How can a woman stop crying over a man she fell for, but who does not want her?

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I'm deeply saddened because the guy I fell for (just head over heels) is taken, and he's just not that into me (if at all).

I had fantasized about him and thought of him while daydreaming or while just dozing off to sleep at night. I thought of him proposing. I lived in my fantasy (at only certain times) to make myself feel better when I was (and am) lonely.

I'm almost 37 years old and he's 39. It hurts he doesn't want me, and it's hard for me to accept when I just want to be his wife (we work together, so I see him a good 8 hrs every day).

My heart breaks as it always does in love. I feel like such a lonely loser. I wish he'd just like me, and maybe if I pray hard enough, he'll come around. But that's just fantasy thinking. I just don't want to face the harshness of my reality.

What can I do to stop crying tonight? I've tried dating other people, and it went nowhere. I was stood up once, so I feel so pathetically loser-like.

It was Marcel Proust who said something to the effect of "for those who hearts are not attached, it easy to say goodbye." This guy told me, metaphorically, to move on and go forward. The implication is that he is telling me, "I'm taken and content. Move on because I will not be there for you." And I'm beyond crushed, lonely, and miserable. I hide this intense pain from my family and some friends, as I should know better than to put my eggs in one basket.

Would someone help me to stop crying? Can you help stop my feelings of pain and isolation? I feel so desperately lonely tonight.

Answer 1

ck out this website for some help

http://www.soyouvebeendumped.com

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Answer 2

watch a movie with hot guys in it (the covenant)
get a can of chocolate icing (healing)
blast your ipod to songs

the hot guys get your mind of of "him"
chocolate is magic
and music releives your soul

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Answer 3

Why not tell him that you like him?

And see how he react.

Most time, men will act like a jerk.

So if he acts like a jerk, then it will definitely turn you off...
then you'll stop crying.

It works for me.

So go do it.

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Answer 4

You need to come back to the real world. He has told you he is not interested and that's that. You are in a fantasy with him and that is not healthy. Relationships do not get built on that. Move on and leave him alone. He could end up reporting you to human resourses and you could lose your job.

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