Would you blame this person for the death of this person?

Question

Someone I know had a younger relative, about five years younger. The older one was not large, but was
normal sized, not a whole lot bigger than the younger. The older really loved children, in a healthy way,wanted to marry and have many children some day. Recovered from that notion, not into inappropriate touching of children or anyone.. She was fond of this younger relative healthily. When she was 14 she went to the home of the other, the younger, and was there over a month. The 14 year old went very hungry. Sort of a game for people to take her home with them and not feed her. The mother was being divorced and very poor. Not much food at all.
The 14 yr old ate about 500 600 cal a day, lost about ten lbs at least while there. No food in house. Mother is not eating. Does not eat. She thinks the younger eats at neighbors. Usual fare, a bowl of cereal or sandwich on a good day.Tried to help the mother as much as possible. Stressed very much,needed to go home,no way home. Tried to sell perfume, to get money. Gave it away. Getting to the date to start school. She and younger relative had an altercation because the older had cleaned house very well , in desperate attempt to get someone to take her back home, (she did housework all the time) and the friend of mine, did something wrong, disciplined the younger one in way she saw elders do.Physically. Thought she was supposed to be helping watch over the younger. Impossible to do. There was beer, whiskey, and
cigarettes. Mother is not there, she is preoccupied.
The younger one could have escaped the discipline.. Did not. Older admits wrong. apologized. tried to amend. She was stressed to max. No one cared.
No one asked why this happened or anything.
She is going to have to drop hs, is starving, alone all the time almost, when with others they do not talk .
Gross consequences for the older one. Extreme , loong lasting. However, they made amends, communicated.
Two years later they relocated. The younger one was
killed in an auto accident.

The older one, my friend, has been tortured endlessly over this. She was accused of sleeping with her boyfriend that summer, did not happen. Harassed over car accidents, harassed , guilt trips endlessly. This bunch specialize in guilt trips, endless guilt trips.
Endlessly people getting revenge. She was even told of the death of the younger by someone with a vendetta.
T"his too, was not the doings of the friend of mine.

Do you think it is even remotely possible she caused the death of the younger one, two years later, in another state? I say she had less influence on the younger one than anyone because she was around her less than anyone else. This poor woman has
been guilt tripped to death about. She rejects it,
but they go right on as if she accepts it..Honestly, I think they are sick. They drag this up and harass her with it, they have inundated her with guilt all her life with anything they can, and usually captitalize on it.
Denied many things due to guilt trips. Never had legal assistance when had cause for major law suits. Drgged this up and harassed her where work, college, career is concerned. Harassed on the job over it, enemies use it to excuse their behavior to scapegoat. How does one get away from people using them as a scapegoat. This poor woman has been run all over the USA trying to escape their bottomfeeding money grubbing guilt trips which she rejects. Denied the rights of others to
work, education, normal relationships with the opposite sex, socialization, church even, due to unending
never ending dwelling in the past, guilt trips. had physical violence in hs r./'to this. Once, once they had an altercation . This was two children. There were grossly extenuating circumstances. 'the older one was not and is not, never was a bully.

Additional Details

I did not start the inappropriate seconds.
I ws not the cause of the vendetta.

I was not fornifying or fornificating or having sex of any sort. I was not drinking. Had aobut two tsp of something alcholic that summer, not at the same time. Did smoke some because I was hungry. If ytou have never smoked, tobacco kills your appetitie. I never liked to smoke. Was not a big eater. Started because it was a fad. Peopl;e didn[t know the harm.

Answer 1

Best Answer - Chosen by Voters

Dearest, there is no reason for you to remain is all this pain with your thoughts racing through your head. Please look up United Way First Call for Help in your area. A volunteer on the phone there will refer you for help in your area.

Answer 2

It is lazy to live in the past. It is lazy to take something not in your control and let it control you.

Answer 3

No.

Answer 4

No

Answer 5

I advise looking in the local phone book for Mental Health Agency. They will see you even if you have no money. It may take a few weeks for an appointment but if it is necessary you can go there or tell them on the phone you need immediate help.
Perhaps medication would help your mind slow down and you to see things clearly.
Honey you need help. Do not hesitate to ask for it.
You will become more ill if you do not seek treatment.

Answer 6

The answers you are looking for will not be found here, believe me! The immediate answers are in small plastic vials, look like pills, and taste like pills....
For your sake, call or go to a mental health facility and admit yourself immediately! You are in strong danger of becoming a health hazzard to others! I know you do not want to hurt anyone, but you are on the edge of doing just that. Peace is waiting for you, please get away from the computer, make a 911 call and tell the operator "I need immediate help...there is something wrong in my head! " Read the last line I wrote back to the operator, she will help you .... we cannot .

Answer 7

What hole do you dig all this crap you post out of?