My ex who proposed to me is making my life a living hell. PLEASE HELP!!?

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Im 26 and was with my ex boyfriend since i was 17 we broke up last year. I met someone else when we were together and hung out with him and then i started sleeping with him and we both fell in love. I planned to break up with my ex on a certain night and on the same night he wouldn't let me talk as he wanted to ask me something and sure enough, he proposed to me. I didn't want to hurt him at all but i had to end things with him not only for me but him also as i didn't love him anymore. He freaked out when i told him and he slapped me across the face. I am still with the guy i cheated on him with and my ex is still holding a grudge. We both have mutual friends and he says nasty things about me and tells people personal stories i trusted him with and what we did together and is trying to make my life hell. I've heard from my best friend that he wants me back but he doesn't act like it. My friends said they wont take sides and i try to avoid being in the same places as him the best i can but i cant stand him anymore he is a horrible person. How can i make this right? Please help?

Answer 1

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I went through something like that. I cheated on my boyfriend of 2 years while he was training to be in the army and I broke up with him because i fell in love with one of my really good friends. I couldn't do anything about it, it just happened. My ex was really mad and he also started telling everyone how I was a hoe and really nasty things about me. But he still tried to act friendly towards me I confronted him about it and he said that he had never said anything bad about me. I have been with the guy i cheated on him with for almost 2 years now and I am happier than ever.

To this day, my ex still tries to text me and talk to me. When it all happened I apologized to him because I knew that what I did was wrong. He'll randomly stop talking to me and he acts like an *** but he always keeps telling me how he still loves me and how he wants to get back together...

I think the only thing you can do about him is talk to him is to ignore him and only talk to him if he talks to you directly. If you hear from your friends that he is still talking bad about you, its only because he is still not over you and he wants to get your attention. It is not your fault that you cheated on him (I know that people reading this might not agree, but its not something easy to explain and it just happens) and if you are happy with the new guy that is all that should matter. Once he sees that you're not paying any attention to him at all and how happy you are with the new guy he will eventually have to accept that he's lost you.

He just needs to get over you.

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Answer 2

60% of this is YOUR fault for cheating on him. You shouldn't have done that, even if you had planned to break up with him you should have waited, if you would have just broken up with him, and then had sex with the other guy, your ex might have never done all this.

I feel sorry for your ex, poor guy. You need to apologize, not act all angry at him seeing as how this isn't HIS fault. You were the one who caused this all, and on the night he proposed to you.
I wouldn't want you back if I was him.

Im sure if you apologize he will stop, and if he doesn't, then just deal with it, there is nothing you can do.

Answer 3

Tell all of you friend's your secret stories before he does. That way, when he tells them, they will be like "so what? i already knew that!"

Or just move.

Answer 4

You broke his heart and want things to be right? Not gonna happen; the only thing is to let time heal all. Don't play in his games be as nice as possible and civil. If you would have just broke it off things may not have been so bad. He's in the wrong as much as you were for cheating. He's hurting and some people act like jerks when they hurt. I say don't avoid places if you see him say hi sorry things didn't work out; I moved on and would like to be civil. At one of the biggest stages in a man life you tore his heart out; it will take time or he may never be right with it. All you can do is try to do right if it doesn't work than just keep moving forward!

Answer 5

You shouldn't have cheated in the first place. Karma is a b%$#$