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  • Boyfriend acting 21 again, instead of 31?

    My boyfriend of 8 years has recently opened a new business and hired completely 21 year olds ,management, otherwise, the lot. Most are students and none are in a relationship. We also have a daughter. For the last four months things have ben getting worse with his reckless behaviour, and when I finally went into work a few weeks ago, he thinks he s 21 again. They all high five one another, dance around,repeat slang words and drink after work. He s worked 7am-1am a month in a row . Sometimes it is til 2 or 3am, then back out.

    This is so unlike him. We enjoyed drinking wine at home, pubs, sometimes bars, and mostly dining out. He would tell me his student days of getting wasted like that were over, especially with having a three year.old. He has spent since Christmas the number days with her i can count on one hand. He doesn t even Text.

    I ve tried talking and he laughs,Or the classic line I am.jealous of his female work colleagues, when I ask why that is brought up.and where he gets such an.idea from..he gets angry and defensive .

    He has no respect for me, I mentioned.to.his dad when he returned at. 3am.wasted off his head being aggressive. The reply was not to tell.him, he had retired.for a reason - to get away from.stress- and walked away! Feel powerless and fed up. My work is suffering as most nights he s up late or chugging up. This new job was supposes to bring money for us and the house and instead he s drinking it away.

    2 AnswersSingles & Dating5 years ago
  • Friend Advice Needed?

    I have a best mate of over 10 years. He has only ever had one girlfriend, a girl who lived in another city & for their 6 month relationship, took him for a ride/drained him of his money.

    He now is in another "relationship". It is a woman who lives near him, who is already currently engaged for just over a year and has a 15 month old child. She keeps texting me randomly that she is soon going to kick her fiance out , for my mate to move in . They have been secretly seeing one another for just over 2 months, more seriously the last month. He has become a changed person, very arrogant, nasty, cocky, with no time for anybody. (& very secretive I might add- it's hard conversation just to ask what he had to eat!)

    he is , sad as I am - My only friend & I see once a week , and I am feeling that crap I am considering going down to saddo level of zero mates (I can't get out anywhere to meet any new ones :(

    & to cut free.

    What would you do? my family is the bossy cynical kind ,and keeps on laughing & skitting at the situation, and never asks how I am, just asks what THEY are upto, & when I try to explain how lonely I am, nobody understands, my mum laughs in my face & says do I want a violin.

    And pretty much tells me I better not be there when it all comes crashing down on them- on one hand I don't want too, he has been such a bad "friend" alately & not bothered when I have been down, I am quite angry from that.

    So.. the question is what to do? cut free & leave them to it ,(& have a social life of just me & the cats!) or keep on being a doormat that one day of the week , just to keep myself the one friend I can count on one digit?

    5 AnswersFriends8 years ago
  • Ebay- postage increased whilst active?

    I cant find this in any ebay forum or google. I bid on a singular small newborn baby clothing at 75p postage. By the end, when i had won, to my surprise postage had jumped to £2.50. Apart from this being ludicrous as postage by knowledge for a heavy adult garment is 2.20. i bid in good faith of 75p delivery, no reason or message was conveyed. As a good ebayer i just paid, then just checked watch list and won to confirm i wasnt going mad. Sent a message but no reply yet. . . Is this allowed! ?

    3 AnswersOther - Internet8 years ago
  • Problem with mum during my pregnancy?

    The Problem(s) I am having is that first & foremost my mum is a very , very heavy smoker. I am 8 months pregnant & the duration of my pregnancy she has seen no problem in smoking directly next to me, in my face. "Heavy" smoker means around 30- 40 cigarettes a day. She "cannot function" in a morning with a "*** and cup of coffee", sleep without one , or even go shopping without literally habitually lighting one up before entering a large store.

    It has become a problem that this passive smoke shows up on the midwives carbon monoxide monitor, and when I visit her she refuses to leave my space, that I have to move rooms-

    additional problem- she has several "issues" long story short refuses to go to the doctor with/ stopped depressive medication on her own bat years ago after . This has left her a very awkward & extremely exhaustive personality. She takes offense at the slightest thing to the point of crying (i.e if points a top out in a clothing store, and I shook my head that I didnt like it- she put her hand upto my face, then stormed out of the shop & refused to speak to me the rest of the day)..

    Or goes into a flying over the top rage & falls out with people for weeks- or cries- or a combination of both..

    * When my partner mentioned the other day after growing concerns at her 17th cigarette in only tjhe 3rd hour, all of which directly in my face & was nowhere for me to go, he told me to move aside as the smoke wasn't good for the baby. She stormed off, talking/muttering like a madwoman to herself, and has refused to speak to us since.

    ** 2nd problem. My mum also sees no problem in drinking during pregnancy. it's getting a hassle & a chore when i see her, i.e last week was her birthday & kept pouring me malibus & told me in her day , drinking was good.. to which I replied.. Yeah! A dab of Guinness.. If your iron is low.

    - thats the other problem- she can never be wrong. She strongly believes in old wives tales more than you can even begin to imagine, and got upset on one occassion when I got wikipedia up to show her something she was telling me off for was a myth. (eating curry's kill you.. you get stomach ulcers & end up in hospital if you eat more than 2 a week, or after 7pm.)

    She broke into tears, swore down the internet was lying & left my house & brought her partner a month later when came to visit, for protection... against the internet, of course . :S

    Anyway.

    Imagine trying to tell her drink IS bad ! Especially copious amounts of pure licquer (martinis) at 8 months pregnant. She was very forceful, that my friends recognised.

    ** The hard part is the depressive part & how amazing she switches between being a total ***** to me, saying horrible things you wouldn't expect from a mother, to switching on tears. On her birthday she was horrible to her partner that he walked out, and the minute he left, she was straight to tears that she had no family left. So i felt sorry for her & engaged in several activities since, .. to the point of the mentioned occassion where on her counted 17th cigarette my partner felt he had to try & say something due to the crazy amount of passiver smoke.

    I have googled many similar questions, all reply "cut off your mother" or "just dont visit". but my problems not that simple when you are dealing with a bipolar depressive schizophrenic, who admittedly, end of the day is still my own mother, & is my only living family I have left.

    SO I can't just dump & abandon her.

    I can't sit down & talk , we have tried and it either ends in a rage of her storming out the place, or tears & won't talk to us for weeks.. & when does talk it's back to square one. Very impossible sensitive person.

    Any suggestions?? :S

    2 AnswersPregnancy8 years ago
  • How to Reach Supply Point on Top of Hotel Vista? (crackdown)?

    If so, where is the easiest & nearest agility point. I found one at Hotel Vista entrance, but can't even jump high enough to reach that.

    I've only just started the game so have no skills, nothing, ..

    thanks for help.

    1 AnswerVideo & Online Games8 years ago
  • 6 months pregnant no help with home whatsoever? - making me ill?

    Long story short, My boyfriend who I live with is more than your average "lazy" guy. In the 3 years I have been with him, he has never tidyed the house, and leaves a large mess from clothes to games he's played just strewed everywhere, to pots, leftover food , etc.

    However I am 6 months pregnant & live in a 3 floor house, & finding it extremely tiring going round every floor, every room tidying up mess- & I mean mess that after nearly 10 hours of tidying still looks a tip.

    I can't keep doing it as it's causing pain on my belly, strain, & extreme tiredness that I'm just living to tidy up his crap on my days off work.

    His excuse is that he's an assistant manager at a restaurant & works 90 hour weeks (salaried) & his days off he can do what he wants.

    I work 40 hour weeks, often finishing at 11pm, & travel far to get in so often between midnight to 12:30- just as bad I feel on me & my body carrying a 6 month pregnancy to keep coming home to just living to tody up.

    I'm writing as I can;'t go on, & I am literally stuck.

    I've tried it his way- if he wants to live in a pig sty & refuses to tidy, I neither did. The mess just mounted including mouldy foods & plates, & i could not have any company other to visit me was such a mess, until I tidyed up as usual.

    I have hinted to his parents when they ask how my pregnancy is going, that I am most shattered I ever been in my life, tidying a 3 storey house & running a full time job with no help is getting me down that I constantly feel sick, I just got an "Oh right" & a smile. - they are very, very , laid back.

    He left home at 16 & his other sister did the same.

    I've tried the old sitting down & calmly opening my heart, showing books that explain my body can't keep doing all this as I have another life inside of me, & that books recommend getting help, all to deaf ears!..Several, several times. ("I'm a manager" excuse again!)

    .... I have just asked him the simple task of washing the pots for me, what has resulted in a saucepan being violently hit against the wall, & my favourite mug thrown on the floor & smashed in a paddy fit- an irreplaceable one given to me from when I worked with the touring crew of "Chicago" in my old job as a wardrobe mistress.

    I feel the last bit he is acting like a child having a paddy fit, but as mentioned I have tried acting the same & not tidying either, & that WILL go on & mount to disgusting breadths, he is happy to live like that, & means I am denying my friends & family to come & visit me in shame.

    I am exhausted to point I look awful, my body is tired by 7pm , & I am feeling sick & weak all day, -

    I can't think of any more suggestions. Tried talking, books, parents & playing back at own game!

    7 AnswersOther - Pregnancy & Parenting8 years ago
  • Illegal to photograph "Blythe Dolls" ?

    I am adding my artwork/ photography to a website that sells my prints If people are interested.

    However, my photos of a miniature Blythe Doll ( not the full one !- a cheap promotional doll) was Reported as a Violation of Copyright.

    Four frustrating emails later ,. after just receiving what appeared to be a robotic cut and paste response by a customer service member, (You had to "Appeal" and email customer service to find out WHY your work was removed- You just recieved an email saying work removed , no explanation..) - this person had still not answered my query why/ what copyright.

    My fourth email finally states that Blythe is owned by Hasbro.

    Surely If i take the photographs, I have ownership of this?

    That means on the same premise, If I take a photo of some sweets, that are Haribo branded,

    That is also illegal?

    I cannot get a straight answer under what premise photographing a brand , not the brand itself but a small cheap promotional item becomes illegal.

    I think my misunderstanding stems from the fact when I checked wikipedia, they cited several people who had photographed the dolls, and had the work turned into books.

    There is also lots of Bltythe dolls all across Flickr.

    Thought I would ask on here , as I feel like hitting my head against concrete trying to get a straight answer out of the website that keeps removing my work !

    thanks .

    1 AnswerLaw & Ethics8 years ago
  • Who holds the Copyright on yolo?

    My friend is an artist and recently designed some gear with the yolo slogan. However she was upset to tell me recieved an email from her website that the owners of yolo had got in touch, she was breaching copyright and all of her work and effort removed. Iv,e had a good look around. I know its an internet phrase,best i could find was that drake originally refers to yolo in his song "the motto". I find it a bit far fetched and was wondering who exactly holds thus copyright to help argue a case. Surely a slogan mentioned by a singer that unwittingly gets used as an internet slogan doesnt mean he has copyright? Thanks.

    1 AnswerLaw & Ethics8 years ago
  • Curled hair/ Crimped retention?

    Why is it when I curl my hair, if the humidity outside is damp, it drops straight away?

    yet.. If I crimp my hair, it stays in ,(through the rain) and I can even sleep on my crimps & they retain more or less perfectly to the next day?

    I would like a scientific answer to this, please.

    1 AnswerHair8 years ago
  • hyperemesis and full time work?

    Any suggestions how to cope with full time work & dreaded HG? I have been constantly sick every day for nearly 3 weeks now, I was prescribed sickness tablets but the second they hit my stomach- came back up very violently. Even water is rejecting my stomach, and I've now spent my 4th day in a row in bed from morning until night in bed with extremely painful migraines!

    I'm expected back at work tomorrow, with 40 hour shifts doing very demanding work and the thought of it is upsetting me.

    I can't reduce my hours and I can't afford to take any more time off, I am stuck in a horrible place.

    How on earth has anybody else managed?? The extreme and very miserable state I am, bed bound every day I have no idea these past weeks , - If I was at work- there was no way I could have managed. Some days I am that bad I cannot make it to the bathroom, my body expels water/fruit/ anything immediately, into my hands.. down myself :(

    How on earth am I to manage a demanding full time job, .. I can't go for naps when I feel poo like I have been doing at home in the afternoon, and I am that weak, tired and upset- and in pain from the retching !! - , yet I will have to keep going at work.I'm getting myself upset :(

    Work is aware but .. nothing can be done.

    The last doctor I saw just told me to "ride the storm" much to my discontent. Not everyday !!! I've literally got no life... just sleeping or sick.. fed up.

    Anything, any suggestions... welcome... :(

    4 AnswersPregnancy9 years ago
  • Eroded Tooth- Constant Foul taste?

    Around a year ago I had a broken tooth, within which my dentist ( A student unit) began fixing. This is a charity dentist, with wait lists. It got 6 months later, still waiting for my letter- ,long story short, its now 10 months & when i call to arrange, as my dentist has left, I go on a new shocking 6 month wait list. I cannot afford a dentist , reason why I am with this charity.

    Also dont judge- I am here to ask a dental question, not get judged on my financial status.

    Carrying on...Over the last year, as you can imagine since nobody has looked at my tooth, what was a crack split to total deterioration. I did call the unit when this happened.... To be informed they'd send me a letter.. still waiting.

    Its now almost gone. The tooth has a few sides but completely hollow.

    It doesnt hurt at all (except looking ugly...)

    A week ago I got a strange taste in my mouth,. I researched online & thought at 1st it may be diabetes, as the taste was somewhat very bitter, I thought my body couldnt process any sugars. It got worse over last few days, & affected my breath, so the other night I vigorously brushed my "tooth"

    Horrified to think this foul taste comes from here!?

    It is always filled with saliva so couldnt get down to the root, but seems to be white & uneven & feels un natural to brush ... so quite deep.

    The taste in last 24 hours has got significantly worse & over powering

    Any suggestions?

    No smart alec replies, please :) Just genuine Help..

    1 AnswerDental9 years ago
  • Landlord Advice: Denial of Approved Pet?

    2 years ago I moved into my current property, upon which after a month in I asked my landlord If we could have a pet, we was thinking of a cat. (As didn't state any disparity either way in initial advertising NOr contract, so thought could ask for nothing.)

    To which he replied: As long as the cat was Small. Was Allowed to go Outside (i.e not defecate) & we bought a scratching post (i.e to not damage any furnishings). we agreed, & bought a small kitten out the litter , & had all prerequisites.

    Just under a month later he came to check we had all & commented how tiny she was- Checked where litter box, scratching post was, had a quick check at sofa & left.

    next month he came again to check, after that , visits became just every 6 months.

    2 years passed on...

    SUDDENLY- 2 months agot- landlord came. Normal check. Looked around.. and left. A week later we recieved a letter "Upon my last visit I have noticed you have a small animal on the premises against breach of contract. If you wish to keep the animal, you must pay for a full professional cleaning service upon leaving the premises of all Carpets in the house & all furnishings, & provide a full invoice"

    - we thought.. strange!! Why didn't he say anything in person If there was a problem?? He was the one who authorized us to have a cat in the first place, and came to check on her & the property the first two months. :S My partner advised to just keep shut & pay it. Well, I;ve got to pay itas he's always skint , but thats another story.

    SO- last month. Landlord pops up again- bearing in mind previously he had lagged checkups to every 6 months. We didnt mention the letter, but he looked at the cat & retorted in a quite nasty- funny voice " Oh. ITS still here.." To which my partner DID take offense, & replied "yes.... She's part of the family,,"

    What did he expect?? Us to move out at the letter?? My partner suggested maybe its as he was pakistani- asian of race, & that culture does'nt have bonds with pets/aren't known to keep pets in the same way white british do, that we molly cuddle & treat them as family??

    That aside, the whole business was very , rude, abrupt & has had me thinking ever since.. How strange & just why.

    Do we stand a leg at all on the situation... Or because he gave us the verbal go ahead 2 years ago as a pose to in writing, is it better to do as my partner suggests, shut up, buckle up & pay for the service?

    Or is there any way without completely peeing off the landlord to sensibly & maturely resolve this?

    we have tried calling the office to discuss but he's never available over a few weeks of repeat calls , we gave up. Now its got to the point the letter was sent a few months ago now, It seems better to just let dust lie on the situation, or he's got more fire at us.

    Thanks in advance.. thought I'd ask..

    4 AnswersRenting & Real Estate9 years ago
  • A Good Site For Amateurs To Display Photograpic Art- Both Print (Pure) & Photoshopped Digitally (Arty) ?

    I Am an amateur photographer as My Question suggests,. that not only Likes to capture the pure beauty of scenes etc On Photos & Would like a site to display such work- But a Site That also integrates & accepts Work that my have Been digitally enhanced.

    By this I mean I often turn my works of Landscapes or Portraits etc into something far fetched, using Photoshop & layering my own work digitally or experimenting with such effects.

    I am only amateur Not a great digital artist or photographer.. just want a nice, small, communal site for feedback & display my work. All work colleagues, family friends & beyond that have seen both scopes of my work Keep telling me It is sales worthy/ A profession, but I am just happy to find some kind of site to cater & appreciate My work .. For Now..??

    I have found "Amateur Illustrator" Where some of my photography is acceptable, but once digitally enhanced in the way that I often do with certain pieces, they look far from original So I am struggling to Find any likewise site XD

    Many, many thanks in advance for any hep or suggestions!!!

    2 AnswersOther - Visual Arts10 years ago
  • Is There a site to send Pranks in the mail?

    I really need a Free site that sends pranks by mail. I.e postcards.. mailings "you have lost your job".. "you are getting evicted" Or any light humour to send to an address ?

    Like the ones for prank phone calls but By Mail?? & Must be Free??

    Thanks .

    4 AnswersJokes & Riddles10 years ago
  • resident Cat Angry at me For Introducing Kittens- Can't Find Answer- Please Help!?

    I have a female just over 1 year old, & yesterday my partner & I Decided we would love another kitten. We got a male to make our resident female less territorial. We had read up all online, got a safe room, mixed smells, bought duplicate items of the essentials- & last night all was going well. HOWEVER during a room change one the kittens got out hte safe room. Luckily the resident cat was in her locked basket (as in what take to her vets, not a bed basket), but the kitten rant past the resident- * who is the most loving cat - only hissed once in the year had her- * who spat, growled & clawed out etc.

    That night she hissed at my partner & from this morning just got worse. She is growling very deep & high that we have never heard before, wont less us near her, & if we do - hisses at a continous - i.e 20 hisses in a row- no exageration. Very upsetting for all us had to come to decision to call owner & give the kitten back this evening.

    The question is- how do we re-gain the trust & get my loving baby of 1 year old back??? I have searched all over google all I can find is how to calm down between the cats- not how to re gain my cat back after heartbreaking giving the kitten up after no less than 12 hours! My resident cat is an indoor cat & had since kitten & so very., very territorial But her behaviour that we have never seen before Has made us come to conclusion to give her up.

    I just want the characteristics of my resident cat back, any genuine tips??? - going to wash all blankets kitten been on & let her come round in own time,thats all I can think of but its genuinely upsetting me .

    5 AnswersCats10 years ago
  • Where can I buy Stuffed Jalapeno Chillis with Cream Cheese From? ( Known as "Pepperias??"(UK)?

    They were available at Lidl/Aldi, and I saw them as a one off in Tescos (But cost around £4.00 for literally the four!! :S -

    Never seen them since or been able to get hold of them in any supermarket or shop.

    They are Jalapeno peppers stuffed with cream cheese (usually greek I think)>

    Lidl/Aldi called them "Pepperias"

    Much missed.. ?!?

    3 AnswersOther - Food & Drink1 decade ago
  • What Does "Fay Sor Loh" Mean?

    My boyfriend has always had a thing for chinese girls, and all preovious girlfirends... chinese.. im not. When a certain old "friend" of him rings, she keeps saying "Fay Sor Loh" then laughing lots. But he won't tell me what it means. Now its wrote all over his facebook.

    Long story short,. I would love to know what this means!

    He has a cantonese translations book (presumably for getting in with all those chinese ex's, )and they (the chinese girl who keeps writing " Fay Sor Loh") lived in Ireland if this helps?

    I've tried translation pages online, all to no luck.

    Many thanks

    3 AnswersLanguages1 decade ago
  • Religion Taking Over Our Relationship- Help?

    I am with a guy of 5 months (and we both love each other dearly), but after a few arguments, he one day decided to further his religion. When I met him I knew he was religious but did no activity. by "Further religion!" I mean attend group sessions of Bible reading,prayer meetings and prayer breakfasts.

    This has recently got out of control. He is more concerned and consumed with his religion, that now hes going away for over a week to preach his religion. Its not the same guy I met, and his phone is constantly on the go from his religious best friends (same age) about planning the next religious section. If it wasnt for going away, he is still spending more and more days doing some kind of prayer attendance.

    He's not the same guy I met, and his religious community is very tight knit, with a lot of in-jokes. Ive met them a few times, they are all very nice but I still feel left out and more and more like im loosing my guy. And I feel like a spare part!!

    I respect his religion, and would never tell him to give up his God, but I dont want to loose him, and I am more and more a spare part in his life no matter what I try.

    I am lost what to do from here.

    Hes a different guy from what I met,and its getting ridiculous, that I am feeling stressed and down, and not myself,like a huge spare part in life,. just from all of this.

    Ive tried explaining how I feel, but he just laughs it off, or says " trying to split me and my god! " doesnt seem to understand.

    14 AnswersReligion & Spirituality1 decade ago
  • Help Needed- Religion taking Over Our Relationship.?

    I am with a guy of 5 months (and we both love each other dearly), but after a few arguments, he one day decided to further his religion. When I met him I knew he was religious but did no activity. by "Further religion!" I mean attend group sessions of Bible reading,prayer meetings and prayer breakfasts.

    This has recently got out of control. He is more concerned and consumed with his religion, that now hes going away for over a week to preach his religion. Its not the same guy I met, and his phone is constantly on the go from his religious best friends (same age) about planning the next religious section. If it wasnt for going away, he is still spending more and more days doing some kind of prayer attendance.

    He's not the same guy I met, and his religious community is very tight knit, with a lot of in-jokes. Ive met them a few times, they are all very nice but I still feel left out and more and more like im loosing my guy. And I feel like a spare part!!!!

    I respect his religion, and would never tell him to give up his God, but I dont want to loose him, and I am more and more a spare part in his life no matter what I try.

    I am lost what to do from here.

    Hes a different guy from what I met,and its getting ridiculous, that I am feeling stressed and down, and not myself,like a huge spare part in life,. just from all of this.

    Ive tried explaining how I feel, but he just laughs it off, or says " trying to split me and my god! " doesnt seem to understand.

    3 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships1 decade ago