So, my boyfriend and I are both in college, and we've been dating for a year and a half now. We had some issues in the beginning of our relationship and had split up at one point, but it's been resolved for quite some time now, and it's been progressively more serious. Now, I met his parents for the first time this past summer, and...
So, my boyfriend and I are both in college, and we've been dating for a year and a half now. We had some issues in the beginning of our relationship and had split up at one point, but it's been resolved for quite some time now, and it's been progressively more serious. Now, I met his parents for the first time this past summer, and since then have seen them a few times. He went home this weekend, he goes home every other weekend consistently, and he lives really close to the campus. My family lives two hours away, but they are visiting me today, and had told me to invite my boyfriend to dinner with them. I did, but he said he can't go because his mom got really peeved that I had asked, because I get to see him all the time, and this was her time to have him or something. I had also recently asked him to Thanksgiving, I got the OK for that, but she was really reluctant about it. He said she also seems very concerned about us spending so much time together under the pretense it might "hurt our grades". He said she thinks she's worried we might get married soon or something. He's in Biochemistry and I'm in Computer Science and Engineering, so obviously we care a lot about our schoolwork and careers, prioritizing that over our personal lives. Much of our time together is spent studying. I know these are just small issues, but I'm afraid that it will get worst as the relationship gets more serious.
I know better than to badmouth his mom and just ignore her altogether, he's really close to his family. So not only do I just want to be the ideal girlfriend, I know I'd lose the battle if he had to pick one of us. I want them to be able to like me and to be ok with me dating their son (and possibly marry him down the road--like post-college). So one of my options was to see them more and get them used to the idea, but I'm afraid that might make matters worst because then I'm always around and intruding into family time or something. He said his family does like me, and I like them too, so I think it's more of an issue of "I'm stealing their son". So, any suggestions on how to get his mom to like me?