How to flirt/get a young man's attention?

Question

OK, so I'm in college and I have virtually no romantic experience or expertise to speak of. I just never felt ready for a romantic relationship until now; I'm a bit reserved-- that is, I'm totally comfortable around people once I've got to know them, but at first I'm kinda shy ;). Now, there's this young gentleman (I know, I know, I need to break the Jane Austen habit) in my piano ensemble class who I really, really like. I'd like to get to know him better-- strike up a friendship and hopefully let him know that I'm interested-- but I don't know how. I get really nervous around him. I guess I'm so worried about what he'll think. I don't just like him, I also have a lot of respect for him and I want him to think well of me, and not as a total flirt. Any advice for me?

Answer 1

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Confidence and femininity are the two major ways to attracting a man. poise and posture, relaxation, friendliness and approachability, positive energy, and A smile are always things that attract men. My suggestion would be to throw little cute flirty comments towards him that wont make you seem like you're going after him but that he see you are possibly interested.

One of the clearest signals you can send to a man that it is okay to approach you is if you catch his gaze, hold it for an instant longer than normal, smile, then look away. If you wish, you may glance up a few minutes later to see if he is still looking at you. Whatever you do, DON’T engage in a staring match. Staring at someone can make you seem a bit creepy.

Make sure you are looking your best and that will boost your confidence too... when you do get dressed, try and accentuate your best features. If you don't know what they are im sure your girls know what they are. These are a few things that can increase your chances

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Very empowering and helpful. Clarity was good.

Answer 2

whip out that pussy and stick it in his face

Answer 3

Badok's got it all figured out

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Personal experience

Answer 4

i know it sounds slutty and embarresing but i mean ur in college so you should strip tease in front of him

Answer 5

Comment him on his music. Talk to him, ask him if he can come over to you.. dorm? one day and talk with you about it. Ask to go talk about it over lunch... I don't know if I can be as much help as you would like..


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Answer 6

you'd get my attention if you flirt with me, joke around, give compliments, etc just go for it, good luck

Answer 7

guys think about 3 simple things: ****, *** and pussy. So if you have all three and your not a butter head, you have nothing to worry about. Don't let anyone tell you any different, they may want a genuine relationship, don't get me wrong, but unless a guy is gay, that will get him every time.

Answer 8

you can start by talking to him. saying hi. asking him for help like questions on whatever? and compliment him that he's good on the piano. and from there maybe soon enough ask him to hang out one day. and see how it goes from there. but you really need the guts to talk to him. like you need to push yourself. if you don't then he might get taken. so just do it. it will pay off in the long run. and if your really that nervous. after taking the first step a lot of weight will be lifted off your shoulders and just go with the flow!!!

Answer 9

It sounds like you've got a lot of class, so maybe show off your smarts in a cool seductive manner?
flirt with him but dont dumb yourself down
do it in a smart way

Answer 10

First of all, let us get it across that you are never going to be able to get to know him if you behave like a silent little wallflower around this guy. What you need to do is find a way to strike up the confidence to talk to this guy you like. Guys looooove girls with tons of self confidence (without being overly cocky). Show that you can be social and have self confidence. If you don't have self confidence, then my advice is going to be from something I heard from America's Next Top Model: "If you don't have self confidence, fake it until you do". But anyways, mostly, you need to just be able to talk to this guy. He won't get to know you if you can't even talk to him. Be assertive lol...

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My current boyfriend started liking me only because I talked to him and was social XD

Answer 11

p*ssy, t*ts, and a*ss.

Have good conversation with him, but dont be afraid to flaunt what you have. sit in front of him with ur legs spread; show ur cleavage thru ur shirt; bend over to pick something up and stick that tush in his face.

dont be overtly like stripping, bcuz honestly YES it would work, but thats gonna make u feel bad to do. Sooo ummm just do what i said- tease him and turn him the hell on! And of course get close to him and whisper to him. TOUCH HIM in little ways- a tap on the shoulder, arm around him, hug, etc.

Answer 12

Talk to him more. Get him to know the real you, the you that's not shy. If you just talk to him as a friend (a flirty friend, mind you) then he won't see you as such a threat than if you go up to him saying things like OMG we toooootally have the same hair color! Or something like that. Hahah! Ask him out for Starbucks or something. Just chill with him. Hope that helps!

Answer 13

Try and sit next to him. Just start out with a simple "Hi" and your best smile. He will say "Hi" back. Keep that up and eventually your conversation will progress beyond one-syllable greetings haha. When that happens, you both have a passion for music so build on that! Talk about your favorite composers/pieces/etc. Hope I helped! Good luck :)

Answer 14

Let him know you have a sense of humor. I think guys love girls with sense of humors and actual morals. No guy wants the ice cream that everyone has had their hands in. I met my boyfriend by giving him some pokemon cards and striking up a conversation about that...and I was 17. Now I'm almost 19 and it's been a strong and good year and a half.
Just hang real loose with him and show him who you are, even if you're shy. Don't go straight flirt dizz mode. That's just nasty lol. So no no no there! You don't have to flirt completely to get his attention and let him know you're interested. You can drop compliments and listen to him and support and challenge him. He'll like your intellect. Ask to practice music together or compliment his shirt at first to start a conversation. Always make eye contact and smile at him. Don't worry about what he thinks, have your own self-confidence : guys love confident women! So if you're not all that confident, pretend! I do that and eventually it becomes real. :) Good luck.

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Let me tell you,...buahha :)

Answer 15

Have a drink before hand, that will loosen you up for conversing with men. You should go do activities like sports for fun, or some class that is full of men. Just get out there more and more men will possibly take notice in you.

This will work as long as you are not to fat and/or ugly.

Answer 16

dont listen to those guys i like a girl that i can be freinds with and talk to not a slut that will just get in the sack just like that if your a slut youll get no respect

Answer 17

If you are in the same piano ensemble class maybe you can talk about music pieces you're working on in class, but it has to be authentic, for instance, is there a piece you're struggling with? Is he good at it? You could ask for his help. Then this may lead to more conversations giving you both a chance to explore other points of shared interest. Then let nature take its course. Blessings!