A little back ground. My husband and I have been married almost 10 years. He had a 3 year old when we got together. We all get along really well, but my step son's mom HATES me. She used to talk badly about me to her son to the point of making him cry. She even told me she doesn't like me. The only reason being, is that I am with my husband. She is married with another child, and still hasn't let it go.
He will be 14 in a week. Yesterday he broke his leg badly, while playing football. He broke both his tibia and fibula and cracked his growth plate. We were at the game and also at the hospital. Today he had to go back in to be put under so they can try to set his leg without surgery. He asked his father if he could come to his house when he got home from the hospital. He wanted him to be there for him, and I completely understand and agree. My question is, he also asked if I was coming along with his little brother and sister. He didn't say he wanted us there, but wanted to know if we were coming. Since his mom still harbors a lot of resentment for me, should I go? I would like to be there for him, but at the same time it will be in her house. I'm sure she is stressed out enough without having to deal with my presence, but I also want him to know that I am concerned about him and that I do care. I know we will all act like adults, but I'm not sure how I would want it if the roles were reversed either. Would you go? Why or why not?