What are the signs of an abusive relationship?

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and despite that i love him, what should i do... he calls me fat all the time, he always says 'you suck', complains that i cant get a job (i've applied to almost every place where we live) and hes not letting me go to prom, and hates all of my guy friends from before i met him

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You may be in an abusive relationship if he or she:
Is jealous or possessive toward you.
(Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships; it is also a core component of Sexual Addictions and Love Addiction.)
Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding.
Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships.
Is violent and / or loses his or her temper quickly.
Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with.
Abuses drugs or alcohol.
Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.)
Blames you when he or she mistreats you.
Has a history of bad relationships.
Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.
You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do.
Makes "jokes" that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, weather privately or around family and friends.
Your partner grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child.
Your partner "rages" when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control.
Both parties in abusive relationships may develop or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain.
You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends, family and loved ones.
You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it's the right thing to do.

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these signs scare me but i now know i need to take some action

Answer 2

Bruises,depression,etc.

Answer 3

controlling your every move

puts you down verbally (you would feel so low about yourself, you wouldn't leave him cuz you cant do any better)

beats you

Answer 4

violent language

aggresive feelings

talks to you like if is giving u orders or treats you like your parents....

you dont feel a sweet feeling......


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xoxo

Answer 5

when someone as almost completely taken over the rest of your social life, when that person alters or changes how you feel about people you've known long before him or her. when you only spend time with that person. when that person hurts you physically or emotionally or mentally constantly or all the time.

talk to someone you trust, a friend, mother, father, teacher, nurse. someone who will do whats in your best interest, even though you care about this person, dont let them hurt you.

Answer 6

Characteristics of Abusive Relationships:

dominating or controlling the other person
isolating them from their friends
name calling (using put-downs)
breaking their possessions, or even your own, to intimidate the other person
threatening to cause harm to them
forcing sexual touching or sex
being extremely jealous or possessive (to the point of being controlling using jealousy)
pushing, hitting, biting, kicking or burning the other person
restraining or holding another person against their will
using scare tactics

Answer 7

You pretty much answered your own question. That's serious emotional abuse. You deserve much better than what you have. He puts you down because he himself is insecure. He figures that if you think you can't to better then you'll stay.