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I feel that I am starting to self destruct myself I got out of Job Corp May 30th of this year and I quit smoking while in job corp but now started back I have noticed that it has lowered my self confidence, also I am starting to drink alot and it is starting to disrupt my work I am calling into work alot and that is making me feel very bad about myself. I start college Monday and I don't know if I am going to stick with it if I contiune to do these things to myself. Also there is a voice inside my head, now note I am not crazy but this voice says you are stupiud every time I make a fail at something. I just got out of a mentally abuse and also physically abuse home and my parents which are the the people that have done this to me seems like they want me to fail because they have fail in there life. My mother which is an alcoholic and smokes pot comes over to my apartment and offers me beer and she just seems as if she is wanting me to fail. I really dont know what to do please Help

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Your self esteem needs a serious reboot.

You are listening to negative input from the people around you and this is affecting your own inner dialogues. (No I'm not Dr. Phil) You need to remove these negative influences from around you and get with some of the positive. You are already half way to solving your probelm simply by acknowledging that you have one. What you need to now is take a step by step approach to each of the influences in your life and take command of them. The positive influences - keep and work with them.

The negative ones - get rid of them as efficiently as you can. On account of your Mother - you will need to tactfully tell her that you are going to succeed no matter what her opinions and actions are. Just because she drinks doesn't mean you have to as well. REFUSE!!!

Tell yourself that you are better than what you have become and work on ways to better yourself. (Get some intestinal fortitude - in other words - Guts.)

It will take time and your self-confidence will take a beating but like walking along a bumpy road, you will trip and stumble at times but you will need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep going.