My sister and I are five years apart, myself being the youngest. We've always had a good relationship and as adults have maintained that relationship.
However, I have noticed, that my sister..when pregnant, becomes violent toward me. Last night, I came to help prepare for Thanksgiving dinner at her home. I had just gotten out of work at 7:45pm, drove home, changed, and when directly to my sister's home. We were having a good time playing uno and watching movies while we prepared the food.
At about 1:45 am, I was so tired that I wanted to get home and sleep a few hours before I had to come back for Thankgiving Day.
I said, "Ok, everyone, I am tired..gonna leave." My sister says, "You act as though you are the only person who is tired." I asked her if there was anthing else I could help with and she said, "No, but you could continue to keep us company."
I said that I was tired and I have a house and family I need to tend to as well so I told her I didn't have time for this. She says, "Well, it's all about you..whatever you want to do, *****."
So, I called her a ***** too and started getting my shoes on to leave. So I see her reaching for a hot pot of gravy and I duck as she throws it at me. It ruins her wall and white carpet.
Then she charged me. Grabbed my hair and tried to pull it out. I had my head near her stomach and I didn't want to hurt the baby so I stood there as she pounded my head. After a few seconds, I couldn't take it anymore so I reach up and punched her square in the face. She let me go and we argued more and I left. My mom (who was there) left as well and agreed that my sister started the fight. I told my sister that this is probably the reason she has miscarried 2 times in the past. She took that hard but I explained to her that it isn't normal to delibrately put yourself in a situation that would most likely cause harm to your unborn child.
Something all to similar happened a few months prior when I was helping her move into her house. She was pregnant and she asked me to come help paint. I came after I had finished cooking dinner at my house, cleaning.. However, my sister hit the ceiling because I didn't show up right away. She tried to fight me then but I walked away from her. 2 days later, she lost the baby.
When she was pregnant with my nephew, she was the exact same way..abusive to me..trying to fight. Fortunately, my nephew made it to term.
As a family, we all think she has an issue that is beyond the regular hormonal changes of pregnancy. Her husband has mentioned she has been violent with him as well. My nephew seems to be used to her being this way. My mother has fallen victim to her verbal tirades as well.
So needless to say, I won't be celebrating Thanksgiving at her house this year. I am visiting with friends instead. Has anyone had any similar experiences? What do you suggest?