Do you think its right for Stephanie Meyer to glorify abusive boyfriends?

Question

Am I the only one who noticed the Edward displays most of the signs for being an abusive boyfriend?

It seems that so many girls are completely in love with him despite the fact that he is a controlling, jealous, jerk who is possessive of Bella. This is not helped by Meyer who makes him out to be Prince Charming.

Am I the only one who is worried by the scores of girls who sit there and say they are waiting for the their own Edward Cullen?

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Kendra's up the wall again- I have had an abusive boyfriend and he told me he loved me all the time too and the he would never hurt me. You do not have to hit someone to abuse them. Emotional abuse is just as painful it just doesn't leave any bruises.

He monopolizes her life, hides things from her, and frequently lies to her about what's going on with Victoria and what's going on in her own life. He takes up all her free time for himself, tells her she can't be with Jacob, bribes Alice to hold her hostage for a weekend while he's gone, sends her away to visit her mother when there's suspicision about Victoria without telling her, forges her signature on college applications, and invites Jacob to their wedding after Bella told him not to. He even use Marriage as a barginning tool. He refuses to let Bella nad Alice see each other after he breaks up with her, he repeatively scares her. He watches her sleep! Thats not normal even for a vampire.

Also Jacob shows just as much self control as Edward does. For him being a big bad scary werewolf he is ertainly doing a good job of hiding it.

These are huge bright red flags of abuse.

Answer 1

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I do not think that was her intention but its what it ended up doing sadly. Somewhere in the next 5 to 10 years women shelters are going to be booming if all these twilight girls find their Edward Cullen.

Piano Baby- Bella is so a Mary Sue!

Sheepie- That's what most abusers say. I only did it because I love you. The truth is there is no excuse for someone who loves you to abuse you ever. That's what so dangerous about this. It makes it look like these signs of abuse are really signs of love or are normal when someone loves you when really the are not.

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No I do not think it was her intention either but still its not good.

Answer 2

wat the hell? how is edward 'abusive' he said that he actually wanted her to be w/t someone like mike newton so many times
team jacob

Answer 3

im a girl, and i think edwards the perfect boyfriend. Theres nothing wrong with being controlling to a certain extent. He cares about her dearly.

jacob is the bad one she keeps saying she just wants to be friends and he ignores it and tries to be with her, kiss her against her will. worse then being abusive what does that sound like its leading up to

Answer 4

I'm not in love with him O_o

Answer 5

I completely agree. I have read all the of the Twilight books and I have not liked any of them.

Edward is probably the most flawed character in her stories. He is possessive and he treats Bella like a 4 year old, and she still goes running back to him, like it is normal or something.

Not all abuse is physical....

EDIT!!
Bella is totally a Mary-Sue.

Answer 6

Yeah I don't know what these young girls see in a controlling boyfriend.Like my old pastor said his late wife said "Ain't no man gonna boss me." As far as I'm concerned my daddy is at home and I don't need any man bossing me like he my daddy.If I want to be bossed by some man I can go to my dad.
And I don't know why these girls like abusive men.Girls who go for abusive or controlling men have low self esteem.

Answer 7

I just have to point out that Edward can lift a car with one hand and through all the books tries his hardest not to hurt Bella because to him she is more fragile then a toothpick. Stephenie Meyer points this out many times in the series. Also, if u had not noticed Edward, has great manners through each book. He did lose control a few times such as the first time Bella and Edward were in the meadow and he freaked out. He had a reason to be jealous but, by the end of Eclipse, he decides that Bella should choose who she wants and that he should not be jealous. Edward also doesn't want Bella to become a vampire because of the pain she would have to go through, which to me is protective and not abusive in any way shape or form. But at the same time one of the reasons Bella probably will become a vampire is because of how fragile she is as a human and with one wrong movement he could crush her, where as if she is a vampire she couldn't be hurt by him. So i do not worry about it.

Answer 8

WAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT!!! EDWARD IS SOOOO NOT ABUSIVE! He's like, madly in love with Bella! Why would he hurt her? He's even said that he would never hurt her! You have some serious problems. Edward is, like, angelic. He's not evil. Edward is just protecting her. She needs him too, otherwise she would most likely die. And what? Do you support Jacob? He's the one who hurt her when he grabbed her face before he kissed her the first time. Edward would never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever hurt her. Jacob would, though. Jacob denies it, but yes, he did hurt her. Edward is always careful and gentle around Bella. He won't take her with him when he's hunting, so she's safe, he drives her places, to keep her safe, stays with her when she's scared, and he sat out the battle and ultimatly, KEPT HER SAFE.

So guess what? If you don't like how Edward is, FIND A NEW BOOK TO READ!

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Answer 9

I don't agree. Edward is a tad controlling, and he is flawed. Meyer writes her characters as real (relatively speaking, I don't think anyone truly believes vampires and werewolves are real), not as perfect Molly Sue's who don't do anything wrong. Jacob is more "abusive" than Edward. For goodness sake, he kissed Bella without her even signaling him she wanted it! For the jealous part, you have to put yourself in his shoes for a while. If your girlfriend/boyfriend was hanging out with your mortal enemy AND she fell for him, wouldn't you get a tad jealous? How is he a jerk? He saved her life twice and he has let her choose whether or not to stay with him or go off with Jacob. Edward doesn't make Bella stay with him, away from Jacob. In the beginning he tried, that's true, but he relinquished. He's the right guy for Bella, and he represents the right guy for every girl. He's more than a character to fans-- he's a symbol.

Answer 10

I agree, no girl should ever be told it's OK for her boyfriend let alone anyone to control her life. And I cant believe someone on here posted it's OK for a boyfriend to be a tad controlling. No one should ever be able to tell you what to do with your life. What happened to the women's movement. We fought long and hard to be treated like equals, why wouldn't you want to be able to control your own life and think for yourself. There is something to be said for a confident self-sufficient women. I've had family in abusive relationships, they're hard to get out of and if a guy hurts you once emotion/physical he'll do it again. My best friend was emotionally abused and controlled by her boyfriend for years, no girl should be told he does it because he loves you. They just love to control you, if they loved you they'd want you to control your own life and support you emotionally, not put you down so that you feel your not good enough. Bella is a young girl who doesn't know any better and this just shows she's to young to know the difference between love and abuse.

Answer 11

Edward may be emotionally abusive in a way to Bella, but it's only becuase he loves her so much that he cannot help being slightly selfish in wanting her and wanting the best for her, which inadvertantly hurts her. Jacob, being 16 instead of nearly 100, is far more immature and has obviously got much less experience, so he also inadvertantly (sorry I can't spell that word) hurts Bella, but again he doesn't mean to, it's just becuase of his lust for her. However, Jacob DOES respect Bella, which Edward doesn't always seem to do - he treats her like she is far younger than him, which obviously she is, but personally I couldn't be in a relationship where my partner did not have full respect for me. I can see this would be hard for Edward when he obviously knows a lot more about things than Bella though, and needs to keep her safe. So really, it's all swings and roundabouts, but I don't think Stephanie Meyer had the intention of glorifying abusive boyfriends at all - she is just trying to show Edward's love for Bella, and her love for him.

Answer 12

No I do not think its right.


Piano baby- Bella is a Mary Sue through and through.

Answer 13

You are over analyzing the book way too much. He loves her so much, he feels he has to protect her from any harm that comes her way. Honestly, I feel it's a personality conflict. Considering you've had rough times with boyfriends, you will probably make out any man who tells his girlfriend to stay away from someone abusive.

Answer 14

Are you serious, hes controlling because hes so afraid for her life. If he has to be controlling to keep her safe thats fine with me in my book. But im sure you havent exactly read the rest of the books yet because he literaly sat there and told her if I had to leave you to keep you safe I would, and if you had to let you go and be happy with anouther guy I would. Jacob's contolling if anything, that boy should have let it go along time ago and let her be happy if anything instead of forcing his presence down her throat like an arragant jerk, dont get me wrong it seems he just doing everything in the best intentions "for him" but what about her?, what he has to imprint on some girl and leave her which would happen sence he still hasnt imprinted on someone yet, so point blank right there Bella isn't for him. Period, Edward Cullen is not a jerk, he may be jealous but who wouldnt be at that point and possesive, no over-reacts sometime yes.

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