It would mean the world if you can help me out here. I recently posted another question, regarding my engagement status. I have been with someone for a very long time, and he's been nothing but great to me. We both based our relationship on honesty and trust. Once, we were talking about our relationships in the past, and even though I told him I had been with several guys before him, he told me that I was the FIRST woman he'd ever fallen in love with and gotten into a serious relationship with. (NOTE: THIS IS A VERY IMPORTANT PART OF MY STORY) He denied ever being in a relationship with a woman. This made me admire him even more.
Since we live together, we were planning our wedding schedules and all the dates and numbers.
For a few months he was coming home late. Blaming his work. Sometimes he said he was at a friends house and etc. I kind of got suspicious for whatever reason.
For a few weeks, I asked him to stay more at home and help with the wedding arrangements. He agreed. One night, he was taking a shower, and his computer was on Facebook. He told me he'd take a quick shower, then get dressed to take me out on a dinner date on our anniversary. As he was away, I heard a msg pop in his browser. I ignored it as it was none of my business. But several messages kept coming and made me wonder if someone really wanted to talk to him. It was a woman, I had never met or heard of, and she was begging him to take her back and that she would promise to be better than me (his fiancee). It was a little shocking. I am not a person to invade privacies, but this was outrageous. In a moment of emotional rush, I checked his message history. I couldn't believe my eyes. He had been with, at least 20 girls in the past, and I'm talking about serious relationships. There were flirtatious messages he had sent to girls he did not know. And there were extremely dirty messages involved.
When my fiance came out of the shower i told him I had a very bad headache and we stayed indoors.
The thing is, I couldn't care less if he had been with a thousand girls if he told me the truth from the beginning. He told me I was the first woman involved in his life... to find out there were at least a dozen more women in his life and that he lied about them...just broke my heart, considering that my BEST friend from childhood was one of these random girls he'd sent messages to.
I need to talk to him and confront him about lying to me. AGAIN I wouldnt care about the girlfriends if he had come clean from the beginning. I'm not sure how to confront him... would you please help me out? Im outraged and disappointed in him :(