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please bare with me....

my boyfriend smokes and we talked about this in great detail.. i just cant date a smoker. i told him im sorry if u cant understand that but if u have no desire to ever quit we need to stop dating. he told me he has been wanting to quit and that i mean more to him than his cigs and that he is going to quit. i told him i dont expect this to happen over night but he needs to set a goal date. so he did. it was a month later. nov 1st. well it is now nov 3rd and he is still smoking .. he told me he has only smoked 2 on the 1st day 3 the second day and well today he told me he only smoked 3 then after i told him he better not lie to me .. he confessed he smoked about a half a pack. He is basically just feeding me B.S. what am i supposed to do. i hate that he smokes. he has known this since we started dating and he ALWAYS claims he wants to quit. i have asthma and i hate the way he smells!! am i fooling myself .. is he EVER gona quit? what should i do? my only solution is to stop seeing him until he quits FOR REAL. is this crazy? am i expecting to much?

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also.. i did not think he was such a heavy smoker when we started dating. i then found out he smokes a pack to a pack and a half a day! .. i was a smoker for 15yrs and i quit over a year ago. i know it is hard. i understand that. He told me in the begining he was going to quit.. when we were getting to know each other.. he lied and made me believe it wasnt that much. when i found out how much he really smokes is when i told him i cant date a smoker and so on.. not that i was ok with it when it was just a little but i really thought he ment it when he said he would quit! ugghhh im sooo frustrated .. im sorry

Answer 1

If you have made it clear that this is a relationship breaker then obviously he does not consider your feelings enough...time to break up with him if he continues to be selfish

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Answer 2

Ok so you understand just how hard it is to quit, which is good but not everyone is the same. He probably smokes more than you did and its harder for him too. You can't just change a person to who you want. BUT if you want him to quit then tell him how much you care about him and how you are trying to save his life and how it really upset you when you lied.

Communication is the key here. Tell him how you feel like just leaving until he quits. Tell him what you said here.

I Wish you the best of luck !

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