How do I fire my wedding planner?

Question

I have had a wedding planner for the past 6 months. I have been engadged for a year. Really, I have been making most of the plans, with her making suggestions here and there.

But lately she's been shooting down my ideas. I want red and white roses and lilies for flowers since my colors are red and white, and she said no, that she doesn't do two different colored flowers. She tried to talk me out of my wedding dress that I loved. I know she knows best, but I really have my heart set on things I know I want in my wedding. She may have more expierence then me in weddings, but even my step-mom, who has been a wedding planner for 23 years, said that she isn't being a good wedding planner. I agree.

How can I go about firing her? Do I call her? Should I write her a letter? Should I talk to her in person? Please help!

Additional Details

I went through everything in her contract and she made up a little booklet for us stating her purposes, and I can fire her at this point and time and will just owe her a small fee.

I didn't go with my step-mom because of the whole "hiring family thing". She also has been helping me with the wedding as well in areas the wedding planner wouldn't/

Like I said, my step-mom wasn't hired because of the whole hiring family thing. And now she'll be happy to help me with the rest of it and she isn't mad I didn't ask her first.

Answer 1

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Being a wedding planner myself I would hate to think that I treated a bride like that. Basically our job as a planner is to execute a wedding based on the wants of the bride and groom, offering suggestions when needed! If you can fire her under the contract without too much money going out then do it! The only suggestion I have is to find someone who can coordinate your wedding day for you. Your stepmom can help with all the planning and even come up with the timeline etc. of the rehearsal and wedding and reception but you will all be happy to have someone who can step in and make sure every thing is running just how you planned it to. It really takes the stress off of you and stepmom on the actual day!

best wishes........................

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Asker's Comment:

Thank you. I chose her since she is an actual wedding planner and knows what a wedding planner should do. I have contacted her and told her it was over. I owe her $150 for ending the contract and $250 for her services that she already did.

THANKS!

Answer 2

tell her that you dont like how she is handling things and she is fired. you are paying her so there fore she is working for you.

Answer 3

Before you do anything you need to read the contract. Check for the terms-
Then I think a letter is the most official way to fire her.

Answer 4

Write her a letter, and explain that while you value her expertise, you have your heart set on some details that don't seem to be working for her.
Remember, this is your day - it is her job to make your wishes come together properly, not the other way around.

Answer 5

Call or e-mail her. Tell her that your vision for this wedding and hers just are too far apart, and that you'll no longer be needing her services.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Call her and tell her you no longer want her help planning your wedding. dont let her try and convince you take her back, just stick to your guns, and tell her its over. You will probably still have to pay her fees though.

Why didnt you just get your step mom to help you in the first place?

Answer 8

Tell her (in person) that things are not working out as you would like and you no longer need her services.

Answer 9

You should write a letter so that you have this in writing. (Keep a copy for yourself.). Simply state. Dear Wedding Planner, I am terminating your services effective immediately (make sure there is a date on your letter). Please send me a bill for your services to date so that I may settle my account with you. Thank you for having assisted me with planning my wedding. Sincerely, Bertha Jones. You don't have to provide any reasons or excuses. Just make it clear that you are no longer contracting for her services. Period.

Answer 10

pro-rate her pay and tell her that you think that she's given you a good foundation (not...) but that you think you'd like to handle it from here.

Answer 11

Just say, "Miss Lopez, you may be a good singer & actress,
but you stink as a Wedding Planner".

Answer 12

First, check your contract. There might be a fee to terminating your contract prior to your wedding. You may have to pay her for the time she's spent with you or half of the fee you planned on paying her (so, if you are paying her 1K total, she may ask for $500 to terminate the contract)


Review your contract and then speak with her in person.

Don't get nasty, that's the worst thing you can do.

This isn't about you or her. You two simply don't mesh, that isn't anyone fault. I'm sure she's made other brides happy and I'm sure there are other planners out there on the same page as you.

However, if you can't break your contract; consider ways to compromise and work around these issues.

Answer 13

tel her
that its YOUR wedding
not hers
and yes she is a wedding planner
but its your special day
and things should be done the way you want to remember it
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Answer 14

Call her...and say that YOUR vision of YOUR wedding differs greatly from hers...Tell her you wish to find other services and thank her(yes thank her) for her hard work.

Remember she would only know best if she was telling you it would be more expensive or hard to get, she is just being intimidating if she tells you you are wrong.

Buy what you want...A Good wedding planner finds things you want...You make the decisions based on her advice not the other way around.

If you were building a house and you hired a contractor who had years of experience, you wouldn't keep him if he said he only builds barns and not single-families. This is your wedding and your money not the planners.
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Answer 15

Be polite. Call her if you are too embarrased to face her. Just tell her "I appreciate all the help you've given me the last few months, but I think our views are just too different. I have my heart set on certain details of the wedding that I am not willing to compromise". Then just tell her that you've decided to plan the wedding yourself (even if you've hired another planner).

If she's professional, she should handle it professionally and gracefully. If she gets belligerant, just hang up on her.

Answer 16

Hi. Wow....too bad you didn't take advantage of your step-mom. I am sure she would have been flattered to have been asked, and, I am assuming, would have done it for FREE!

In any case, yes, I think you should call her. Simply say....."I have a lot of my own ideas and between my step-mom and myself, we think we can cover the rest of my wedding planning." Then ask her what you owe and tell her the check will be in the mail!

Good luck with your plans!

Answer 17

this is a service you are paying for. the key to all areas of the service industry is "the customer is always right". it is your wedding, the planner can be a great negotiator for pricing, and coodinator to make sure it runs smooth. talk to your planner and explain that is the "service" you want. You want your wedding to be yours. you only need help to negotiate, and coodinate so you can enjoy your wedding not be running around "wheres the caterer?,flowers here on time?etc.

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Answer 18

Just tell her its your wedding and that you're going to do it the way you want to.Shes had a chance at her own wedding and you're paying for it so its about what you want not her.

Answer 19

tell her "look ***** you fired" lol just tell her what you told us here.This is your wedding you don't want to regret not firing her when someone thing go wrong on the most important day of your life.This is your day not hers, she's there to help you save money and make sure things go smoothly on the actual day bcuz you will be too busy to do it yourself. it's not her choice to pick your flowers and i'll be damned if my wedding planner try tp pick my dress. Dont be scared just tell her you're sorry but unfortunately you wont be needing her services anymore, goodbye. and thats it. good luck.

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bride to be may 3, 2008

Answer 20

Easy - you move your hand in a cobra like fashion and say "you're fired"

Seriously, you call her up and tell her that due to the fact that she does not listen to what you want for your wedding and that you have been doing most of the work yourself you can see she is not needed. Also write her a letter saying basically the same thing. You can thank her for her work up until this point and include a check for any remaining fees you owe her. Red and white flowers will be gorgeous and don't let anyone steer you away from the dress you want. She does not "know best" She knows what she likes and what is easiest for her, not what is in your best interest. Do it yourself and get help from your step mom from time to time. She doesn't have to be your official wedding planner but I'm sure she'll be happy to help you out on the details.

Answer 21

I'd just email her, or something. A wedding planner should never shoot down your ideas, suggest alternatives, but never shoot down. And I understand about the not hiring family thing, but luckily, she's there to help, regardless, right?

Answer 22

If your step-mom has been a planner she will know all the wording to include in the letter. Ask her to help you. Return receipt requested is always a good idea for something of this nature.