Oreo?(white on the inside and black on the outside)?

Question

So I'm 11 years old and I'm black and I listen to rock music and my mom was just like me, and my dad thinks it is bad and he made me cry once because he saw me listening to rock and he said since you're my child I thought you'd like my music. My friends call me an oreo and they are all white, and other people say "all her friends are white" and it offends me. I love rock, but because they are like that I say "should I be like the other people in my classroom that are black?" Honestly, I cannot understand R&B or Rap and HipHop, and the black kids in my school won't even talk to me, and sometimes they make fun of me, but they usually leave me alone. Seriously! Why do people get made fun cuz they're oreo's?! I get it from my mom, and my sister and brother are mixed, and they listen to rock. I would call myself kind of punk cause I listen to MCR, Paramore, Taylor Swift(I listen to some country too) Korn, and Slipknot. Basically the question is, why do other blacks not like it when there's a black person that acts white?"

Answer 1

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The Mind of a Hater:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SXC0bQZ2z…

Unfortunately hun, black people are the worst haters of black people. Most of us are still under the brainwashing of Viacom and believe that we should be gangsters, hoods, listen to rap or R&B, watch BET and not make good grades.

Before Viacom it was the slave mentality. If a black person tried to succeed they were told to "stop acting white." I have been there sweetie. I had mostly white friends, listened to "white music" (I love classic rock stations), dressed "white", talked "white, got good grades. This was just how I was raised. You can see where this is going I'm sure, I got made fun of all day long by the other black kids. They were cruel. My mom is like your dad pretty much, she has implied that I shouldn't like rock. I do like some R&B now that I have gotten older but not when I was your age. Think about it this way, is your dad a musician? Then how can you listen to his music?

Ignore the haters. You are not a sheep. Black people (all people) hate the exceptions and those who don't conform. I promise you most of those people "acting black" aren't acting like themselves, they are acting like what they saw on TV that a black person should act like. You are the blackest person among those idiots frankly. I remember I tried everything to try to "blacken" myself. I forced myself to listen to R&B radio channels, date only black guys, and watch "black" movies and BET. I dressed in gangster clothes and tried out black slang. I tried to enjoy Kool-Aid and chitlins. I wanted to understand this culture I saw and why everyone else could like it but not me. I was ashamed. It was exhausting and the whole time I wanted to listen to Regina Spektor or some rock, date white guys, and eat some pizza. The best thing I can tell you is to just be yourself, be real. Every adolescent tries to become someone they are not at some point to fit in but you don't have to. If they ever make fun of you again, don't listen.

Read this blog:
funny intelligent black guy who blasts "black culture" and how we view ourselves:
http://stuffblackpeoplehate.com

EDIT: LOL I love how other answers prove my argument about how brainwashed some black people still are, they think black people still have to like "black" things and white people need to like "white things". Once again, don't listen sweetie. Prefering certain things and people just means that is what you relate to. It is not the same as self hatred. Talk intelligent, watch movies that look interesting to you, listen to music you like, talk to people you have fun with, succeed in life, date people you find attractive, eat tasty foods, and feel bad for the people still trying to fit into the negative sterotypes of black people created by white people. Feel sorry for them.

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http://www.youtube.com/user/RusticBeauty

http://stuffblackpeoplehate.com

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Thanks you helped me a whole lot!

Answer 2

Listen to what you want to, rock isn't exclusive to white people as rap is to black people, Anyone can listen to whatever they want to. Your dad should be ashamed of saying that to you, you should talk to your mom about it. Some blacks don't like it because they feelyour drifting away from your culture, yes rap is part of black culture, but you can still be black and listen to music other then r&b or rap.

Answer 3

Its not wrong that you dont "act black" or listen to the same music but something tells me youre ashamed of it(being black). How could they not call you and oreo when your avatar is a white girl!!! I mean, have you no respect for your people? Common, that is just ridiculous.

Answer 4

I'm considered an oreo also just because I am not the typical black person. Telling black people they act white and that they are oreos because they don't fit black stereotype is just what happens in the black community.

Answer 5

sorry this has nothing to do with the Question...but why is your avatar white? ok anways there is really no such thing as acting white and black, im kinda like that to when black people say crap like that just ignore it.

Answer 6

wow well you even like the country. yeh i used to be a rocker and probs ur age but i grew out of it and broadened my horizons eventually. just ignore those idiots and be yourself. you'll just make a more interesting person!

Answer 7

People who " ACT Black" are pretenders and I feel embarrassed for them.It's people like that that cause all the racial tension. You are smart enough to know we are really all the same.Don't apologize for that. As for people saying tour avatar is white, hmm, mine is brown ,there was no white available. I look like I'm mixed or just light.

Answer 8

im just like you im 12 and black and i only have white friends listen to rock but i just block out what the ghetto ppl say and stay with my frends because i am who i am if they dont like it then too bad.

oh and to answer your question over time all of them will change last year everybody was ghetto and act black but now some ppl are punk prep ghetto as the older u get the more they will find there personality..in middle school its were u get braces and find who u are.

Answer 9

People are just like that - all I can say is that calling you an "oreo" is immature and very closed-minded and it's best that your don't pay any of that sort of thing any attention because it's not worth any of your emotional energy. Some people just don't like anything that is different from themselves, especially your parents.

Just ignore it. Noone has the power to change who you are, so just say "SO WHAT?" to them. Does it matter that much in the end?? You are still your parents' daughter.

Goodluck and hope that helps.

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I'm Asian, play guitar and love rock music - you can imagine the weird looks my family gives me lol! :P

Answer 10

Trust be , I'm full black and I have SO been there,
I like a lot of rock bands (some that you mentioned), as well as hip hop, pop, rap, classsical guitar stuff ( I play guitar)
When I got into my "rock phase" all I would here from my older brother and other family members/friends sre:
"omg! thats white ppl music"
"are you sure you're black?"
"whats wrong with her"

At first I would start arguments but then I realised how ignorant they were being and just ignored them. I mean, how many white people listen to rap! Loads! and most rap artist and black, so why can't it work reversed?

I have friends from different races but whenever I would hang out with a white mate it would be "look what she's (my white mate) doing to her" and my brothers mate once told my brother to "get help for your sister", like i had a ******** illness or something!

I think they don't like it because they think you're rejecting your race, which i am totally not by the way, i just happen to prefer that kind of music once in a while.

Answer 11

Don't let it get to you. You don't have to act black, just act like yourself. I've had a lot of my white friends tell me I don't act black because I don't talk that ghetto (I used "that" because I frequently let out my inner n-word :) but back on topic...). I like Hip-hop, I love "black movies", I study and often quote MLK, Malcolm X, the Black Panthers, and 2pac, and the best oreo accusation they could come up with was that I don't normally speak ghetto. I asked them to define being black, and they couldn't answer. I told them that just because I don't talk like those stereotypes you see on BET doesn't automatically make me not Black, and they backed off. That was my wild card, now you just have to find yours.

Answer 12

Not all white people act the same. I think you are a stupid, white butt kisser. They don't care that much for you. I may date white men, but they know I'm in charge!