Please answer, desperate help needed about BULLYING :'(?

Question

Hey there.
About two weeks ago, I was sitting in the common room with a few friends. Then I heard a comment said from some other boys across the room. They were shouting "*******". Basically, when i was younger I used to play with a girls toy. I must have been at least 5 years old.

I know who told these other people about it. He was sitting right there. I completely ignored the comment and they stopped. Nobody directly said my name or anything to my face.

The day after was fine, nothing was said. The next day, I was sitting in my ICT class and I noticed this boy tell someone else. Then they were saying the comment again. I knew this was becoming a rumour risk. So i went right to the head of 6th form and told him what was happening. He's so good to talk to.

He dealt with it swiftly and the next day, the boy who was the threat of spreading the rumour said nothing. He didn't say anything me me and even times out of school when i saw him he looked quite nervous, or almost shy of me.

We broke up for a week, so I was glad to get a nice break and start fresh. The first day back, I was outside with a friend, it was break time. On my way back into the common room, I noticed that the boy who's a treat was talking to someone else. Obviously i don't know about what. Then the boy who he was talking to seemed to look me up and down and give me a slight smirky smile. Now my first though was "oh god, he's telling people still" And i got really down for the day, but no comments were said to me.

Now i keep thinking the "What if" question and now i'm depressed, can't eat much, sleep much and am just panicking about this. Today i went and spoke with the 6th form head about how i'm feeling. I opened up and told him that I am depressed and that i need people to talk to and reassurance. He told me that he was confident it would not spread and that he has been spoken to.

this Tw*t doesn't say anything to me, but i think he's trying to spread it still. I don't know if i'm paranoid (which i probably and hope I am) or if i actually have like a anxiety disorder of some sort. I spoke with my 6th form head about everything, and he told me that the possibility of it spreading around the 6th form and everyone tormenting me would be very, very unlikely. To people like the spreader who don't know me, I would just come across as one of the 'Popular' kids, or something like that.

My 6th form head asked me if i wanted to take some counselling for my problems and teach me how to deal with things better. To you reading this, it will look like such a silly thing. But you need to realise this is my life and it's effecting me. I want it to stop and everything go back to normal and how it was. Even if nothings said to me in school, I still worry just on the off chance something is mentioned. just any advice would be great. this is really a dark time for me. Thanks for reading :)

Answer 1

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Sticks and Stones

Answer 2

You sound a bit insecure and paranoid to me , if you worry about things like this now can you imagine what it will be like when you go into the big bad world. Maybe they are saying thing about you , so what ! Just blank it out of your mind. You have to be tough and not let others rule your life. Always do what you want to do and never let people walk all over you . Things will be hunky dory

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40 years of life

Answer 3

(Vicky- sticks and stones is quite unhelpful -
it's very easy to forget that we've all been on the receiving end of something like this when we were younger)

frist of all, it's very good that you went and spoke to a teacher who' sbeing supportive throughout this...
i think you're gonna come through the other side of this, and look back feeling it seemed like you couldn't conquer it, but that you did!

your teacher's suggestion of having a chat through counselling is actually an excellent idea -
after you posted your question here, you must have felt a certain amount of relief, right? and it kinda takes some of the anxiety out of the situation, so when (or if) it confronts you again, you're less and less likely to get upset- talking about something and sharing your feelings always helps you to feel stronger...

unfortunately, kids who do stuff like this are enjoying seeing you squirm, and you need to take control because the Bully is enjoying their power trip at your expense - so get the counselling and become equipped to deal with the situation.

eventually this Bully will go away, and move to his next victim

Best of luck, and remember you'll be okay...