I am so ashamed of myself, having to resolve to staying up late and watching porn behind her back for a quick release but it seems the only way I can survive while remaining faithful in this nearly sexless marriage.
What do I do>?
I don't know who to turn to, now our child is grown and sleeps through the night, I cook and help take care of the house just to see her come home, turn on the tv, flip through the channels and deny my advances, or just crash on the couch for a "nap" which ends up being an all nighter. IF we end up having sex, it's either because I nag and argue and nag some more, or because she feels bad from my begging so much. And it's almost always a sloppy job, a late night too-tired-for-it, or a can-you-hurry-and-get-it-over-with kinda performance. But she doesn't see it that way!
Thing is I didn't enter this marriage to beg for sex. And I shouldn't be making the advances every single time?
I feel like I'm on my own on this one and I can only resort to asking folks who don't know me personally, can you help me help my wife?
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my wife is not great at making love to me and does not watch porn how do I get her to improve in our sex life?
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