• What sort of a future can I build for my marriage?

    A month ago I was feeling neglected because my husband would sit up all night on the computer and was sparing me very little time. In the evening, he would come home late, doze off on the couch and despite all my best efforts he would not converse. At weekends he was too tired to give me any attention. He had always claimed to be sexually shy and... show more
    A month ago I was feeling neglected because my husband would sit up all night on the computer and was sparing me very little time. In the evening, he would come home late, doze off on the couch and despite all my best efforts he would not converse. At weekends he was too tired to give me any attention. He had always claimed to be sexually shy and pretended he had been a virgin when we met. He had also given me a very tough time for the first few years we were together, on the grounds that his ex gf had cheated on him, and telling me over and over that if I did the same, he would never forgive me, I felt he was punishing me for the experience he had had with his ex, At the end of January, I discovered he had been having an affair with a pupil from the school where he works. He bought her a phone and paid 5-10 credit daily for her whilst our children dress in 2nd hand clothes and we eat supermarket cheapest brands. He has been suspended from work and I have asked him to leave our home. The police are involved and he stands to be prosecuted once they have investigated him. I then found out he has been having regular cybersex for years. This dates back over at least half of our marriage and through two of my pregnancies. He has even contrived for us to meet with and socialise with one of his online contacts, with whom he has had a cybersexual relationship, which he says only occurred after we met her. I was 7 1/2 months pregnant when we met her. I feel utterly betrayed and lost. I now find, however, that he is at my home every day, begging for another chance and insistant that he has changed and can be trusted. How can you tell if someone has changed? I love him deeply and feel my four children and I have lost everything because he has mistreated us. Do you think in this situation you could save your relationship or not?
    8 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 10 years ago
  • What can I do to improve my marriage?

    My husband sits on the couch and dozes off every evening. If I call him, he wakes up and denies having been asleep, even though he was snoring. When I go to bed, around midnight, he wakes up and then sits on the PC for 3 or 4 hours, coming to bed frequently at around 3 or 4 in the morning. This has been going on for several years. We have seen... show more
    My husband sits on the couch and dozes off every evening. If I call him, he wakes up and denies having been asleep, even though he was snoring. When I go to bed, around midnight, he wakes up and then sits on the PC for 3 or 4 hours, coming to bed frequently at around 3 or 4 in the morning. This has been going on for several years. We have seen a counsellor, but he just let her advice wash over him. He agreed with her, that he needed to develop more 'me time' during normal waking hours, but he has done nothing about it. I feel totally taken for granted. Our marriage is not as I would like it. How can I change things?
    5 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago
  • If my ovulation is delayed, should I expect another positive opk or not?

    My OPK was positive about a week ago, and all the associated signs suggested ovulation, but I had no thermal shift. Now I may not ovulate at all, or I may have dealyed ovulation, but if I were to ovulate later than expected, would I have a second positive opk or should I not bother continuing to test?
    My OPK was positive about a week ago, and all the associated signs suggested ovulation, but I had no thermal shift. Now I may not ovulate at all, or I may have dealyed ovulation, but if I were to ovulate later than expected, would I have a second positive opk or should I not bother continuing to test?
    2 answers · Trying to Conceive · 1 decade ago
  • How many air vents should I fit in a built in wardrobe?

    My built in wardrobe is the length of the room - around 12 ft. It is on the exterior wall and across a disused chimney breast and there is a problem with condensation. I realised this morning I am going to have to fit air brick/s to solve the problem. The question is, do I need more than one vent because the wardrobe is long? Or will a vent into... show more
    My built in wardrobe is the length of the room - around 12 ft. It is on the exterior wall and across a disused chimney breast and there is a problem with condensation. I realised this morning I am going to have to fit air brick/s to solve the problem. The question is, do I need more than one vent because the wardrobe is long? Or will a vent into the chimney do the job? At the moment there is no vent into the disused chimney breast. Thanks
    2 answers · Maintenance & Repairs · 1 decade ago
  • Late period, neg pregnancy tests, what is going on?

    I am 35 and I do have children (so my doctor says I can't have pcos), but in the last 12 months or so (a year after my last injection of depo provera) my periods have been much lighter and frequently irregular. The first doctor I saw said I might be going through menopause, but tests were normal (diabetes, thyroid, estrogens, LH &FSH). The next... show more
    I am 35 and I do have children (so my doctor says I can't have pcos), but in the last 12 months or so (a year after my last injection of depo provera) my periods have been much lighter and frequently irregular. The first doctor I saw said I might be going through menopause, but tests were normal (diabetes, thyroid, estrogens, LH &FSH). The next doctor said it is probably just one of those things, especially since I am a little overweight (Just less than obese BMI) but I am really worried because this does not 'feel' right. The only other time I have felt things were 'wrong' I collapsed with a ruptured ectopic pregnancy after repeated fruitless trips to the GP. Does anyone have any advice? Should I go back again? I am finding it terribly embarassing to see the GP and be treated like a timewaster. Thanks
    6 answers · Women's Health · 1 decade ago
  • What makes the best chippy?

    I want to make my chip shop in Tenerife the best in the world - what do you think makes the best chippy?
    I want to make my chip shop in Tenerife the best in the world - what do you think makes the best chippy?
    11 answers · Fast Food · 1 decade ago
  • How can I tell if the water stain on my ceiling is from an old problem or a new one?

    I have lived in my current house (An Edwardian semi in reasonable condition but obviously over 100 years old..) for 8 months now. In that time I have had my upstairs bathroom remodelled with a granite floor. Now I notice a water stain on the ceiling of the bathroom below. This might be new and relating to the remodelling or it mightbe an old... show more
    I have lived in my current house (An Edwardian semi in reasonable condition but obviously over 100 years old..) for 8 months now. In that time I have had my upstairs bathroom remodelled with a granite floor. Now I notice a water stain on the ceiling of the bathroom below. This might be new and relating to the remodelling or it mightbe an old stain which has been painted over when we moved in. It seems dry and is just a brown ring. Without ripping up my expensive granite floor, how can I tell whether this is a new problem or just the evidence of an old problem which was painted over to sell the house?
    7 answers · Maintenance & Repairs · 1 decade ago
  • What is most economical to run - a slow cooker or a fan oven on a low 150 degree slow roast?

    If I stick a casserole in my fan oven for 4 hours is it costing more to cook than if I used a slow cooker?
    If I stick a casserole in my fan oven for 4 hours is it costing more to cook than if I used a slow cooker?
    3 answers · Cooking & Recipes · 1 decade ago
  • Can ovarian problems cause pregnancy symptoms?

    I am on CD 36 of a variable 31-38 day cycle. I am suffering from nausea, tetchiness, headache and fatigue. I can smell EVERYTHING and it all makes me feel queasy. I am so tired I could fall asleep on my feet. I have had these symtoms increasingly for 6 days now. I have taken pregnancy tests today and two days ago and they have been negative. ... show more
    I am on CD 36 of a variable 31-38 day cycle. I am suffering from nausea, tetchiness, headache and fatigue. I can smell EVERYTHING and it all makes me feel queasy. I am so tired I could fall asleep on my feet. I have had these symtoms increasingly for 6 days now. I have taken pregnancy tests today and two days ago and they have been negative. The last time I had intercourse was 15 days ago so I would expect they are right and I am not pregnant. I was going to ignore the symptoms and hope they went away, but then it occurred to me that there could be something wrong like a cyst or something. Anyone know if they can mimic pregnancy symptoms? Thanks
    4 answers · Women's Health · 1 decade ago
  • Wil MMORPGs exceed my broadband 5GB download limit?

    If I have a 5GB download limit how do I monitor it? I play MMORPGs online - would these eat my limit fast or not?
    If I have a 5GB download limit how do I monitor it? I play MMORPGs online - would these eat my limit fast or not?
    4 answers · Video & Online Games · 1 decade ago
  • How should the Roman Catholic Church make up for the decline in young man taking up the priesthood?

    Fewer and fewer candidates for priesthood present themselves these days and many British parishes share priests already or are dependent on visiting priests to say mass. How do you think the Church the R.C. community might best maintain its identity and continue to offer traditional means of participation, access to sacraments and spiritual... show more
    Fewer and fewer candidates for priesthood present themselves these days and many British parishes share priests already or are dependent on visiting priests to say mass. How do you think the Church the R.C. community might best maintain its identity and continue to offer traditional means of participation, access to sacraments and spiritual guidance in a period of declining recruitment?
    23 answers · Religion & Spirituality · 1 decade ago
  • What would you replace your car with?

    If you HAD to because of increasing costs and social/environmental pressures, what would you replace your car with? Donkey and cart? Pedal power? What would you want to do?
    If you HAD to because of increasing costs and social/environmental pressures, what would you replace your car with? Donkey and cart? Pedal power? What would you want to do?
    11 answers · Other - Cars & Transportation · 1 decade ago
  • How do garden centres deter slugs and snails?

    I have terrible trouble with garden pests - slugs, snails, greenfly, whitefly etc, and I spend all summer putting down pellets (which go furry) and spraying pests, or even avoiding plants which pests see as a tasty salad. The worst example was a chrysanthemum bush which I planted one aftternoon and which, the following morning, was just a tiny... show more
    I have terrible trouble with garden pests - slugs, snails, greenfly, whitefly etc, and I spend all summer putting down pellets (which go furry) and spraying pests, or even avoiding plants which pests see as a tasty salad. The worst example was a chrysanthemum bush which I planted one aftternoon and which, the following morning, was just a tiny stem, as every scrap had been eaten. Anyway, it occurred to me that garden centres don't have evidence of pest infestation, or else they would loose custom. Anybody kow how they do it? Slug charming? Stern warnings? Picking individual slugs and rehoming them? How is it done?
    8 answers · Garden & Landscape · 1 decade ago
  • What would I need to set up my 36" tropical tank?

    I have been given a 36" tank to upgrade from my 20" little tank. I previously had an undergravel filter with an air pump, which also aerated the tank through an air stone, and in addition a heater and a lamp. My new tank is significantly bigger at 36x18x12ins and when I was looking into buying a filter I got the impression that an... show more
    I have been given a 36" tank to upgrade from my 20" little tank. I previously had an undergravel filter with an air pump, which also aerated the tank through an air stone, and in addition a heater and a lamp. My new tank is significantly bigger at 36x18x12ins and when I was looking into buying a filter I got the impression that an undergravel such as the sort I used before might not be the most suitable and that a canister might do a better job. Am I right in thinking I would need an air pump just to aerate alone as well? Sorry of this is a stupid question - I will be asking my lfs as well, but wanted some opinions from you guys first. I always had trouble keeping tetras in my other tank and with occasional nitrate flares, and wonder now if i was because the undergravel filter was not working as well as I had hoped?
    4 answers · Fish · 1 decade ago
  • Can a dog be trained by its owner to only 'go' at home?

    I was reading about a park I would like to visit and deciding whether to take the dogs with me or not and I read the following guidelines: "Parks are enjoyed by thousands of people each year. It is antisocial to let your dog foul public areas Clean up. Use the dog bins provided or take it home. Keep a poop scoop in your... show more
    I was reading about a park I would like to visit and deciding whether to take the dogs with me or not and I read the following guidelines: "Parks are enjoyed by thousands of people each year. It is antisocial to let your dog foul public areas Clean up. Use the dog bins provided or take it home. Keep a poop scoop in your pocket. Infection from faeces can damage your health. Train your dog to go at home. Uncontrolled dogs can be frightening to others. Please be a responsible dog owner." Obviously the point is to 'Pick it up' as spelled by the first letter of each line, but I am curious; my dogs are housetrained and use a specific area of our yard as their loo, but if we are out and they have need, they will 'go'. I would have no idea how to train them not to.....?!?!? Is this even possible? Anybody managed to ask their dogs not to toilet away from home successfully? If anyone is interested, I would like to say they usually toilet before we go out and if they mess I clean up
    12 answers · Dogs · 1 decade ago
  • Xenical and exercise not working - have you found the same?

    I am 4 stone overweight. I have been taking xenical 3x daily for a fortnight and no weight loss. I have been on a strict no-fat diet and no snacks. No alcohol or high-carb foods - just low fat slow carbs, carefully portion controlled. I have also been exercising at a heart rate of 120 for 30 mins daily, (my resting heart rate is 72) but not... show more
    I am 4 stone overweight. I have been taking xenical 3x daily for a fortnight and no weight loss. I have been on a strict no-fat diet and no snacks. No alcohol or high-carb foods - just low fat slow carbs, carefully portion controlled. I have also been exercising at a heart rate of 120 for 30 mins daily, (my resting heart rate is 72) but not as much as a pound off. I am obviously worried about my thyroid, but was wondering has anybody else experienced this problem?
    5 answers · Diet & Fitness · 1 decade ago
  • Who would you cast as Commander Sam Vimes if Sky brought the City Watch series to TV?

    I have settled on Warren Clarke as Colon but am really stuck for a good Sam Vimes and even worse, Carrot. Any good ideas?
    I have settled on Warren Clarke as Colon but am really stuck for a good Sam Vimes and even worse, Carrot. Any good ideas?
    2 answers · Drama · 1 decade ago