• Does half a sigarette makes you a smoker?

    Best answer: It's your description of 'no-smoker' that's the problem here. An alcoholic has to accept that he/she remains an alcoholic for life, whether there are lapses or not. So, you should be calling yourself an ex-smoker. That way there's no need to reset the counter. You just lapsed. But if that lapse is a return to... show more
    Best answer: It's your description of 'no-smoker' that's the problem here. An alcoholic has to accept that he/she remains an alcoholic for life, whether there are lapses or not. So, you should be calling yourself an ex-smoker. That way there's no need to reset the counter. You just lapsed. But if that lapse is a return to smoking, you are not a non-smoker!
    7 answers · Sociology · 4 days ago
  • Trump cancelled going to the WWI ceremony because it was raining. Why is he such an insensitive wuss?

    Best answer: Can' stand Trump or his tantrums and it's unforgivable not to attend this ceremony which I believe when he calms down he will regret to the end of his days. He's made a huge fool of himself yet again as the insensitive clod he is. But on this occasion, I think Macron can take an enormous part of the blame for setting him... show more
    Best answer: Can' stand Trump or his tantrums and it's unforgivable not to attend this ceremony which I believe when he calms down he will regret to the end of his days. He's made a huge fool of himself yet again as the insensitive clod he is. But on this occasion, I think Macron can take an enormous part of the blame for setting him off on one of his childish tantrums. Imagine choosing the moment he did to not only say that Europe needs its own army but to make it sound as though that was partly to defend itself from the USA! No matter what the misunderstanding, it should never have arisen. And it also rubbished NATO's capabilities, and endorsed Trump's feelings that the EU generally does not contribute what it owes to maintaining peace within it. This is known to be a very touchy subject with Trump, although, to be fair, anything can become a flashpoint and set him off on one of his near insane rants.
    12 answers · Politics · 3 days ago
  • What should I do?

    Best answer: In his excitement at having his children closer your husband has forgotten that he owes you a debt of loyalty for having been so accepting of them, and that, at the moment, yours and your new baby's needs are more pressing than anyone else's. You must deal with what you suspect is PPD by talking your feelings over with whoever is... show more
    Best answer: In his excitement at having his children closer your husband has forgotten that he owes you a debt of loyalty for having been so accepting of them, and that, at the moment, yours and your new baby's needs are more pressing than anyone else's. You must deal with what you suspect is PPD by talking your feelings over with whoever is overseeing your post partum care. You can't hope to feel any better about anything if you don't do that first. See someone first and then explain it to your husband. And whilst you are doing that, say that you are delighted his children are now closer, and you hope that, sometime in future, you can bond more closely as a family unit, but you are not capable of that right now and that you do need more support from him and a longer time-frame. Do not allow yourself to be guilt-tripped by him. You have the need right now, not him and not his other children. I sense some resentment about all of this, and that's not to say I blame you. You've achieved an amazing feat in producing a lovely baby for him, and he's so fired up about the other children that he's not stopping to notice. So finish up by saying that you don't intend to be critical but that you feel pushed aside and as if neither you nor the new baby matter to him. To be honest, if he can't accept at least some of that, I think he's an unfeeling brute and I wonder why he's not just moved in with his other kids again, because on the face of it at least, he's being exceptionally uncaring.
    5 answers · Family · 9 hours ago
  • I think I’m in love with someone who I can’t ever tell?

    Best answer: It's not real love. It's an infatuation. Real love exists when the feeling's mutual. You just have a severe crush and it does hurt. You can only feel what you are feeling, and if that's really painful, you just have to go through that too. But it doesn't last forever. One of the best cures is when someone else... show more
    Best answer: It's not real love. It's an infatuation. Real love exists when the feeling's mutual. You just have a severe crush and it does hurt. You can only feel what you are feeling, and if that's really painful, you just have to go through that too. But it doesn't last forever. One of the best cures is when someone else comes along who is interested in you. You'll suddenly find you're cured!
    4 answers · Singles & Dating · 1 day ago
  • How to tell my partner I mostly orgasm from grinding?

    Best answer: It's not weird at all to share with your partner what turns you on. It's a great part of a sex life to be able to discuss what feels great and what doesn't. There are heaps of women who go through life unable to find a way to orgasm. If you've found a way, make sure it gets incorporated into your sexual activity. Make... show more
    Best answer: It's not weird at all to share with your partner what turns you on. It's a great part of a sex life to be able to discuss what feels great and what doesn't. There are heaps of women who go through life unable to find a way to orgasm. If you've found a way, make sure it gets incorporated into your sexual activity. Make it easier by asking him what especially turns him on too.
    10 answers · Singles & Dating · 24 hours ago
  • How do i end things ?

    Best answer: Why be subtle. Honesty can save many wasted hours of wondering and plotting to break free. For all you know he might be feeling the same as you. So just say that, sorry as you are about it, you just aren't attracted to him in person. That's simple and it's honest. If he actually does like you he's going to be... show more
    Best answer: Why be subtle. Honesty can save many wasted hours of wondering and plotting to break free. For all you know he might be feeling the same as you. So just say that, sorry as you are about it, you just aren't attracted to him in person. That's simple and it's honest. If he actually does like you he's going to be disappointed which ever way you wrap it up, do deliver the blow kindly but leave him with no doubt. And learn a lesson from this. People can seem very attractive by phone and internet, but real life is what happens when two people are getting to know each other in person.
    3 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 months ago
  • What do you think of the movement to stop wearing Poppies on Remembrance Day, and to cease traditional observances because they glorify war?

    Best answer: I wouldn't start a movement to stop people buying or wearing poppies. It's too entrenched and it still does collect a lot of money to help ex-servicemen and women from more recent conflicts. But I am no fan of the way that government has taken the whole movement over and uses it to promote the more vainglorious elements of war.... show more
    Best answer: I wouldn't start a movement to stop people buying or wearing poppies. It's too entrenched and it still does collect a lot of money to help ex-servicemen and women from more recent conflicts. But I am no fan of the way that government has taken the whole movement over and uses it to promote the more vainglorious elements of war. I'm now refusing to wear a poppy as it's becoming more de rigueur to be seen wearing one. No wonder the younger generation is turned off by it all. It's less about those who have lost their lives and more about the justification of sending young people to their deaths for spurious political reasons. I quite agree that as many civilians have lost their lives in both world wars 'keeping the home fires burning'. They were killed for their pains but are seldom if ever honoured. Sure it may seem brave to go off to the front and fight, but either you were conscripted to do it and probably didn't want to go, or are now a professional soldier, knowing the risks but choosing to pick up a weapon and get sent to any theatre of conflict the government sees fit, and being paid well for it. BBC TV was virtually controlled by government for the commemoration of the end of WW1, to the extent that I was sickened and refused to view any of it or to take part in any of the remembrance day events. And that's having gone from previously wanting to honour those who gave their lives in service of our country. It's not much of a compensation to be remembered at a cenotaph, having given your life in wars we should never have been supporting, and I'm not at all surprised to learn that the services are finding it impossible to recruit enough personnel now.
    7 answers · Current Events · 1 day ago
  • Poll: do you like cemeteries?

    Best answer: I do actually. They are generally very peaceful and attract all sorts of creatures like butterflies, birds and small mammals. Then there are flowers and trees, and often extra flowers placed on the graves. I enjoy reading the headstones, espcially historic ones. If you can visit a Victorian cemetery, there's lots of symbolism and... show more
    Best answer: I do actually. They are generally very peaceful and attract all sorts of creatures like butterflies, birds and small mammals. Then there are flowers and trees, and often extra flowers placed on the graves. I enjoy reading the headstones, espcially historic ones. If you can visit a Victorian cemetery, there's lots of symbolism and lots to learn of their attitudes to death. I know the dead can't harm me, and it's useful to sit quietly and reflect that life doesn't go on forever for any of us. All the people within once moved around among us or before us, enjoying life, suffering problems; all the things we are now doing. And just as they have moved on to a different situation (i.e. death), so will we all. Every single one of us. So best to be at peace with that.
    16 answers · Polls & Surveys · 1 day ago
  • Why does eating in a caloric deficit work better than most diets out there?

    Best answer: It's the ONLY way to lose weight, even if you don't call it calorie control. You need to intake less calories than your body is needing daily to function.
    Best answer: It's the ONLY way to lose weight, even if you don't call it calorie control. You need to intake less calories than your body is needing daily to function.
    3 answers · Diet & Fitness · 1 day ago
  • How long does cut Holly last?

    Best answer: Unfortunately it dries and shrivels quite fast once cut, so no it wouldn't look very good by Christmas.
    Best answer: Unfortunately it dries and shrivels quite fast once cut, so no it wouldn't look very good by Christmas.
    2 answers · Garden & Landscape · 3 weeks ago
  • I was emotionally abused regularly as a kid at Christmas. Why does the holiday always open the old pain that is closed the rest of the year?

    Best answer: Look it's just the big advertising frenzy for Christmas that sets off depression in so many people for all sorts of reasons when life wasn't or isn't so great. We are daily peddled this dreadful annual myth that it's the season of happy family life. Why? It makes us spend MONEY! Almost every Christmas ad shows us... show more
    Best answer: Look it's just the big advertising frenzy for Christmas that sets off depression in so many people for all sorts of reasons when life wasn't or isn't so great. We are daily peddled this dreadful annual myth that it's the season of happy family life. Why? It makes us spend MONEY! Almost every Christmas ad shows us someone whose heart's desire has been fulfilled with the perfect gift, that children's eyes are aglow (with greed), and that the table at which an impossible number of family members are gathered, is groaning with the most perfect food. In real life the turkey got burned and everyone argued. It's a lie, lie, lie. Out there in the real world, people are abused, bereaved, abandoned, have bombs blow them up or get shot. Try to see Christmas for the sham it is. If you are lonely or upset or it brings up the past, remember it's just one fantasy day out of life. The next day it's all over and we have only the second 'Happy New Year' myth to get through.
    7 answers · Christmas · 2 days ago
  • If ''IT'S UNFAIRLY COLD. HAVE MERCY ON MY SOUL. doesn't make sense, What would you recommend instead to be used in my poem rather than?

    Best answer: It's bitterly cold. It's wintery cold. It's bitingly cold. It's chillingly cold.
    Best answer: It's bitterly cold. It's wintery cold. It's bitingly cold. It's chillingly cold.
    3 answers · Poetry · 2 days ago
  • Is he getting cold feet or is he not interested?

    Best answer: There's an outside chance he's just scared of the sex, if he's never tried to push forward with that before now. But it's most likely that he knows you associate with sex only within a stable relationship, and he's not willing to commit to this, so he's run away. Send a short text saying 'Where are you? Can... show more
    Best answer: There's an outside chance he's just scared of the sex, if he's never tried to push forward with that before now. But it's most likely that he knows you associate with sex only within a stable relationship, and he's not willing to commit to this, so he's run away. Send a short text saying 'Where are you? Can we talk about where we stand, as you seem to have vanished'. Hopefully he'd have the guts to respond. If he doesn't he's dropped you and he wasn't worth keeping anyway. But you are right. This does need some kind of resolution or conclusion.
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 weeks ago
  • What's wrong with me? Should I be worried ?

    Best answer: You sound to me as if you are suffering from extreme anxiety. You may need some medical help, but maybe not of the physical kind. Maybe medication or counseing?
    Best answer: You sound to me as if you are suffering from extreme anxiety. You may need some medical help, but maybe not of the physical kind. Maybe medication or counseing?
    1 answer · Pain & Pain Management · 1 week ago
  • Should I move into my investment property?

    Best answer: If you are 25 now, it's well worth it. Time to face life and fly the nest. Yes, it has complications, and often we learn by making some mistakes, but that's a part of being a mature adult. Some bits of it are riskier than others, and the biggest in my opinion, is the housemates. More problems arise with that than anything... show more
    Best answer: If you are 25 now, it's well worth it. Time to face life and fly the nest. Yes, it has complications, and often we learn by making some mistakes, but that's a part of being a mature adult. Some bits of it are riskier than others, and the biggest in my opinion, is the housemates. More problems arise with that than anything else. Incompatible people, unreliable people, dirty people. So of course put all other measures into place, but concentrate on the housemate issue as your biggest priority. And first, have a look at your own attitudes, to mess, noise, who can enter the property, financial viability and so on. And then frame your list of rules and start looking for the right people. Your own age group is obviously better, as are professional people. Ask for references and invite potential housemates to read your rules. But don't be too stringent. People have to live and you have to compromise too. But I do think you should do this. And i think you can. Best of luck.
    5 answers · Renting & Real Estate · 2 weeks ago
  • Can anyone interperate this dream?

    Best answer: It's homesickness. Your mind is trying to take you back to more familiar comfortable times during sleep. You are imagining things back home changing in your absence (your mother with a new boyfriend, for example). The rust refers back to the past. The earthquake is the earthquake that's happened in your life. You are all... show more
    Best answer: It's homesickness. Your mind is trying to take you back to more familiar comfortable times during sleep. You are imagining things back home changing in your absence (your mother with a new boyfriend, for example). The rust refers back to the past. The earthquake is the earthquake that's happened in your life. You are all shaken up by the move.
    4 answers · Dream Interpretation · 5 days ago
  • More than half of young Britons (21-38)are living 'hand to mouth' due to high living costs. Will things improve?

    Best answer: I'd actually question this. I don't see much hand to mouth in that age group, especially in the mall on a Saturday afternoon. It's more about the choices you make financially in life. The older generation didn't have to choose between the last £1000 mobile phone and a designer handbag, or a mortgage. They just saw the... show more
    Best answer: I'd actually question this. I don't see much hand to mouth in that age group, especially in the mall on a Saturday afternoon. It's more about the choices you make financially in life. The older generation didn't have to choose between the last £1000 mobile phone and a designer handbag, or a mortgage. They just saw the value of a mortgage and went for it. The young don't give a damn about racking up other sorts of debt. Things won't get a lot better because the UK is a country in decline. The poor get poorer whilst the rich get richer as consumerism becomes ever more rampant and greed rules every increasingly. But you can help yourselves by making wise choices about spending on your needs, not your wants.
    11 answers · Current Events · 4 days ago
  • Do women gossip at Bible Study? My wife caught me jokingly trying on her new party dress and lingerie and she mentioned she might share?

    Best answer: Women gossip. Men gossip. Especially if they have some information that will cause a good laugh. Need I say more?
    Best answer: Women gossip. Men gossip. Especially if they have some information that will cause a good laugh. Need I say more?
    11 answers · Religion & Spirituality · 6 days ago
  • He doesn’t have sex with me anymore (gay)?

    Best answer: You don't have to wait for his permission to go! 'Let you go?' What nonsense is that? You have control of your own life surely. Just ask is he sleeping with someone else. If you aren't convinced when he says he isn't, move on.
    Best answer: You don't have to wait for his permission to go! 'Let you go?' What nonsense is that? You have control of your own life surely. Just ask is he sleeping with someone else. If you aren't convinced when he says he isn't, move on.
    4 answers · Singles & Dating · 1 month ago
  • Is this awkward?

    Best answer: Switch your focus to yourself and imagine what they may be thinking abut YOU. Probably much the same as you are summing up in them in some respects without the same intensity. Comparing is good. If you are thinking 'ugh how the hell is SHE dressed', wonder if that's how she's viewing you. After a few negative thoughts... show more
    Best answer: Switch your focus to yourself and imagine what they may be thinking abut YOU. Probably much the same as you are summing up in them in some respects without the same intensity. Comparing is good. If you are thinking 'ugh how the hell is SHE dressed', wonder if that's how she's viewing you. After a few negative thoughts about yourself you may be ready to give up your internal interrogations. Most people initially rely on the vibe of another person they are introduced to. They don't bother getting bogged down in a lot of trivial thought about them.
    3 answers · Psychology · 1 week ago