• Should I pressure mom to stop helping ex with babysitting?

    Mom helps ex watch 9y son, Custody is 50:50. Ex is mean and a jerk still. 7y ago when we split and she told my mom she’d take my blood if she could. Nowadays she plays “nice” in front of others to mask her usual way of being towards me. Yet my mom still helps. She says she does it for the sake my son / to be around him as much as possible before... show more
    Mom helps ex watch 9y son, Custody is 50:50. Ex is mean and a jerk still. 7y ago when we split and she told my mom she’d take my blood if she could. Nowadays she plays “nice” in front of others to mask her usual way of being towards me. Yet my mom still helps. She says she does it for the sake my son / to be around him as much as possible before he becomes a teen and doesn’t want to be around and not to help ex.
    Family · 1 week ago
  • Should I pressure mom to stop helping ex with babysitting?

    Mom helps ex watch 9y son, Custody is 50:50. Ex is mean and a jerk still. 7y ago when we split and she told my mom she’d take my blood if she could. Nowadays she plays “nice” in front of others to mask her usual way of being towards me. Yet my mom still helps. She says she does it for the sake my son / to be around him as much as possible before... show more
    Mom helps ex watch 9y son, Custody is 50:50. Ex is mean and a jerk still. 7y ago when we split and she told my mom she’d take my blood if she could. Nowadays she plays “nice” in front of others to mask her usual way of being towards me. Yet my mom still helps. She says she does it for the sake my son / to be around him as much as possible before he becomes a teen and doesn’t want to be around and not to help ex.
    4 answers · Family · 1 week ago
  • Dad & Stepmom, ugh. should I invite to son's bday party? I didn't live with them growing up. Started relationship when I was in high school.?

    When we first split 3yr ago (21yr w/3kids), they told her to do what she needed to do, she then lied in borrowing $ from them & then filed for divorce. Ex&I don't get along AT ALL, especially nowadays and they know this. This yr for SuperBowl party they invited the ex, me & my new 1.5yr GF to their house. Wtf. So, I Didn't go.... show more
    When we first split 3yr ago (21yr w/3kids), they told her to do what she needed to do, she then lied in borrowing $ from them & then filed for divorce. Ex&I don't get along AT ALL, especially nowadays and they know this. This yr for SuperBowl party they invited the ex, me & my new 1.5yr GF to their house. Wtf. So, I Didn't go. Last week for Dads bday: uncle/Dads brother flys in to celebrate, they invite ex & our 21yo daughter to dinner. Dinner was at 6p, weeknight and I had 15yo&6yo kids...don't know if that is the reason but at least extend invite. I'm told to be nice and get along but this year out of the blue the ex denied me time w/kids Xmas day 2014 (she celebrates Xmas eve) said she'd call cops if I showed up, also in 2014 on top of the 3k/month support pymt I contributed $$ for Quiceanera (huge expensive party) she left my name off printed invite, said she'd call hotel security/cops if I brought my GF although she brought her now nonexistent BF. My parents know all this and still they are acting the way they are towards her despite me saying I just can't / won't be around her. Dad is a Buddhist - big time! My divorce is not final, is very contentious and quite expensive. Now I don't think I can be around them but it's their grandkid. What to do....
    2 answers · Family · 4 years ago