I am so socially awkward .... what do I do?

Question

I am really socially awkward.
I find that I just am make people feel uncomfortable, even though I don’t mean to. let me first start by saying yes - I do shower, have nice breathe, and dress nicely.
now, moving on ....
I have no clue what to do, what to say. I am an only child, and have always been sort of quiet. But I am 16 now, without a clue of what to do.
I smile and laugh as much as I can.
What do I talk about?
I am always so alone…and when ever I talk I bore people. Or I do not talk enough and then people are like “great…”
Just last week a kid was like “Oh man, I got the WORST partner ever today”, and that partner was me.
Please, any advice? What can I do?
Thanks.

Answer 1

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You are very young, that always happens during some stage of life, it is always different for each person, but it always comes. Do not worry about it, do not be over talkative when you do talk to someone else, listen to what they have to say, but not just hear them, listen to them and talk to them about something that really interests them to get their attention. Once you have their attention and you have identified what they want to talk about, aknowledge it, let them know you understand. After that, they will not be bored of you and will always want to talk to you.

Answer 2

You're just a "teen"...lots of them go through that stage. I was also shy when I was your age but not so anymore. You need to socialize by getting involves in organizations, clubs, or jobs. You will most likely find your own place as you get older and become secure of who you are.

Answer 3

First of all, there's nothing wrong with you. High school is the absolute worst place for people in your current state of development to come of age and that lab partner of yours was just rude, and I mean RUDE!

Ok, I was tall, awkward, shy in high school, so I think i'm qualified to give you some sound advice...Enjoy it. Right now, you are growing physically, intellectually, and spiritually, and that's why you feel awkward.

If you want to become more social, please try to do it outside of school. Volunteer, get involved in church activities or community activities, throw yourself head-first into a hobby and make yourself an expert of some type. That way, you will start communicating with people who aren't so vapid (aka STUPID), who have interests and are interested in sharing.

Anyway, by the time you get to college, you'll just start coming out of your shell (you won't be used up like the popular kids), and then I would say "watch out world":)

Answer 4

When you are in a group, PREPARE for the group. Think of 5 questions that you can ask that will get the attention off of you. The questions should be about something of interest for the group or about themselves. People love to talk about themselves. When people say that you are the worst.... Look at them, smile and touch them, poke them and tell them don't be silly. We will have a lot of fun. People pick up on how you feel about yourself. Don't let on that you are shy. You emit behaviors that elicit certain behaviors. Change your behaviors and they will change theirs. Be quietly assertive. Know that you are unique and special and to be dignified and that you will treat people just like that. Kids will pick up on this quickly. Go for it!

Answer 5

I was abit like that. You just have to find confidence from somewhere, and take things lightly.
The people that put you down are often the people that dont know you-
you just have to be yourself completely so people can get to know the real you.

Tell yourself that you are good enough to be yourself around people, and that if they dont like you its their own fault.

If you are always nice to people, then maybe you are just hanging around people who are too different from you, or maybe they are just jerks. Its easier to stick with people who you naturally get along with, these people are rare for some people and abundant for others.

And never put yourself down, it might just be the other person in the socially awkward one.

ps. Louisa's answer is the story of my life!

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One day i decided all i could be was myself and i was suprised at how much easier life was! :D

Answer 6

I don't know what you say to people, but I would have a few lines rehearsed, so you have at least something to say.
More importantly, take a real interest in other people. Ask them about themselves and the things they like. Everybody likes that. They will open up and think you are a great person because you have asked about them.
Before long you will find that you actually are a great person.