you have had 8 years and he has had only several months. you have had time to heal and he is just beginning to heal. if you love him as much as you say, then allow him some time to go through whatever it is that he needs to go through. what is the rush? if you feel as though you can't wait, then you just need to break things off. the reason why so many marriages end in divorce other than money issues is the fact that people rush into marriage. people are so caught up with the idea of marriage that they don't really sit down and think things though.
i don't know you or why you and your first husband got a divorce and that really doesn't matter but i can tell you this much. if you and he had prepared at least 100 questions to ask each other, you probably would have found out that the two of you were not mean to be together and marry. people forget to ask the important questions, why? because everybody is sooooo in love and in love with the whole idea of love and in love with the idea of getting married. so take your time with this one and communicate with this man in your life.