Am I doing the right thing or just setting myself up for heartbreak?

Question

Ok... I'm in a long distance relationship with this girl I've known for years. We had decided some time back that we wanted to be together and had even set a date when I could finally come whisk her away (which is this coming January) and take her back to Texas with me. She's in California. Anyway, she's gotten extremely flaky lately and I'm wondering if she's grown bored with me or has found somebody else. See I'm inclined to believe it's the latter. After three full days of not speaking to me last week she tells me she spent the night at a guy friend of hers house. I mean of course that set off alarm bells but she told me and I love her so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Well then she tells me she wouldn't be mad if I slept with another woman until the time we could be together. So now I'm freaking out. She's obviously trying to assuage her own guilt right? The only thing is she begs me to believe nothing happened and that she still desperately wants to be with me. Then this weekend she told me she was going to hang with friends before she did it. I guess to get her off the hook from having to talk to me. I didn't hear from her for two full days. It's not that I'm complaining it's just it's not like her to not atleast text me with some sweet lil' line. I want to believe she's not out there sleeping with somebody I just don't know if I can now. I don't even know if I should be pissed if she did. I know I'm feeling extremely taken for granted right now though.

Be honest about what you would do.. I know what the obvious answer is and believe me I'm considering just dumping her. For some reason though I'm having a very hard time seperating my heart from my gut. So am I setting myself up or not?

Answer 1

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you most definitely are boo, sowy to say it but if she is causing you to do this much worrying and and yall not even " fully together " yet then just leave her... no matter how much you care and love someone if you feel that you cant trust them then don't be bothered with them just read this and think on it.

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I know what I should do.. I just can't bring myself to do it. I always made fun of those girls on Maury who were getting beaten and wouldn't leave because they loved the guy. I guess I kinda feel that way I don't think it matters how much she might abuse me I'd still love her. Thank you though.