What is a fair arrangement for parents that are split, when dealing with money and a kid?

Question

so I left the father of my child because the fact, that he drank a lot, and spent all his money on it. He also would never manage his money. He also was a slob. He just can't manage everyday things.
So now the arrangement is, I have our 4 year old, starting wednesday right after work. I keep him thursday, friday, sat, sun until evening time, when his dad takes him when he gets off work. I also am part of a babysitting coop. I do one day of care, (5-6 kids) in my home, in exchange for care for my son. I also am almost always the one to buy him cloths, take him to the doctor, sign him for classes, (if directed his dad will take him, just not sign up for) look into stuff, take care of paperwork. I made his halloween costume. I gave his dad one task, to buy a simple $2 mask. He couldn't come through. I plan his birthday parties all that. I've expressed to his dad that I think it's unfair, and that he should give me something. He just plays words games.
So I have him four days a week, and his dad has him three
I do the duty of watching 5 kids one day a week for the child's care.
I do all the extra, halloween custom, paperwork, planning, etc
What would be a fair arrangement?
I do make more per hour than him, but he works more hours, so we actually make the same. I pay more in rent (we were renting a house, and he moved out) I have more electric, heat, etc
I think that he should give me like $100 a month in child support.
Is this fair?

Answer 1

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I'm also a mother. I think as a good mother, we should not take care much more about other things except our children. For us, the most important is children. We' re happy if they're happy, never mind this happiness how to take, money or just words games. I think you should think by this way, at least the boy is lucky. He has mummy and daddy. If he lost his daddy, how pitiful he is. In this situation you also cannot gain any money from the man. More worse, your boy lost the love of daddy. So, now, your baby is lucky. You should be thankful.
Don't care about others. Your baby is happy. That's the most important. For children, we can do anything and endure any hardships, can't we?

Answer 2

You need to get this straightened out by a judge. You are right, your ex needs to give you more help. He sounds like a flake but if a court orders him to pay, he's not going to have a choice. Good luck.

Answer 3

Take it to court. =(

I feel ya sister. I'm in a similar situation. All I'm asking is him to pay for daycare. And he wont do more than split it. So I suppose we need to take action in court. Unfortunately we are not able to be civil about these things huh?