She Called Me Fat!!?

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I am so so so hurt. I thought she was my friend- we have been friends for quite a while, but today she called me fat and pointed at my stomach, then called me "fat ***"- my best friend laughed too and just said "ooh you are so bad". It hurt me so much.; admittedly she is really skinny ( like a boy)- but I 'm not that fat. About a year and half ago I was diagnosed with anorexia and nearly died from low body weight and slow heart rate (I was just under 86 pounds at 5'3-4), but I am now 114 at 5'5- I thought this was healthy, but now I feel like the incredible hulk. I never eat junk and exersize- but I am curvy ( more Scarlett Johansen, than mary kate Olsen). It hurt me alot- I cut myself- I can't talk to anyone- my mom and pop's alredy think I am crazy, cos I had depression as well as anorexia/ female athlete triad, I don't want to share the cutting. I am really self concious now, and just in desperate need of some advice- anyone got any?

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Thank you all so much for your advice and upmost, your support. I nearly cried after reading all of your comments. I don't think I am able to vote for a best answer- you all deseve more than 10 points- maybe the fact that you made me, the girl wrapped in self loathing, sccared, quiet and hopeless feel better- and walk with her head held a little higher. The pain will never fade completely- but all of you made it a little easier.

Answer 1

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WOW, you need some new friends, sweetie. There are a LOT of girls out there who say that kind of thing to each other. Why? To help them feel better about themselves. They bring others down to falsely lift themselves up, if only in their mind. She sees that you are curvy and girly, while she still looks like a boy. At 114, you are in NO WAY fat. Even if you were 4'11" you would still not be fat. I am not just saying this to help you feel better, it's the truth. My gorgeous girlfriend is 5'4" and weighs 138 or so. To me, she is the perfect picture of femininity... oooh, those curves!!! You really, REALLY need to work on not letting what others say to or about you affect you so much. That is something everyone has to learn in life to be healthy and whole, because there will ALWAYS be someone out there who will try to make you feel bad. Don't let them! Smile and carry on with your day, knowing that you are a beautiful and unique person.

Answer 2

forget her. dont let anyone bring you down.

Answer 3

Look babe. I am 5'6 and 250 lbs. You are actually at very healthy steady pretty weight. No reason to be self concious. I bet your really pretty on the inside. Your friends are just bitches.

Answer 4

You sound perfect. She is saying mean stuff because she feels bad about herself. Don't let yourself be influenced by opinions of others. Stay healthy and strong.

Answer 5

dont cut yourself! just tell her how you feel. maybe she isnt a good friend if she judges you like that! you should be happy your healthy and dont be put down.hold ur chin high up and be proud =)

Answer 6

omg dont listen to people like that. you are a great weight. i think some people are just insensitive or jerks, and i think your "friend" is one of them. you shouldnt change your look but you might want to think about changing your friends.

Answer 7

i agree with wonder

Answer 8

im 5'1 and weigh 120 thats ALOT!

Answer 9

Just plug your ears and don't listen to them. They're going to make your anorexia come back. 114 lbs is perfectly normal for a 5' 5" person. Don't cut yourself, because if your friends are emotionally hurting you, then they're not real friends. You feel like hulk because you still have traces of the anorexia. Relax and stop letting your friend have control over what you do with your body.

Answer 10

At 114 pounds and 5'5, especially with your background of medical conditions, I would say you are perfectly healthy. Keep exercising to stay fit and keep your heart healthy.

As far as being called fat, the person who called you it most likely has a poor self-esteem and feels better about themselves when others are hurt. You shouldn't be seen with people like this.

If it's any consolation, most of the girls who were like this at my school are currently living with their boyfriends parents in their basement (no joke) while I'm off at college on a full ride and a beautiful girlfriend. (I had the same problem as you, except from the guy perspective. And not anorexia, Crohn's disease which causes lack of appetite and thus I get real skinny). So if anyone ever brings you down just remember that persons name so you can tip them well when they're your waitress 20 years from now.

Answer 11

Your skinny *** friend is probably jealous of something about you to just hate the way she hated. May be your not fat at all but thick and luscious, the way most men like their women and your friend noticed that and tried to make you think and feel like your not, she ain't sh*t then, drop that *** fast!!!!!

Answer 12

shes a looser 114 is super skinny!!! people are mean
today at school people said i was ugly fat need to gete a life and all these means things and i even model soo!!
there all jealous and please dont cut urself there are people who love you and who think ur skinny and amaazing and alot of people want to look like your size
sooo good luck and shes a ***** and dont be friends with her cuz she knows u have anorexia and just like the girl on antm said its like giving and alcholholic a drink
its mean and usless
dont be freinds with her
and goood luck

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Answer 13

she is not your friend!!!! cutting your self doesn't make the pain go away. pleeease see a professional you can get free counselling from community services.

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Answer 14

i am 130 pound and like 5' 2". You are SKINNY. wat is wrong with your friends anyway? Anorexia? Thats horrible that thay are treating you like that. tell them how upset you are-or just forget them

Answer 15

Look I am sure that you are a very beautiful person inside and out. And you sound like you are at a very good and healthy weight. Your friends are jealous of you and how good you look. ANd you shouldn't worry about what they think of you because they aren't your real friends and they want you to feel bad because they feel bad about themselves. Thats why they cut you down. Not because your fat because they are jealous. And you should be proud of that and who you are. Keep eating healthy and dieting because Im sure they aren't the only ones that are jealous. Look, Im 80 pounds overweight. I should be the one feeling like an incredible hulk here. But I know that im worth more in other things and that this weight is something I can loose. I know how people look and think of me but I don't care. I will lose this weight and feel good about myself regardless. And that is how you should think. Next time your friend calls you fat. Say well atleast Im not skinny like a little boy. And then walk away and feel good about yourself. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful and believe it. And talk to your mom and dad. They love you. You are beautiful.

Answer 16

As a guy, skinny skinny girls aren't attractive. 114 for 5'5 even seems a little small... what you need to to maybe even put weight on. Trust me this is in your mind, i unfortunately no a few people with it and trust me a little wait is 1000x better than skinny skinny.

Answer 17

You should have kicked her in the mouth. 114 at 5'5" is a great height to weight proportion. Dont listen to them. And you might want to seek some help for the cutting yourself. Thats not healthy behaviour. Screw your friends.

Answer 18

Are you kidding me? These are your friends? Why would you care what someone else said or think about you-even if it is someone who claims to be your best friend. You can't let people try to bring you down or bother you-they probably said it to get a rise out of you anyway.

I know this sounds hard to believe but in a few years all of this won't even matter. Just try to be the better person (as hard as it is) and just stay away from them for a while-if they want to know why you're being distant tell them that their comments bothered you-if they continue to tease you-they really aren't your friends!

If this board doesn't help-talk to someone, even if it's your school nurse. Anorexia is a serious disease and someone that is your friend would not be teasing you!

Keep your head up!

Answer 19

114 is a healthy weight. She's probably jealous of you and was trying to make herself feel better. Don't blame your best friend, she was probably uncomfortable in the situation and unsure what to do.

Curvy is good. Don't let anybody make you feel like there's something wrong with you, because there isn't.

Answer 20

I have 2 words for you, STOP IT! Are you replacing anorexia with cutting yourself? I think you need some kind of counseling. And, you're not fat. Those people aren't your friends. Hang around people who are uplifting. Loose the loose-rs! Good luck sweetie.

Answer 21

At 5 foot 5 inches you can be up to 125 pounds and still be at your prime healthy weight, per doctors' general rule of thumb (100 pounds at 5 feet and 5 pounds for every inch after). Don't let somebody with low self esteem tease you because you sound like youre at a perfectly healthy weight right now. Good luck and try your best not to revert back to an eating disorder to cope! If you need to, talk to your school counselor :]

Answer 22

Why surround yourself with people who put you down? Perhaps it is time to meet some new friends. There is a difference between being honest and being mean. Your friend is being mean.

Be happy with who you are and be proud of eating healthy and exercising. As far as cutting - there are reasons people cut - please find someone to talk with - a favorite teacher, pastor, guidance counselor - there is someone who cares enough to listen. Getting to the root of our problems helps us figure out the "whys" and then, how we can make changes to enjoy life fully. Blessings

Answer 23

Please don't listen to your friend. At 5'5 and 114 pounds, you are by no means fat. My guess is that your friend is going through some issues herself and is feeling crappy and wants you to join in on her misery.
I don't know if your friends know about what you went through but maybe they should be aware that they hit a sore spot with that. You don't have to go into details unless you really want to but if you ask them to back off, they probably will. I hope this helps for you.
Also, please talk to an adult who you can trust about your feelings. You are obviously hurting and it is not good to keep it in. Good luck and I really hope that everything works out for you.

Answer 24

You look great! You are actually at the lower end of what is healthy for your height... and it sounds like with your height and weight you are going to be curvy in the right way, but not fat at all... my guess is that she is jealous of you because she is SO ridiculously skinny that she looks like a boy and wishes she had your feminine curves because we all know boys prefer to date girls that look like girls, not girls that look like their little brothers. Keep your chin up, and just know that you MUST look better than her, or she wouldn't waste her time trying to bring you down.

Answer 25

Ok really, these rude, hurtful people are NEVER what I would consider friends. Cut contact with them as soon as possible, they are just stupid and they are a negative influence on you. Visit a really well-known renowned psychatrist and try to openly express your feelings about this situation. You need help from someone who can understand what you are dealing with.

I've also had issues with food as well. Though it has never gotten to that point, there were times where I wanted to just rip every ounce of fat off my body. But after all that craziness, I came to accept my body, flaws and all. NO ONE IS PERFECT. And as much as the media tries to make it seem like models and moviestars are perfect, always remember thet advertising companies spend thousands of dollars on retouching and airbrushing their photos to make an ''ideal look.'' In no circumstance should you ever hurt yourself or absolutely kill yourself over others opinions. Even though it is hard, we have to learn to cope and '' let it be.''

Answer 26

omg that is horrible. i also suffer from anorexia and that can really cause ED to scream out. i really hope your still in therapy and getting help because cutting yourself is just a symptom of what your feeling inside. i would seriously tell your parents about it. they love you and DO NOT think you are crazy. they just want you to be healthy! by the way! you are still really thin. i'm serious you are still almost underweight so you are NOT FAT AT ALL! : )

Answer 27

forget about her.
she just said that because she feels insecure about herself. a lot of people would kill for your weight.
she doesn't deserve to be called your friend if that's the way she treats you.

even though you may have negative thoughts about yourself, remember that there is ALWAYS at least one person out there who's wishing that they were you.

you need to love yourself and accept yourself for who you really are, not because of how you look. remember, there's only one of you in this world :)