• What causes color differences in labia minora?

    Yesterday, I noticed that the left side of my labia minora looks bigger than my right (I shaved on Saturday and didn't notice anything weird then). It's not the first time I've noticed the apparent difference in size (although I've never thought it was this different before), but now, there seems to be a difference in color as well.... show more
    Yesterday, I noticed that the left side of my labia minora looks bigger than my right (I shaved on Saturday and didn't notice anything weird then). It's not the first time I've noticed the apparent difference in size (although I've never thought it was this different before), but now, there seems to be a difference in color as well. The right side is more along the lines of purplish and doesn't really move around a lot, but the left side is tipped with pink and can move a little more (I can pull it easier, if that makes sense). At first, I thought the pink was some sort of bumps, but after further investigation, it seems to be just my regular skin -- in the same pattern as the skin on the other side, just pinker and slightly larger. The color even appears to fade into the brighter pink, not drastically change. I've spent all day paranoid and Googling about genital warts and herpes (even though I've never had any weird lesions down there and have only had one sex partner for the past six years), but none of the pictures look like what I'm seeing. I'm not sure if it's relevant, but I'm six months pregnant and was wondering if this could be some weird hormonal thing. Any ideas on what could be going on?
    2 answers · Women's Health · 6 days ago
  • What causes one side of the inner labia to swell?

    Gross question, I know, but hopefully, someone can help. I noticed yesterday that the left side of my inner labia is swollen (shaved the day before and don't recall feeling anything different then). The bottom part of the lip looks like there's a little bump; it's the part that's most swollen. There's no pain, although I do... show more
    Gross question, I know, but hopefully, someone can help. I noticed yesterday that the left side of my inner labia is swollen (shaved the day before and don't recall feeling anything different then). The bottom part of the lip looks like there's a little bump; it's the part that's most swollen. There's no pain, although I do feel a little tenderness when sitting down (just enough to be noticeable and kind of annoying). Nothing looks weird or swollen anywhere else down there. I've had the same sex partner (my husband) for six years and never experienced anything like this. Any ideas on what this could be? I've looked at pictures of herpes and genital warts, and it definitely doesn't look like that. Google keeps talking about a Bartholin cyst; could that be what's causing it? Thanks to anyone who can help!
    2 answers · STDs · 6 days ago
  • Hospice nurse says they can't do an IV because the patient would "drown." Um...what the hell?

    My 89-year-old grandpa is in a nursing home and has reached a point where he is refusing most of his medications, most of the food offered to him, and drinking very little fluids. My mom asked his hospice nurse about potentially getting him on an IV and was informed that it's not possible because "he would drown." I'm having a... show more
    My 89-year-old grandpa is in a nursing home and has reached a point where he is refusing most of his medications, most of the food offered to him, and drinking very little fluids. My mom asked his hospice nurse about potentially getting him on an IV and was informed that it's not possible because "he would drown." I'm having a pretty hard time believing this; I used to work in a hospital pharmacy and can't even begin to count how many IVs I saw go in and out on a daily basis (many which were made for hospice patients), and not once did I ever hear of a patient drowning. This very same grandpa has also had his fair share of hospital stays and was on IV fluids during every one of them...and obviously, he's still hanging around. Is drowning from an IV an actual possibility (if so, how likely is it to occur, and is it because of his age?), or is this hospice nurse just lazy?
    19 answers · Other - Health · 2 weeks ago
  • Can anyone recommend a good no-pull dog harness?

    Specifically, one that works well with bigger dogs...I have a 40-pound girl and a 46-pound boy, so there's a lot to handle, lol.
    Specifically, one that works well with bigger dogs...I have a 40-pound girl and a 46-pound boy, so there's a lot to handle, lol.
    9 answers · Dogs · 2 weeks ago
  • Is an eye infection painful all the time?

    So, I wear contacts that are supposed to be changed every month...and I am now on about month 15 or so of wearing them. Stupid move, I know!! Anyway, the buildup on the lenses has gotten to the point where I can't really see all that great with the contacts in, so I've finally just taken them out and will be stumbling around blind until my... show more
    So, I wear contacts that are supposed to be changed every month...and I am now on about month 15 or so of wearing them. Stupid move, I know!! Anyway, the buildup on the lenses has gotten to the point where I can't really see all that great with the contacts in, so I've finally just taken them out and will be stumbling around blind until my eye doctor appointment next week. I've read that wearing contacts for too long can cause eye infections, but I've also read that any discomfort may be due to the buildup itself and that there is not necessarily an infection present. The only time I experience anything resembling symptoms of an infection is when I'm wearing the lenses -- watery eyes, feeling like something's in my eye, etc. As soon as I remove the lenses, my eyes feel great -- no redness, no tearing, no issues other than the fact that I can't see because my natural vision sucks. If my eyes aren't uncomfortable without the lenses in, is it possible that there's still an infection?
    1 answer · Optical · 3 weeks ago
  • Any tips on managing house dogs with a newborn?

    My husband and I are expecting our first baby, and we have two blue lacy dogs that largely stay in the house. They do pretty well, with the exception of getting a little hyper from time to time and trying to sneak into the trash every now and then. Blue lacy's are a breed that is said to be good with children, and ours have been exposed to... show more
    My husband and I are expecting our first baby, and we have two blue lacy dogs that largely stay in the house. They do pretty well, with the exception of getting a little hyper from time to time and trying to sneak into the trash every now and then. Blue lacy's are a breed that is said to be good with children, and ours have been exposed to children ranging in age from around 1-13 and have never shown anything other than curiosity and the desire to play. That being said, all of these children have been visitors to our home, so I'm a little curious as to how their reaction may be different when the baby shows up and then doesn't leave within one or two days like every other child, lol. Those of you who have house dogs and kids, what kinds of things did you do to prepare them for the baby? How did they react to the new member of the family? Do you keep them separated (I know this is something you should never do when they're unattended together, and I don't plan on doing that), or are the dogs allowed to, say, sit on the couch with you while you feed/hold/play with the baby? How do you make time for baby and dogs and make sure everybody stays happy and healthy? And before anyone suggests it, getting rid of the dogs is not an option. I'll be a stay-at-home mom with absolutely nothing else to focus on for 12 hours a day, so I'm sure I can eventually figure it out...but a little helpful advice to start off with would be nice, lol. Thanks in advance to anyone who can help!
    5 answers · Dogs · 4 weeks ago
  • Can a newborn baby be outside a lot?

    As long as the baby is healthy and proper precautions are taken (dressed for the weather, mosquito netting around the area the baby will be in, etc.), is there any issue with him/her being outside on a regular basis? She would either be in my lap, in a swing, or in a playpen; it's not like I'd be putting her in the dirt, lol. I'll be a... show more
    As long as the baby is healthy and proper precautions are taken (dressed for the weather, mosquito netting around the area the baby will be in, etc.), is there any issue with him/her being outside on a regular basis? She would either be in my lap, in a swing, or in a playpen; it's not like I'd be putting her in the dirt, lol. I'll be a stay-at-home mom juggling two dogs AND the baby after she's born, and I feel like it would be so much easier if instead of all four of us trying to be cooped up in the house together all the time, we could be outside as much as possible, lol.
    6 answers · Newborn & Baby · 4 weeks ago
  • When did you deliver your firstborn?

    I read an article that said first-time moms tend to be pregnant for about 41 weeks instead of delivering on or before their due date (not counting those who get induced for whatever reason, of course). As a first-timer myself, I'm curious about how accurate this is. I know every woman and every pregnancy is different, but still...I'd like to... show more
    I read an article that said first-time moms tend to be pregnant for about 41 weeks instead of delivering on or before their due date (not counting those who get induced for whatever reason, of course). As a first-timer myself, I'm curious about how accurate this is. I know every woman and every pregnancy is different, but still...I'd like to hear some input. So, mamas with more than one child...how far along were you when you delivered your first baby?
    18 answers · Pregnancy · 1 month ago
  • I'm scared my husband won't be able to bond with our baby due to working out of town.?

    I'm five months pregnant with our first child, and my husband is going to start working out of town (actually, out of state) next month. He'll be doing shutdowns, and his first hitch is only going to be around three hours away, so right now, it doesn't seem like a huge deal since that's within easy driving distance, but I worry that... show more
    I'm five months pregnant with our first child, and my husband is going to start working out of town (actually, out of state) next month. He'll be doing shutdowns, and his first hitch is only going to be around three hours away, so right now, it doesn't seem like a huge deal since that's within easy driving distance, but I worry that the next hitch (and the one after that, and so forth) will be too far away for me to visit on the weekends. The first hitch will be over before she's born, but I'm sure the next one will have already started by that time, and with him being a new employee, I find it hard to believe that he would be able to get time off to come home. Basically, I'm terrified that he's going to miss the birth (something I honestly don't think I could ever forgive him for, as terrible as it sounds), and I'm also scared that he and our daughter won't be able to bond the way they should with him being gone so much. I know he's just doing what he has to do to provide for us, but it feels like he's trading our family away for money, and it hurts. So, my question to any ladies who have husbands working out of town/state is, how are your kids affected? Do they still have a good relationship with their dad, and if so, how do you make that happen when he's never around?
    3 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 1 month ago
  • How much do you make working shutdowns?

    I'm sure it varies between companies and jobs, so an average is fine. I'd prefer hourly or monthly pay rates. Also, what's the typical schedule like? How much time off do you get?
    I'm sure it varies between companies and jobs, so an average is fine. I'd prefer hourly or monthly pay rates. Also, what's the typical schedule like? How much time off do you get?
    1 answer · Other - Careers & Employment · 1 month ago
  • When apartments require pets to be a certain weight, how strict are they about it?

    Let's say the maximum weight listed on the website is 35 pounds, but the dog in question weighs in at a couple of pounds over that (and is fully grown, so won't grow anymore). Would they refuse to accept the dog, or would it not be a big deal since it's just barely over the limit?
    Let's say the maximum weight listed on the website is 35 pounds, but the dog in question weighs in at a couple of pounds over that (and is fully grown, so won't grow anymore). Would they refuse to accept the dog, or would it not be a big deal since it's just barely over the limit?
    12 answers · Dogs · 1 month ago
  • Facebook event invites: Is this appropriate for a baby shower?

    My sister-in-law and some other female family members are starting to plan my baby shower, and I'm kind of considering telling them to send the invites out on Facebook instead of worrying about ordering/making invitations and sending them via snail mail (paper invitations would still be required for those that don't use Facebook, but those... show more
    My sister-in-law and some other female family members are starting to plan my baby shower, and I'm kind of considering telling them to send the invites out on Facebook instead of worrying about ordering/making invitations and sending them via snail mail (paper invitations would still be required for those that don't use Facebook, but those kinds of people are obviously pretty few and far between nowadays, lol). I know people do Facebook invites for birthdays and stuff like that, but what's your opinion on sending them for showers?
    7 answers · Facebook · 1 month ago
  • Are there any sites other than Credit Karma that offer FREE credit scores?

    I have an account with Credit Karma, but haven't used it in years and no longer have access to the email address that I created the account with. Are there any other websites I can use to check my score for free?
    I have an account with Credit Karma, but haven't used it in years and no longer have access to the email address that I created the account with. Are there any other websites I can use to check my score for free?
    6 answers · Credit · 1 month ago
  • Should I be worried that my baby is measuring small?

    I had my anatomy scan done today, and the tech said everything looked great. The one issue that was mentioned was that baby girl is measuring about a week small (I'm 19 weeks, 3 days). The tech didn't seem concerned and said that my doctor may want to do an extra ultrasound just to check, but other than that, she didn't act like it was a... show more
    I had my anatomy scan done today, and the tech said everything looked great. The one issue that was mentioned was that baby girl is measuring about a week small (I'm 19 weeks, 3 days). The tech didn't seem concerned and said that my doctor may want to do an extra ultrasound just to check, but other than that, she didn't act like it was a problem and said that the ultrasound machine can be off by about four days. At my first ultrasound (5 weeks, 4 days), she measured a week behind again, but had gone up to being only two days behind by the time my eight week ultrasound rolled around (that was the first one I had with my OB, the first one was at a pregnancy center). Nothing was said at my 12 week appointment about her being too small; the doctor just said that everything looked "textbook." He didn't do an ultrasound at 16 weeks, but said my weight gain and all that seemed to be right on track.
    9 answers · Pregnancy · 2 months ago
  • "If it's yellow, let it mellow": Does this actually save money?

    I have family members who go by this policy, and it honestly makes me sick. Sure, pee doesn't typically stink right off the bat like poop, but after a while, it's not pleasant. They say they do it because it saves money, but so far, no one has been able to give me a definite number on how much they are actually saving, which makes me think... show more
    I have family members who go by this policy, and it honestly makes me sick. Sure, pee doesn't typically stink right off the bat like poop, but after a while, it's not pleasant. They say they do it because it saves money, but so far, no one has been able to give me a definite number on how much they are actually saving, which makes me think there's either no difference in their monthly water bill or the difference just isn't as much as they thought it would be and they don't want to talk about it. Does anybody on here do this, and if so, how much money has it saved you?
    6 answers · Conservation · 2 months ago
  • How long does it take to become a gestational surrogate?

    Once you've been approved by an agency, how long is the typical waiting period? I live in Texas, if that helps.
    Once you've been approved by an agency, how long is the typical waiting period? I live in Texas, if that helps.
    1 answer · Trying to Conceive · 2 months ago
  • When do you get the results of your anatomy scan?

    The other two ultrasounds I've had were done by my doctor (he was also the one to check the heartbeat with the Doppler at 16 weeks), who told me right after that everything looked fine. I go in for my anatomy scan next week (I'll be 19.5 weeks) and was told at my last appointment that the doctor wouldn't be doing this one; if anything,... show more
    The other two ultrasounds I've had were done by my doctor (he was also the one to check the heartbeat with the Doppler at 16 weeks), who told me right after that everything looked fine. I go in for my anatomy scan next week (I'll be 19.5 weeks) and was told at my last appointment that the doctor wouldn't be doing this one; if anything, he might just pop in to make sure everything is good, but other than that, we won't see him again until February. I keep reading online that ultrasound techs aren't allowed to consult with you since they're obviously not doctors, but in the event that everything looks good on the scan, will they be able to tell me? Like, when they're looking at the heart, will they be able to say, "Here's the heart; everything is developing like it should," and so on? Or do they have to forward all the results to the doctor to share at the next appointment? Also, do they ALWAYS check the NT measurements during the 12-week scan? When the doctor did mine, he never mentioned that he was checking anything specific. Is this kind of a "no news is good news" thing, or do some doctors just not take those measurements that early?
    6 answers · Pregnancy · 2 months ago
  • How does your family handle Christmas shopping?

    I feel like my family's "tradition" is so simple compared to a lot of people I know, lol. Friends are busy talking about, "Oh, I still have to buy something for my dad, my aunt, my grandpa, etc." In my family (both the one I was born into and my in-laws), all we buy for are the cousins/nephews/nieces/etc. who are younger than... show more
    I feel like my family's "tradition" is so simple compared to a lot of people I know, lol. Friends are busy talking about, "Oh, I still have to buy something for my dad, my aunt, my grandpa, etc." In my family (both the one I was born into and my in-laws), all we buy for are the cousins/nephews/nieces/etc. who are younger than 18 (and then we do a gift exchange game for the adults where everybody spends $10-$15). It seems weird to friends I've mentioned it to, but personally, I love it. Instead of stressing over what to get for everybody, all my husband and I have to do is hand each kid money. Half of them are teenagers and to the point where when you ask them what they want, they just kind of shrug and say, "I don't know," and the other half are still young enough that when you hand them a $20 bill, they look at you like you just gave them a million bucks, which to me is even more fun than giving them toys. Anybody else's family do this, or are we just weird? :)
    4 answers · Family · 2 months ago
  • Should I be worried if I haven't felt the baby move at 17 weeks?

    I'm 17 weeks pregnant with my first baby and keep hearing people talk about "quickening" or "flutters," and so far, I haven't felt any. The only times I think I MIGHT have felt something was once during week 12 and once during week 13...it felt kind of like a little muscle twitch, but it was way up by my belly button.... show more
    I'm 17 weeks pregnant with my first baby and keep hearing people talk about "quickening" or "flutters," and so far, I haven't felt any. The only times I think I MIGHT have felt something was once during week 12 and once during week 13...it felt kind of like a little muscle twitch, but it was way up by my belly button. When I had my 12 week ultrasound, we could see the baby kicking, and when the doctor used the Doppler at my 16 week appointment, he said the little rustling noises we were hearing was the baby moving, so I know there's at least some action going on in there...but shouldn't I be able to feel it now that baby is getting bigger?
    1 answer · Pregnancy · 2 months ago
  • Can an OBGYN drop you because you get Medicaid?

    I'm four months pregnant, and even though my husband and I both have full-time jobs, they're for small, family-owned companies who not only don't pay very much, but don't offer any health insurance. My parents are helping us out with paying for prenatal care (my OBGYN doesn't accept Medicaid, and neither do any of the others who... show more
    I'm four months pregnant, and even though my husband and I both have full-time jobs, they're for small, family-owned companies who not only don't pay very much, but don't offer any health insurance. My parents are helping us out with paying for prenatal care (my OBGYN doesn't accept Medicaid, and neither do any of the others who have admitting privileges at the only hospital I feel comfortable giving birth in), and about half of the total amount due has already been paid (we have 10 weeks to pay the rest, and thanks to my parents' involvement, it looks like it will probably happen a little sooner than that). However, they're not made of money, either, and even though they were able to pitch in for the prenatal care, the hospital bills (especially in the event that, God forbid, there are complications that involve the baby having to stay in the NICU and whatnot) are a little steep for them. My concern is, since my doctor doesn't accept Medicaid, could he choose to drop me as a patient? The hospital is fine with accepting Medicaid patients, so I'm not worried about them, but doesn't the doctor get paid for actually delivering the baby in addition to providing care throughout the pregnancy? Thanks to anyone who can help answer my question.
    11 answers · Pregnancy · 2 months ago