'd be quick, so I waited outside the bathroom for him to make sure we'd be together to kiss at midnight. When he came out, we still had a couple minutes left, went and joined back up with the other people we were with, and did the countdown. We all cheersed at midnight and then instead of kissing me, he turned around and started talking to this wrinkly old lady. I looked around and everyone else was kissing, but right in front of me, my boyfriend had his back in my face. So i poked him in the back and he turned around and I was like.. you're supposed to kiss me! So he did, but in a really exaggerated silly way. So I got upset. I don't think I'm a stupid girl, but getting a kiss at midnight on new year's is really important to me for some reason. All he kept saying was "come on, let's not make this a big deal." We left the bar and I told him outside that it was really important to me and it seems he doesn't care, and he was like "I didn't know you were so into appearances, this really changes my opinion of you!" -- as if I only wanted a kiss for the appearance? So I left him on the street and got a ride home with my sister. We were only a few blocks from our house (my boyfriend and I live together), and he walked home. When he got home, I was sitting outside our apartment in the hallway because I was locked out. He kept saying he wouldn't talk to me until I was sober, but I really didn't feel that drunk. We started arguing and I kept saying that I'm allowed to care about something and he should care that it's important to me, and it seems he doesn't care about me. He said "it's true, I don't care about you as much as you want me to" and I completely lost my temper and punched him in the stomach. I guess I punched him in the balls by accident and he kicked me back (he was sitting down), and I started punching him in the face and he pushed me away and ripped my shirt. It got really bad. I don't have any injuries except for the ripped shirt, but he had a scratch on his neck that was bleeding. I have also hit him twice before when I was drunk, but never this bad, and he never really got mad at me for it. I have never hit anyone else before or had so much anger.. why am I becoming like this?? He and I have been under a lot of stress lately, he only had 1 day off of work for the entire month of December through xmas eve, then we spent the holidays with my family who don't really treat him with much respect. We love each other a lot, but are always so stressed out together. You can read my last question from a few months ago if you want some history. I feel that it was mostly my fault that it got so bad, and he has had a bad/stressful holiday due to my family, but also I think he is right that he doesn't care about me as much as I want him to. I try so hard all the time to be reasonable and fair with him, I buy him things all the time (for example, before we went out, I got $80 out of the atm and gave him $40 to have for the night), his life has been a mess and I have dedicated the last 1.5 years of my life trying to help him get on his feet because I love him so much. I let him live in my room without paying rent for 11 months, then I bought us a car (he paid for a little of it, but I paid for over 2/3 of it and all the insurance), and I moved across the country with him so he could get a fresh start. He has been working hard, and I love him, but this is crazy. I am so confused. He is sleeping in the guest room right now and I just want things to be good when he wakes up, but I think he'll be upset with me cuz of the scratch on his neck. It's the first day of a new year. Last year was so hard. What should I do?
    4 answers · Other - Family & Relationships · 8 years ago
  • Does my boyfriend have an anxiety disorder?

    I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He grew up in a large city and had some drug problems over the years (before he met me). The first year we were together, he kept saying he wanted to do better and get a job, etc. but just couldn't motivate himself to do it. We were together for about a year when we decided to move across... show more
    I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He grew up in a large city and had some drug problems over the years (before he met me). The first year we were together, he kept saying he wanted to do better and get a job, etc. but just couldn't motivate himself to do it. We were together for about a year when we decided to move across the country to a much smaller city where my parents live, so he can get a fresh start on life. We'd been staying with my parents for about a month when he got a job (HOORAY!). I thought it was the beginning of the end of our problems, but it seems that things have gotten worse. His job (dishwasher) requires that he work every day at 4:30pm but he needs to spend the entire day before 4:30 "preparing" himself for work and cannot do anything functional he needs to do, like go to the bank or clean up around the house. My parents left him a note today asking him to clean up our room (I am out of town for the week), and he almost completely lost it saying that no one can understand what he is going through and he can't do anything on a work day because he needs to spend all day psyching himself up to go to work. He says he has the hardest job by far at the restaurant and it's kicking his ***. Why is everything so difficult for him? He is the most loving boyfriend and has really done a ton to change his life for me, so I don't want to discourage him, but this is really hard. I want to do what I can to make things go smoothly and more easy so we can just be functional and happy together.
    7 answers · Mental Health · 8 years ago
  • How can I help someone start their career in music composition?

    I have been dating someone for about 6 months now who I think is really gifted. The problem is, he's 28 years old, has no career, no money, and doesn't like to do anything else besides write and listen to music. He doesn't have a computer, but one time I showed him that I have Garage Band on my iMac, he has been glued to it ever since... show more
    I have been dating someone for about 6 months now who I think is really gifted. The problem is, he's 28 years old, has no career, no money, and doesn't like to do anything else besides write and listen to music. He doesn't have a computer, but one time I showed him that I have Garage Band on my iMac, he has been glued to it ever since (for months). The music he writes is really complex, and very melodic. I am 30 years old and have been hanging around with DJs and musicians my entire adult life, and I can say with complete certainty that I have never met anyone as gifted as he is with regards to music and music composition. He has played in a few bands as a drummer (jazz/experimental/rock), but can play any instrument he picks up (though he doesn't own any). What can I suggest for him? He needs money, and a career he is happy with. I looked at some music schools to see if he might be able to enroll as an undergrad, but they all require high school transcripts, and I don't think he did very well in high school. I just feel like if he can submit some things he's composed or audition, he might have a better chance. I think he'd be willing to go anywhere for school. Any suggestions?
    3 answers · Performing Arts · 9 years ago
  • Is it ok to heat a stainless steel mixing bowl in the oven?

    I have a stainless steel mixing bowl. Should I be worried about anything if I put it in the oven? My boyfriend is worried about there being a chemical reaction or something that would negatively affect the food since the bowl wasn't intended for cooking (only mixing). It is a bowl just like this one: http://images-p.qvc.com/is/image/k/95/k4...
    I have a stainless steel mixing bowl. Should I be worried about anything if I put it in the oven? My boyfriend is worried about there being a chemical reaction or something that would negatively affect the food since the bowl wasn't intended for cooking (only mixing). It is a bowl just like this one: http://images-p.qvc.com/is/image/k/95/k4...
    7 answers · Cooking & Recipes · 9 years ago