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  • How do i stop my 2 year old son from hitting and pushing?

    My son has recently turned aggressive, it has gotten so bad that his daycare has gotten close to asking me to not bring him back. I have tried time outs and firm NO and taking stuff from him. To be honest i just don't know. His father was visually abusive to me but the last time my son witnessed it he was 15 months old and i don't believe that could have had an effect on him. Also he is very whiny and constantly is fussing over little things just to get time with me. What can i do? I am out of options and I need some help and fast.

    7 AnswersToddler & Preschooler1 decade ago
  • I dont know what it is or what to do?

    my son is 2 years old and just recently he has gotten into the habit of almost every time he wakes up from sleeping or a nap he cries frantically for 10 minutes to 2 hours. When he is fully awake he is active and loves to play. His appetite varies from eating tons to very little and sometimes he wont eat something he normally loves and other days he will go back to it. He loves running around and he is learning new words every day but doesn't talk at the "normal" 2 year old level (but my mother says i didn't talk until i was 5 and my younger sister didn't until she was 3). I am worried about the crying when he wakes up. Could it be nightmares or is it just because he wakes up hard every time he sleeps? I don't know if he is sick or what but this has happened more and more frequently over the past 2 weeks, though there are some times he whimpers for a sec and then just moves on with his day. Any advice would be great.

    2 AnswersToddler & Preschooler1 decade ago
  • I need to know how to break this habit?

    Just last September my sister, her bf and our children all moved into together. My daughters and son are thriving and my niece get along with all three of my kids. My sister unfortunately was unable to break her daughter of the pacifier habit. My son had broken the habit when he was 5 months old and about a week after we all moved in together he picked the habit back up. My sister and I have desperately tried to break their habit but it has become a problem, so much they wont even sleep without them. We have tried everything we could think of but now we are out of answers. So how do we break this habit? Does anyone have any ideas that will break the habit semi smoothly?

    6 AnswersToddler & Preschooler1 decade ago
  • We need advice and soon....dinner time is a problem?

    Here's the problem....

    My sister and i are both single mothers with absentee fathers so we moved in together and are raising our 4 children (twin 4 year old girls, a 2 year old girl, and a 23 month old boy). They are a handful but we manage them well. My 3 children can make tons of mischief but at the dinner table my little ones have established they eat what they are given and they eat until they are comfortable enough to not want to eat until the next meal. The problem is my niece (she is the 2 year old), she is a picky eater and she only eats a couple bites and then an hour later is saying she is hungry again. This happens every day all day. My sister is exhausted from this behavior and she just wants her daughter to have regular meals at mealtime. How do i help my sister break her daughters habit?

    3 AnswersToddler & Preschooler1 decade ago
  • I need HELP! I really don't know what to do?

    Here's the thing. I am stuck in the middle of a horrible situation. My parents have been married for 19 years. They have 1 daughter together(age 13) and I am from my mother's previous marriage. I am living with them because my (now) ex husband and i lost our home to the so-cal fires. Their marriage has been going downhill for years. My dad is an alcoholic and a stoner. Has been for over 25 years. Just recently my dad started becoming aggressive and mean. Just on Firday i had to pull my parents off eachother with all my strength because they were fighting physically. My dad left bruises on my mom and welts. I didnt call the police because i didnt want my dad arrested. Saturday was miserable but there was only arguing. But on mother's day after a heated argument over my little sister's disrespectful behavior my parents split into different areas and tried to eat dinner. My mom then proceeded to come out and her and i argued because i was upset over her leaving after i made a nice dinner and lugging out all 3 highchairs. Then she went back in and my dad followed 10 minutes later. He then threatened my little sister and my mom called the police. They came and since my mom had bruises they were obligated to arrest him. My mom had put a restraining order on my dad just for the entire family's safety. Now my mom is freaking out and i dont know what to do to help her. She blames herself and she is beating herself up for this. All we want is for my dad to get some help and get off his drugs. What can i do to help her, my sister and all the while help my father

    11 AnswersFamily1 decade ago
  • I need HELP! I really don't know what to do?

    Here's the thing. I am stuck in the middle of a horrible situation. My parents have been married for 19 years. They have 1 daughter together(age 13) and I am from my mother's previous marriage. I am living with them because my (now) ex husband and i lost our home to the so-cal fires. Their marriage has been going downhill for years. My dad is an alcoholic and a stoner. Has been for over 25 years. Just recently my dad started becoming aggressive and mean. Just on Firday i had to pull my parents off eachother with all my strength because they were fighting physically. My dad left bruises on my mom and welts. I didnt call the police because i didnt want my dad arrested. Saturday was miserable but there was only arguing. But on mother's day after a heated argument over my little sister's disrespectful behavior my parents split into different areas and tried to eat dinner. My mom then proceeded to come out and her and i argued because i was upset over her leaving after i made a nice dinner and lugging out all 3 highchairs. Then she went back in and my dad followed 10 minutes later. He then threatened my little sister and my mom called the police. They came and since my mom had bruises they were obligated to arrest him. My mom had put a restraining order on my dad just for the entire family's safety. Now my mom is freaking out and i dont know what to do to help her. She blames herself and she is beating herself up for this. All we want is for my dad to get some help and get off his drugs. What can i do to help her, my sister and all the while help my father

    2 AnswersFamily1 decade ago
  • Has anyone been through this?

    I was wondering if there were days where you just feel like the world is crumbling around you and you go into your room and cry until there are no more tears left for you to cry? I did that today.

    I'm going through alot and im seriously stressed. I am in the middle of deciding if i should leave my husband of 5 years even though i love him; im starting to go back to college, i am raising my 3 children on my own (all 3 today were being difficult and they were throwing tantrums left and right); im about to lose my place to live because my mother doesn't want us here anymore; and my job is coming to an end and though i have been trying to find another job nothing has showed up.

    Today after i put my kids down for a nap i went into the kitchen and cried. I have never done this and i thing im going nuts. Is there something to be worried about?

    7 AnswersMental Health1 decade ago
  • Would you....leave or stay with the usual?

    As of today i have considered the pros and cons of my marriage with my husband. The fact that i considered leaving him shows we are most likely at our end. The thing is that im still on the fence because why i might leave....

    I just celebrated my 5 year anniversary with my 31 year old husband (im 23). Our life is far from ideal but that was the least of my problems. Sitting with my 3 children trying to get on my feet i decided to look at what my life turned into.

    I spend every waking hour either working or taking care of my children (I live with my mother right now since we lost our home a few months ago). Each week, my children and i see my husband for about 3-4 hours in total. During the rest of the time he hangs out with his buddy (where he is staying), drinking and getting stoned. Up until recently it bothered me a little bit but i never wanted to worry about it. My husband is bouncing from job to job, not wanting to get a solid, high paying job because he would have to cut his hair and conform to society. I just had started going back to school to get my AA in accounting. I begged him to go back to school. He is a big gamer and i thought that mixing his intelligence and his love for games would be most beneficial so being a game designer would be great. He doesnt want to. Now he is starting to comment about my weight and tells me that im too fat to be loved. He doesnt help with the house or the children and the more i ask him to be part of the family the more he spends time acting like a bachelor coming in and out of the house as he pleases.

    My income is coming to an end but i can bounce back and get a decent paying job. So i am sitting here and thinking, i have this guy who is only making my life harder but i love him so much, so i am wondering, i am almost ready to move out...

    Should i move out by myself and my children or have him move with us. As i said i love him and my kids love him, i have put 7 years of my life into our relationship. He is a good father to them when he IS actually around so i dont want to take him away from them. BUT i dont think i want to continue living from day to day having the extra drama in my life.

    I need some opinions. Please put yourself in my shoes and tell me what you would do...Stay with him or just cut my losses.

    13 AnswersMarriage & Divorce1 decade ago
  • high energy? help what can i do for him?

    my son is now coming onto 18 months and i have realized that him and i have a new hurdle to cross. my son has high amounts of energy. he runs around terrorizing the house and doesn't stop. At 8 am he wakes up and starts running around playing and at 7 pm he starts winding down. He stops to eat but no naps. I cant get him to sit still for long so i am unsuccessful at teaching him shapes and letters and colors. I am looking for advice on activities on how to burn my son's energy and can teach him things he should start learning. I NEED to find a resolution to this problem...right now i can't do this on my own and even my day care i have for him says he has too much energy.

    2 AnswersToddler & Preschooler1 decade ago
  • Am i weird? Or is it some genetic defect?

    OK here's the deal...

    My mom(age 46) , my sisters (ages 23 and 12) and i (age 23) all have this weird thing that goes on. At random moments we hear a high pitched squeal, like a whistle or something. IF we are nearby each other we ask if the others heard something and we all hear it. BUt if we are apart we are the only ones that hear it. So are we going nuts, hearing things because of bad ears or is it a genetic defect that the females in my family can hear sounds at a higher pitch than normal human ears?

    5 AnswersOther - Health1 decade ago
  • Mom needs help? Im just not sure what to do anymore.?

    Ok, i have just a few problems that i need advice on.

    Im getting to the point where all the books are scaring me about the development of my child and what i can do. My twins developed so much more different than my son is developing now and i know that each child grows and develops differently so i try not to compare him, but i look at what books advise on what proper development is and other children around me and i see that my son is taking some steps behind what he should be. My duaghters are watching this suffering with me and are also going through some things this year that i worry has affected them more than i may know. Im gonna list my concerns:

    1. My son is 16 months old and though we found a sipper cup that he likes, he doesn't drink from them consistently but they spill and i worry that he needs to be going to the sipper cup that is for his age group. He is constantly drinking out of bottles morning, noon and night. What should i do?

    2. My son is starting to throw tantrums over the smallest of things (i.e. closing the door when anyone leaves the house, taking something away that he shouldnt have in his in hands and many more little things) and im afraid he is too young to understand the "timeouts" i put him in every time he starts one. What can i do about thetantrums and is he too young to understand my disaplining.

    3. I am going back to work after being at home since i was 6 months pregnant with my son. I started training on the 3rd of december and every time i went to my training my son went into tears when i left him. What do I do to make him feel better when im gone?

    4. This year has been hard on us, the fires this year consumed our home and now i am living with my mother until we get back on our feet, we barely had enough money for gifts and on top of that my family is going to be in maui on christmas (except me, my children and my husband) so my mother didnt want to put up a tree (especially with my son who is breaking things all the time) so all we are doing is putting up the stockings over the mantle. What else can i do to make the holidays special for my daughters especially after all they have gone through this year?

    I am looking for advice on these things, please give me the best answers you can offer. I need help.

    4 AnswersParenting1 decade ago
  • Mom, me and drama? What should I do?

    I'm 23 years old and i hit a wall with my mom yet again. For the entirety of my life my mother would go on what i like to call her Rampages...My dad and my sister feel the same but im the only one that has the guts and brains to say what is going on. Just recently our home was caught in one of the fires that rocked Southern California this year. My son, my husband and i were left homeless and vulnerable. To my suprise my mother had me and my son move in (there was barely enough space for us so my hubby is staying at a friends). I know she didn't have to so i have thanked her tons. Every day i try to keep up after my son as he makes a mess and during the evenings im in classes to get a job. I make dinners, do dishes and help with laundry not to mention helping clean the house. My whole life my mother complains about a dirty home but hardly does anything to help. She justifies herself by spending 12 hours a day working (4 hours actually working) and volunteering. But yet my sister (only 12 years old) and myself are always busy. Just today my mother went off over that she had to sweep and said i need to step up more. Just 2 days ago i pulled a muscle so badly in my back that i am physically sick from the pain. Every night i stay up in pain and throwing up. Instead of being caring and checking on me she just tells me to suck it up and clean more. I dont get her and how she can be so cruel. I cant live up to her impossible standards and i refuse to just sit there and take the tyrades over something she doesnt do herself. None of my family is happy over her activities but we say nothing because it makes her happy. What can i do to stop her? Ive had enough of her telling me im a piece of crap for not spending every moment of my life away from my family and dedicating myself to making everyone happy except my family. What do i say to her to get her off my back without being mean to her?

    3 AnswersFamily1 decade ago
  • What should I do? It happened before and I think I was wrong!?

    Here is the back Story....

    My husband and I have been together since i was 16 and now I"m 23 it had been a long and happy road EXCEPT a little over 3 years ago, shortly after my best friend passed away and I was completely broken and lost. She left behind a little boy who was 12 at the time and her husband (my husbands best friend). About a month later my best friends late husband was telling me that my husband only kept me around because i was the money maker(we both worked but i made more money because of i was making $13 per hour), he was cheating on me, and that he thought i was disgusting. I never confronted my husband about it and I left in a week later. After 2months of raising my girls and watching them cry for their father and crying myself to sleep after he would call every day telling me he loved me and wanted me back i sent him across the country to NY to start his life over. He did it and it killed me to know that i loved him. about a month later i decided to ask him about his friends claims and explain why i left him. He denied it all and told me he loved me and wanted to be with me. I decided to go back to him and in NY we started over. Shortly after i got pregnant my husband became distant with me and the children. We moved back to CA and bought a home, but that only made matters worse he started spending more time with his friends than he did with me. We were starting to work things out when the holidays came around and we went down to see my folks for thanksgiving and he decided to stay with the friend that broke us apart in the first place. I was ok that they were still friends but I always was worried that it would happen again. We brought our cat with us but my husband kept the cat with him and my husband went to run some errands in San Diego and left the cat at the friends house. So this morning the friend texted me and told me me that the cat went to the bathroom all over the house, i offered to go clean it up but he said no and then told me that i should watch my husband and that he was saying stuff he shouldnt he was so vague i didnt know what he ment but i got the idea he was talking about me. I know im worried and im not sure if i am right in doing so. I don't know who to believe or what to do? Any advice? I already asked my husband and he says he doesnt know what that meant. Was the friend always right or was he trying to break us apart and is doing it again?

    1 AnswerSingles & Dating1 decade ago
  • What should I do? She won't Listen...?

    Almost 2 years ago, my in-laws and my husband and i decided to sell our homes to move in together because i was pregnant with my 3rd child (first 2 were twins) and my in-laws were very sick and couldn't handle being alone. So we moved in and have lived semi happy. Just recently my mother in law was diagnosed with diabetes amongst her having Mersa, Mono, and a few other things wrong...Just last week the doctor called us and said she might have cancer. Since we found out about the diabetes i have tried to get her to eat right and do as she is supposed to. I know its hard to break old habits so i give her a break and just monitor everything she eats. And we together had been controlling her blood sugar, but 4 days ago her ex lover came back from Iraq and is staying in our home (I actually hate the guy)...cause we share the cost of the home i cant get rid of him but i made her promise me she wasnt going to go running around the whole 2 weeks the guy was here, she was gone for 2 days almost 3 already and is going out to run errands that are totally useless and a waste of time since we have to go back the same store later in the week. AND she is going back to spending 3-5 days away from the house in a couple days. She is supposed to be resting and watching her diet but with this guy she doesnt and last night when her and i were in an arguement about her going out and not resting and i told her "If it wasnt for me you would be in the hospital sick" (which even her doctor said to her) the guy decided to put his 2 cents in and say "you didnt do that you just want to be bowed before and worshiped". I wanted to just throw him out and that way she can rest and take care of herself. She worships this guy so much that even her new husband is unhappy and is upset about what is going on. I have about given up and just let her eat herself into a diabetic coma...But then i think that my husband and his siblings already lost their father and changed dramatically from it so i cant let them loose her too. She is being selfish and cruel to herself. I dont see why she does this. What can i do? Any advice?

    6 AnswersFamily1 decade ago
  • When is too early? How to start?

    My son had just turned 1 year old 2 weeks ago and i have noticed i have a problem with him. He tends to hit the spoon out of my hand when i am feeding him and he plays with the computer and when we tell him no he looks at us, smiles and goes back to it. This is a consistent in our lives and i never dealt with it with my twin girls since for the first 2 years all they did was play with their toys with each other. So now what do i do with my son? Is it too early to start disciplining him? How should i start if i should? Timeouts or is he too young to appreciate the value of them?

    4 AnswersNewborn & Baby1 decade ago
  • I need some help, I am just not sure anymore...

    Here is the deal, I live out on my own with my husband and 3 children, I own my own home but it is about 3 hours from my mothers house so i go down to see her every month for 2 weeks. This past 7 weeks my mother was under tons of stress planning 3 events that lined up within 3 weeks one of them being a wedding for her friend, so i passed off these tirades of yelling at everyone for nothing as just that she was stressed. This morning (BTW my mom has nothing but work and relaxing in her schedule) went on yet another tirade over her house having her stuff all over the place and the house needing to be picked up. Yesterday i offered to help her out and clean up a bit and she told me "No i will take care of it its my house." So i didn't bother worrying about it, i just worked on the thank you cards for my son's first birthday party gifts and let my twin girls just play with their brother. I admit that my kids left some toys around and forgot to pick them up so i explained to her calmly that they are not used to having all of their toys all at once and i will pick them up. After she left for work i realized this is a concistancy that happens even when i am not around because my younger sister calls me crying about it and i remember over the course of my youth this happening all the time. What is going on with my mom that she acts this way? what can i do to make her stop? this is abuse and i dont think any of my family can take any more of it.

    1 AnswerOther - Family & Relationships1 decade ago
  • Help! I am running out of time and I'm not sure!

    I am going to a wedding on Saturday August 9th and i bought the most perfect dress in the world. It is a satin blue halter dress (for those that know the famous white dress that Marylin Monroe wore that flies up as she is pushing the front down in Gentlemen Prefer Blondes that is the style i am wearing). I need to know a hairstyle that will match the dress and will loook great.

    Things to consider:

    1. My hair is shoulder length and has tons of layers

    2. I am 22 years old

    3. It will be hot and humid

    4. My hair CAN hold curls well since it is naturally wavy/curly

    5. I will have to be running around and cant worry about my hair falling.

    2 AnswersHair1 decade ago
  • What should i do? What could i do?

    I am tired and sick and depressed. I can't stand it anymore. I love my mother and I wont remove her from my life, but I am in tears nearly every day that i go to visit her. Here's the thing, I have 3 children and I live a 4 hour drive away from my mother, so to keep her involved in my children and mines life i go to her house for 1-2 weeks to visit. Every time i go down i spend half the time fighting with my mom, or my sister or watching my parents fight or yell at my sister. The house is nothing but yelling and has my sister spending all her time in her room to hide from all of the yelling. This happens all the time and not only when i am there. Most of the fighting is because my sister has a teen attitude & she doesnt listen to rules; also because my mom is spending alot of time paying attention to her friends or the girl scout troop she is a leader for & also because my parents are having marital problems. I cant take it anymore, & my kids shouldnt hear this. What should i do?

    12 AnswersFamily1 decade ago
  • Tips? 3 vs 1?

    I have been an at home mom for some time now to twin 3 year old girls and a 11 month old boy and my husband and i aggreed that i didnt want to go back to being a "working mom", the thing is i love baking and i wish to open a pastry Boutique one day. The thing is that i want to be part of my kids lives and not just be home fore dinner and holidays. Can anyone give me tips on how to start my business and stay being an active part of my kids lives?

    4 AnswersParenting1 decade ago
  • Advice on cakes?

    OK my son's 1st birthday is less than a month from now and I intend to make this special by personally making a cake for him. I dont want a regular sheet cake so being inspired by the show Ace of Cakes. I am serving 25-40 people. I decided to make a custom Sailboat cake. I plan to use fondant and do 2 layers. What i want to know is does anyone have any tips for the cake making.

    5 AnswersCooking & Recipes1 decade ago