Parents: Would you be comfortable with your teenage daughter having sex if?

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..They were fully responsible & protected ie..theve had the contraceptive jab (or pill) AND they are use condoms...I am asking just for daughters because I am expecting a girl & they can get pregnant.

I personally believe sex is very natural & healthy with the right protection..even for teens. Would you be comfortable with your teenage daughter being sexually active, why or why not? Thanks : )

Answer 1

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I think I would be as long as I felt she was ready and that she wasn't sleeping with many different partners. My husband thinks otherwise, but personally I think all kids are going to do it. It's better if you accept that and talk to them about it so you know that they're being safe and they know they can come to you for questions about birth control. I think forbidding sex for teens is like telling them not to breathe. They're hormonal, and it's natural.

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Answer 2

I can tell you MY experiance.
My dad and my mother are fully aware I have sex with my boyfriend and they approve. My dad even makes jokes about it (when my boyfriend came to the door, my dad chased after him and said "wait, take your Magnums!!").
I think they both agree with you, otherwise they wouldn't be so chill.

Answer 3

no. the thought of one of my daughters having sex sickens me. i know that is a part of life, but to me they will always be my pure angels.

Answer 4

No! Sex should occur after marriage!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

to some degree yu can and cannot be comfortable with it. Firstly she has to understand that yes she can get pregnant easily.If she is responsible however, she will understand fully of your concerns... talk to her about pill, about birth control nd about condoms..

Answer 6

I would not be comfortable with it because sex is not a decision that should be taken lightly. For the most part (and there are exceptions to everything), teenage boys and girls are impulsive and easily persuaded. There are too many young people getting pregnant and STD's. If teens were more responsible, there wouldn't be such a high rate of pregnancy and STD. So, I would not be comfortable with my teenage daughter having sex.

Answer 7

No, I am going to teach my son even, that unless he is ready to be a father that he should not be having sex. Birth control is not 100%, and teens are not always responsible enough to remember to take the pill or to remember to have condoms with them. My niece is 11 and my sister has started talking to her about sex and that she needs to wait until she is at least out of school.

Answer 8

No I wouldnt be comfortable. It would be much more better if she would marry first and then have sex.
its just runs in the family i guess and im happy to know i make my mom proud of not having sex until marriage.
sometimes its just religion, culture. I beleive that if you know alot about sex and being responsible.. y not?
but as if it were my daughter no...

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Answer 9

I wouldn't be comfortable but i wouldn't be angry or object, I'd just want her to come to me if she needed to talk about anything.

Answer 10

No, not at all. Comfortable with it that is.

Sex is way too much to even truly understand in your teens.

Most who have sex early regret it.

And God clearly says it's wrong unless between a man and wife. It's a gift He gave us, and used the wrong way brings on so much destruction.

Answer 11

congrats on the baby. im so happy for you.

im not a parent so i can't answer the question just wanted 2 wish ya the best of luck :D

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Answer 12

Its not that I wouldn't want my daughter to have sex - responsibly. I agree it is a natural thing and something I think everybody able to should enjoy - to a point.

My real concern would be that she would end up hurt or with some guy that wouldn't treat her right or just use her. Thats what really stands out in my mind. Being a guy I know what little boys really want and its not always a commitment.

Answer 13

not a parent, but i was a teenager not long ago, my mum was very cool and was happy for me to "be a teenager", i was on the pill, and always used condoms. my mum was fine with me having sex, because its what teens do, and she would rather know i was sexually active and safe, than sexually active and unsafe and hiding it from her... my mum and i always have had a very honest relationship, and i can really tell her anything. she always said she was better off knowing i was having safe sex, than seing what my friends parents did and turning a blind eye to what their kids were up to...

Answer 14

Kids are not having sex. Adults are having sex. When you are steroidally sexual and primed for erecciones or coitions, you not a child anymore. You';re adult now, in facts.

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Answer 15

God no! If I have a daughter she's not allowed to date till she's 21. I have no problem being a "too strict" parent. If I have a boy, he is free to have as much sex as he can get, as long as he is safe and smart about it.

Answer 16

I'd much rather know she's doing it safely than for her to hide it from me and perhaps be doing it unsafely. Teenagers, as a general rule, will try to do whatever they want to do, regardless of what the parents say. It doesn't matter how well you think you raised your child. If a parent is given the opportunity to explain the pros and cons of premarital sex and avenues to safeguard against pregnancy and STDs, then they should grab the opportunity with both fists. Because even though teenagers do tend to do what they want to do, it doesn't mean that they don't hear or accept advice and insight from their parents. (Even if they don't want to admit to it.) :)

Answer 17

No, because teenagers shouldn't be having sex. For one thing, it would interfere with her academic studies in school, and likely cause low grades (including failures). Another thing, sex outside of marriage at such a young age has produced a lot of conflicts within these relationships, and likely leads to further relations with even more men or boys, thereby, increasing the likelihood of getting pregnant, or getting STI's. Even wearing condoms during intercourse is never 100% effective in preventing these complications.

No matter how responsible your children may be, it is never safe to have sex outside of marriage. If I had a daughter and she told me she was having sex with a male partner, I would encourage her to sever the relationship with him, and I would not permit this activity in my home. I would only want what is in her best interests. Besides all this, there are much better things in life to enjoy than having sex. Would you point these things out to her when she grows up?

Answer 18

When my oldest daughter was 16 (almost 17) she came to me and told me that she and her boyfriend got "close" to having sex and she was "scared" it would happen. I had always preached abstinence (which I now know is ineffective) to her and told her that it was best to wait until marriage. Blah, blah, blah. She got all the lectures.

I asked what she wanted to do. She said she wanted to go on the pill. After some thought, I made the appointment the next day. Although she was on the pill, I also discussed the importance of condoms.

I never felt as though I was giving my daughter permission to have sex.(although some would disagree) I always thought I was protecting her and I have never regretted that parenting decision even once.

I would never have done that for a 13 or 14 year old. Possibly not even a 15 year old. But I would definitely keep my eyes and ears wide open!

FTR** Straight A student, top 20 in a class of 150. She is now 36, is a biologist and has no children by choice.

Answer 19

I'm expecting too, not sure if it's a boy or girl yet, BUT regaurdless of the sex, my child will be taught from an early age about sex. I had friends in high school and even some in college that were running around sleeping with everyone, getting pregnant, and not really knowing 100% who the father was. Me? NOPE. I wasn't that girl, and I honestly beleive it was because when I was in 7th grade my mom sat me down and was completly honest about everything. At that time it kind of grossed me out, but it also showed me that I could talk to her about it, before I decided to have sex, and when that time came, with a boy I had been dating for over a year, I went up to her and told her, she took me to get on the pill, and bought me condoms. No, she didn't like it and of course she wanted me to wait until I was married, but she knew better than that cause I would have done it anyway! and so will your child, and my child, and everyone else's children cause teenagers do what they want! Honestly, she was just glad I was honest with her. If nothing else, I was one of the few sixteen year old girls who were protected, and my mom was happy about that. That's exactly why I beleive its a good idea, to be upfront and honest with your children.

Answer 20

I will be comfortable with my daughter having a great sex life with her husband. There are 100 million reasons and they grow as I get older. My sister was lucky to raise two even though she should have been raising four. She has such aweful regrets. So do I

Answer 21

Sex is a beautiful thing between 2 people who love each other, when the time is right, when there isn't a worry about pregnancy, disease, etc. Teens often have sex way before they are emotionally ready, and having sex before one is ready can lead to depression and low self esteem. Sex is also a hormonal thing, that goes back to the need to survive and procreate, therefore, humans often do it without the love involved.

When a person is ready, that is the time, and most young teens are definately not, and around 18 they've had enough of life's little experiences to guide them, however, there needs to be some education, protection, and lots of love and RESPECT for both their partner, and themselves.
As the mother of a teenage boy, who has a very open relationship with him and about 10 of his friends, I hear so much with the boys about not respecting girls, and using them that I would worry about letting a girl out of the house until she's 30 (and it's mostly his friends. My son's been involved with a special girl for quite a while)

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Answer 22

I would absolutely be comfortable with my daughter having sex ONLY if she was using protection. I agree, it is very natural and part of growing up. I am open about sex with my kids and my foster son. My foster son just turned 17. I walked in on him having sex... all i did was ask him if he was using a condom, he said yes and I closed the door. Thats it. If you are too over protective and shelter your children then you are not teaching them the skills they need. I talked openly with my former foster daughter (shes 19 now) about my personal expereiences in sex and she chose to abstain until she was in a steady relationship. this was all i could ask for.

Answer 23

Comfortable, no. Accepting, yes. I tried to teach my kids not to have sex with anyone they wouldn't want to marry. I talked to my daughter about the fact that just because hormonally she would want to have sex, she had to sit back and think about the consequences. We talked about pregnancy, stds - including aids/hiv. She made the decision to get the shots for birth control before she was even in a relationship. She was 16 and wanted to be protected, just in case. She experimented with this one guy she really liked about 4 times. Then, she decided she wasn't really for that kind of relationship. She stayed celibate until she was 18 and in a serious relationship. They are engaged, but will wait to marry until she finishes college.

I don't think it's so much about the child having sex as it about having an open relationship with your kid. All of mine have confided in me, asked advice, and kept me informed of their decisions, right or wrong. We can actually talk about whether sex is a good idea, what form of birth control is the right one for that child at that time. All of my children only have sex when they are in a long term relationship - married or just living together - and they are 18, 24, 25, and 27.

Good luck, and keep an open relationship and let her know she can always come to you, Rail

Answer 24

Sex is natural but I honestly believe that having sex before marriage for male or female can cloud your ability to recognize your right counter part! With that said, it doesn't mean that you can not have a meaningful marriage if you miss your intended right person, we just have to be the right person towards the one we choose and hopefully they would be the right person in regards to you! Sex is like a vacation away from everything else, sanctioned by God with your right women or man, depending on your gender!

Answer 25

i had my daughter when i was 17 and even when i was pregnant i have always said that i would put her on birth control even if she wasnt having sex just so that what happened to me doesnt happen to her i have never regretted but i know how hard it is being that young an have a baby but back to your ? yes i would be confortable with my daughter having sex if she was doing everything right i think that it is her choice to have sex or not i just want her to be protected

Answer 26

Interesting question.

Sex is physically and emotionally dangerous. A parent's first responsibility is to protect their children. You won't be able to control whether they use condoms.

My advice would be to instill good moral values. Talk about the dangers of sex before junior high. Encourage questions. Tell her she can always come to you.

AIDS is the biggest reason not to have sex outside of marriage.

Answer 27

I don't think that I would be comfortable with it at all, but I do know that if she is protected via pills and condoms that I will be able to accept it much more than her not knowing how to protect herself. I also would be more at ease if she is in a serious relationship.

It's impossible to prevent teenage sex, but I want to be a proactive, open mother so that my daughter (if I ever have one) and sons are able to speak to me about these issues and know how to be protected.

Answer 28

There is no form of contraception that is 100%, not even tube tying. In my opinion, it doesn't matter if you are responsible and protected because accidents happen. I am sure if you asked teenagers who are pregnant, if they answered honestly, they would say they thought they were being safe and they would not end up pregnant when they made the decision to have sex.

I don't even want to think about either of my daughter's having any sexual activity. There are too many diseases out there and I truly believe that a pregnancy or disease would ruin the rest of their lives. Having a baby as a teenager you would miss out on a lot of things and be forced to grow up before you were meant to. Teenagers are still a children, while they may think they know everything - they can't even imagine what they are in store for.

That is not to say that children are not beautiful. I love all 4 of mine dearly. I also waited until I was married to have children. I don't think it is a matter of a parent being comfortable with something. Parents want what is best for their children. A 13 or so daughter having a baby or getting an incurable STD is not what I would say is the best thing.

I hope that helps you.

Answer 29

If she were being responsible, she's be doing it when she is responsible enough to care for and to pay for her healthcare costs. While sex may be natural and healthy, it is not something that is for children. It also carries the risk of pregnancy and disease. How many kids are prepared to deal with those consequences?? None, the parents have to clean up the mess.

I have 5 (yes, 5) daughters. The eldest is 15 and she is NOT permitted to have a boyfriend, let alone date.

Answer 30

I think i would be, if she's safe and responsible about it, because like you said its a natural thing that we humans/animals do.

Answer 31

I'm sure all the 25 year old+ men (who like little girls) would love it if more parents thought like you.