My husband (soon to be ex) has had a pornography problem since he was about 14. We got married without me knowing about the problem. I found out when my son was about 6 months old, when I clicked on a file on my computer desktop that I didn't recognize. Disgusting. So for the last 3 1/2 yrs we've been trying to get him help by counseling, a 12-step program, seeing our church leaders, etc...I also found out last year that he had signed up for an adult dating website. He later told me that he had been talking to a girl on there (online only, supposedly) and had stopped shortly after.
So here's the question:
I'm filing for divorce and want sole custody. I'm concerned that his addiction could possibly be psychologically damaging to our 3-year-old son if he is staying with him overnight (around the time he likes to view porn) and could walk in on his dad. If I could provide proof of his profile on the dating site, would that be enough to prove adultery or intent to commit adultery, and give me sole custody?
*He would most likely be living with his parents, would knew about the problem and then let him move back in with them to their basement, giving him a computer and a room with a locked door. Not the kind of environment that I want my son living in, even temporarily.