How can the mens rights activists help the younger generation of males?

Question

It seems feminists only want to address the issues that affect women/girls. If you look at male psychology, and learning males have their weaknesses.

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"Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung argued that a father is very important to a boy's development of identity. In his book Absent Fathers, Lost Sons [2] Canadian Jungian analyst Guy Corneau writes that the presence of the father's body during the son's developmental phases is integral in the son developing a positive sense of self as masculine."
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One of the key things feminists have done is weaken the role of fatherhood. By doing so they have created disorder and chaos among males. Boys need a strong father figure as they lack maturity at a young age.

Camille Paglia(a known liberal equalist feminist ) has commented that she believes that women are born, but men must "become."

So this discredits away the idea that females are the more vulnerable sex psychologically at a young age. I have never heard someone say to a women who is having difficulties "be a woman", doing so would have no effect because a womans femininity does not need to be proven.

In fact boys are less mature psychologically till their late teens compared to females. Yet the media and feminist always talk about how girls are disadvantaged and vulnerable. Boys lack of maturity was negated under the old education system because it was more rigid and disciplinary.

Answer 1

I think the damage is done. I think that this generation of women are so full of themselves that they should be left to what they think they want and and the only thing that we can do for young males is to encourage them to do what they want, much the same as feminism has do for girls. It is not healthy but what are you going to do as I have said this generation doesn't know any better but a weak society will be the outcome of this, so young men do what you want I for one will not judge you for it as I don't believe in double standards.

Feminism will cause the downfall of the western world as it is a poison attacking the heart of the youth who won't amount to anything.

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Answer 2

Its true that a person must become a man. As Simone De Beaviour first said about women. Her point was the social roles are socially constructed and she was challenging these and the inequities women face. She, unlike the way this quote is used here did not mean to convey the women a respsonsibility to become women. But that this role is imposed on them. Camille Paglia flipping of this quote isnt wrong but I would contend that freeing men from gender constraints would be more helpful. Men clearly need to be given freedom to seek help for problems more to alleviate suicide rates. Other problems such as antisocial behaviour in poor communities indicate how men have been taught to express themselves in these areas: lash out in order to survive. This is a meritable thing but they also need to soften up to the idea of appealing for help. While the state needs to be more receptive to this. Education is a problem that was recently resolved in britain by toggling with the methods for testing people. This was brought to my attention by the media. and the media actually often highlight this problem. So their are fare and equitable ways to deal with this.
None of these require repressing men and women more by returning to the idea of a need for father led familes as neocon rhetoric suggests(though there is nothing wrong with this as a free choice). For one thing evidence only suggests that dual parent familes are better and according to the latest report by the OECD the differences are exaggerated. and while in the minority of cases were single fathers take charge but children benifit this could be down to an eager beaver father(since he is a rare chooser to be a primary carer) but also studies show that single fathers tend to have less interference from their ex partner compare to lone mothers. Alleviating levels of volatility.

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Answer 3

I think the lack of fathers has been the most destructive force in the lives of kids in general. I don't believe there has been much caring or concern what becomes of father's after the divorce.

Why do so many fathers just up and disappear or make little efforts at parenting is it because men are just like that or is there more to it than what we've been told? What studies has the state or any group done to investigate? I haven't really heard of any. For that matter, what support is offered to father after the divorce?

We know the character of fathers are usually demonized during the divorce by his wife, while she is portrayed as his abused victim. In the culture that we've had for decades his word means very little in the family courts. To say that the family courts favor women is an understatement.

The odds of a father retaining custody of his children are rare. It's very simple for a woman to walk into the family courts and make claims of fearing him. Painting the husband as abusive is easy, because you don't need evidence or proof just a few of the right buzz words. In todays culture men are assumed guilty. Any of the wife's actions or behavior during the marriage really doesn't matter.

Even if she cheated it was only for emotional reason, where as if he cheated it's because he's a sleeve ball pervert.

The classic divorce and family court ruling. The husband is removed from his home, he's lost his wife, children, pets and is ordered to pay childsupport. He's gives the standard every other weekend child visitations.

As a man / father you've been legally deemed a monster by the courts, betrayed by the woman you've stood by and can only see your children 4 times a month, which you have to pay for or you can't see them on top of having lost everything.

I'd really like to see how well women would do under these circumstances.

The best advice I can offer would be programs starting in high school, which would warn and educate young men of these pitfalls. The program could teach young men how to protect themselves, let them know that anything they say or do during their marriage can and will be used against them in family courts. Teach them not to legally marry the woman they love. Don't buy a house just rent. Wait at least 5 years before having children.

If the marriage starts going down hill investing in and installing cameras in the home and always carry a pocket size recorder. This way when she claims domestic violence you have your proof and her word isn't solid gold.

Educating young men how to protect themselves and how to avoid having their lives destroyed is the very best thing we can do for them.

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Answer 4

Oh yeah, the fathers who abandon their kids are blameless. Only fair since women can get abortions right?
-Eye roll-

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Answer 5

The answer is simple. Be a part of a boy's life. Be a father. Be there. Be a mentor such as a "big brother or big sister" organization provides.

Be there.

If you want to positively influence a boy or girl, then be there. It's really not as complicated as all that psychological mumbo jumbo.

If you interact honestly and respectfully with a child, then the child benefits. If you demonstrate honest and respectful interaction with others, then the child benefits. If you teach, live and show genuine love and respect for others, then the child benefits. By the way, it is possible to love an enemy. It makes for an easier truce after the fight.

Roles are another matter. There's a saying, "A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do." Boys must learn that some jobs must be done no matter how unpleasant or possibly frightening. You do what you must. That's not only part of being a man, it's also part of being an adult.

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Answer 6

Stick around and be a father to your children.

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Answer 7

Stop crying about everything, stand up and be a man.

That is the best way to teach young males to be men.

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Answer 8

Regardless of what Aidan has to say about OECD's report that the nuclear family success's are greatly exaggerated is suspect at best. The last group I want completing studies on the family is some economic based group. Do you think they are going to say, "hey, we we're wrong, it's better if a parent stays home, and that single families are subrate for the needs of the children". The bottom line for them is money. The traditional family is not very profitable in our corporate society. The traditional family doesn't spend as much and saves more money for necessities. How do you keep the economy going when the family is saving for food and not blowing credit on a H3 hummer?
And as far as I'm concerned I'm not going to give up my so-called male "gender constructs" and take on female "gender constructs". Aidan basically states that men need to act more like women. I'm content with my role of protector and provider, and it ain't neo-con but comes as naturally as a fish in water. Who are these feminists to think that they can tell men that everything men know is wrong. These feminists are not men, and I care little for what the mangina's have to say. I'll teach my son how to be a man, and i'll assist my woman as she teaches our daughters how to be women. No freak-@ss gender construct, pro-transgender feminists are gonna screw with my family.

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Answer 9

i think that men should be encouraged to talk more and be more open about how they feel. society should also be more accepting of this. it would solve alot of problems and help with alot of pent up stress. men are more likely to suffer migraines and cluster headaches (not saying women don't get them too, but they are very slightly more common in men) because of this and often engage in impulsive behaviour. successful suicides are also much higher in men, whereas with women it's often just an attempt and a cry for help. doesn't that say something?

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Answer 10

For one stop shifting the blame on women, men need to stand up and take responsibility for there irresponsible actions. Men need to start mentoring boys in the ways of men, "if they know what that is". Be more active in community projects for youths planning etc. What boys don't needed is a bunch of women haters, and excuses.

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