What you think of "the rough guide to single moms"?

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I thought I would set down a “rough guide” for men thinking about starting a relationship with a single mom and what some of the ramifications are of dating and entering into a deeper relationship with a single mom could be. Of course this guide does not apply to all women or all men but it will list the main problems I have observed through over the years.

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Answer 1

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you're an effin genius, why don't these women stop being hypocrites and admit they want an instant father for their child and an instant extra bank account!

My best friend is exactly like this- usually the men realize what she is really like and they just stop calling her. (they have some brains)

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Asker's Comment:

I know single moms like that and I've dated a few. So far they fit what you just said and the guide as well.

Answer 2

look, single mothers are gonna be different. Some single mothers are gonna throw themselves at a man. I know mothers who go out and tell their children that their gonna bring home a daddy. On the flip side, some women are gonna be difficult because they have been betrayed by a man before and on top of that they have to be strong in order to take care of their children. this can make them too strong(( yes there is such a thing)) which in return makes them very closed of and defensive. That's just the classifications of single mothers. Of course there are some who walk the void inbetween but this is what I observe to be the majority of simgle mother behavior.

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Just a 16 year old boy

Answer 3

Yes do it becuase single mothers are the only people with dating/relationship issues.

Answer 4

I am a single mum with 2 kids.
For most of the people, included my family members, friends and relatives , always think that single mum is desperate for man, for $ , or for sex and is very loose.
It is not easy have a relationship with some single mum (me is an example) , as your parents/relatives might not agreed/accept ; my kids might now agreed and accept too.
You need a lot of patience, to care and concern, courage to face those incidents which will hurt you and partner...some single mum no confident for futuer (esp relationship)...

Answer 5

ohh lord were do i start.. first and formost you write very well.. or should i say explain things in a clear way.. that dosnt mean i agree with all of it, but some. when i think of the term single parent, i woudlnt put myself in that catagory or even go by that.. my son has both set of parents.. myself and his father.. both of us are active in our sons life.. he is 4. when i think of a single parent, i think of a women doing it by herself w/o help phyicaly, emotionaly, and finacially from the other parent. our son get's all of those things from both parents. i do have a b/f who i was soley just friends with w/o him being around my son.. we did have an attraction to one another, but i didnt want to bring him aorund my son until i knew were the relationship was going.. on the other hand my sons father did not know what to do with himself after i was no longer there to "parent" him..i say it that way for obvious reason.. you would have to know him to understand... when i finally engaged in a romantic relationship with the said friend, my sons father drifted from his son emotionally, and phycialy to find someone.. he still saw him, but it was a huge differance than before.. we have been seperated for 3.5 years and in that whole time, he could not watch him w/o having his parents with him.. why i do not know.. maybe he couldnt handle it.. (sigh) along with that, he fished through women left and right and w/o my knowlege was bringing our son around each and every new women he wanted to be with.. this caused a huge problem with my son, b/c it started to confuse him.. he had told me his reason for looking for a women was so she can be a replacement for me since we are no longer together and wanted help with taking care of him..and b/c he was paying childsupport. i questioned how he could think this way, when i was without a partner, i was doing it alone in my own place nurturing our son.. when we were together he debated that he could do it all by himself and didnt need me, but the second he dosnt have a women around he freaks out.. its dosnt make sence. he is a doctor and works alot of hours, he still has time to do what he desires, but that dosnt include his son.. so maybe perhaps this is a bittness that some "single" moms complain about and truthfully would like a companion to be by there side just as he feels fit to do... i played my cards right with my situation.. i thought of my sons best interest and got independant. work, pay my bills, nurture my son and still have room for a loving relationship. before my b/f and i decided to take it to the next level and be in a roamntic relationship, he got the opportunity to see what i was all about.. were my morals stand and how i am as a mother.. this all attractd him to me and still does.it didnt stop after we got together, like you say in most cases it does. the only complaint he has is this...since the father is still in my sons life, he feels like he dosnt know were he stands as far as a "step parent" goes.. he feels discouraged that my sons father makes a hefty living and always feels he is not good enough for me, even when i remind him that if i wanted all the nice "rich" filled lifestyle that my ex flashes to women then i would have stayed with him.. but i am with him and i rather find true love than settle for empty love. we both work, we both pay bills and we both share household responcibilities that is what we agreed on well before we decided to become a couple... dont get me wrong.. its not all flowers and glory, but knowing i have someone in my life that truly cares about me makes me feel on top of the world... i want to note that i dont know were you get your percentage of single mothers who have criminal people as family or friends around them.. i am surrounded by well educated people who do nothing of stealing or commiting crimes... once again, my life is what it is b/c i chose it that way and i am happy about it... sorry about the crappy spelling.. spell check wouldnt work to correct the errors... truth.

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parent to a 4 year old boy