My boyfriend beats me. and most of you guys answers will be to brake up w him but he wont let me what do i do?

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my boyfriend said if i even tried to break up with him he would go crazy and im scared to so what do i do?

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im only 13 years old

Answer 1

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where is your father, brothers or uncles ? if you don't have
any , become friends with a bat. do what my 80yr. old grandpa once did to a young bully, hide behind something and when he pass by, introduce him to the bat. the young bully stopped messing with him. your boyfriend need some bat training. all in all, some of the answers you received in this site are good ones, but you are in danger and must leave this person or you may suffer long term problems. you are young and if you allow anyone to abuse you now, you may
allow it in the future. His actions are against himself because if he loves you, why is he doing hurting you like this. you may think he loves you but he does not, stop and think about it. don't feel alone because this happens all the time to young and old, the difference between the young and old are the same, they are afraid to leave. about him going crazy, he is already crazy or wants you to think that, he is playing games to keep you trapped in his world.
I'm sure you are beautiful and smart, and you must use your smarts to leave him, you may think he's your soul mate but he not. you will find someone new, someone who will love you as you want to be loved. God bless you. i don't know you
but i know that you will leave him yesterday.

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do yourself a great deed. go on line and research your problem, read about it. you may find ways to help you.
all in all don't stop , try all possible ways. please !! at least talk to the police and see if they can send you to a service group who works with people in your situation.

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thanx. this was a great answer

Answer 2

call the police...go to your parents house and stay there, dont tell him where you are at. if he knows where your parents are go to an aunts or a grandparents house. make sure you call the cops!!!

Answer 3

Go to the police immediately. Get a restraining order. You are in a seriously dangerous situation.

Answer 4

break up with him and if he tries to beat you again and go crazy you can file a restraining order against him. if he violates that then he will be arrested and put into jail. You can also file abuse charges against him right now if he is beating you

Answer 5

call cops, get a restraining order.

but if u are like most women, u wont leave him or take our advise.
so continue getting beating ok.

Answer 6

ONE SHOT ONE KILL! p.s. IN THE CHEST

Answer 7

Have you tried pressing charges?
I know that sometimes it can seem expensive, but getting a restraining order could help.
Move in with family, if you don't already live with some and be sure to be with someone at all times and carry a cell phone for protection.

Answer 8

Here is the answer, you sue him for physical abuse. Here is why. If you use the police and whatever, you have no real protection against him. If you sue him in a civil court, he has too options, either a.) pay you alot of money he can't afford to, or b.) leave the state, if he ever comes back he has to pay you the money. I'd also call the police and get a protection order against him, under no circumstances should you have to stay with a man because he hits you.

Answer 9

Well, you would have tried all the possible ways of convincing him and letting him know that he is hurting you..

but he is not realizing that.. he does not respect you and in that case why should u respect him... moreover, just for fear if you spend your life with him is not it a stupid thing to do so..

you are given life to live it the way you want and not to live under a guy who does not respect you... i would suggest you to break up with him and leave him... dont care for him... that's the best thing to do so...

i hope i am able to defend my reason... i hope i am being helpful to you this way...

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my heart....

Answer 10

come to my house I'm an alpha male and used to this situation, I'll punch him out and then we can go to lunch k
by by sweetie

Answer 11

Don't worry about him, he's a p*ssy coward, he won't do a damn thing. Next time he hits you, get out of the house, and call the police from a neighbor's house. They'll fix him, and you'll be free to go wherever you like.

Answer 12

See if you can trick him into saying this on the phone while you are recording it.

Yes, go to the police and get a restraining order. Then hide out at your parents' house.

You M-U-S-T break up with him. He's ALREADY crazy!

Answer 13

Legally get a firearm for protection, or, move--disappear. Stop having sex with him.

Answer 14

left him nad search police protection

Answer 15

A battered womens shelter would also be a good place to stay. Don't tell him you are leaving, just go. Call the cops. Bruises (yours) will help get him arrested. But don't stay to get some.

Answer 16

Leave town, get a bigger and scarier boyfriend, or just get a ball bat, and when he goes to sleep, beat the hell out of him. Tell him then when he wakes up, that if he ever touches you again or trys to intimidate you. That you will again beat the hell out of him until he leaves you alone. Eventually he will be scared of your crazy way. Seriously though, you need to get some help.

Answer 17

whats up dont you have any family,if one of my daughters and i have 2, was to even get threaten by their boy friend or husband i would rip his arms off and stick them down his throat ,cops are no good as most of the time they need to be there when it happens,or any good tough young blokes you know that could give him a smack,it sound like your boyfriend is a cowardly scumbag,

Answer 18

You beat him back and beat him hard and tell him the same thing what he tells you.

Answer 19

The first 3 answers were correct. If you dont get away you are gonna suffer. I wish I could stop by his place to give him a mans perspective on what happens to guys who beat woman.Whatever ,here is my local. elberfeld, In. If that is anywhere close to you let me know. I will not tolerate his type.

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Jesus wants me to help.

Answer 20

The best thing for you to do is to break up with him. In the first place theres no reason for you to allow yourself get beaten up by a stupid boyfriend.Turn to God. Prayers can move mountains!

Answer 21

Leave him, Go to the cops... Then, You should call a domestic violence center in your area. They can help with everything that you will need to make a clean break from him. If you truly want out they are your best option. They can even get you into a center in another state if that is what it takes.

Call one before he ends up going "crazy" and killing you. They will find suitable housing (what is called underground housing) until you can obtain the correct legal counsel and have paperwork filed. They can also help file police reports so that there is a file on this man.Then they can help with lawsuits and restraining orders.
Don't try and do it on your own.
And for goodness sake, let your family know that you are going into hiding somewhere safe(dont say where) so they are not worried sick.
Good Luck!!

Answer 22

Go to the police and have him arrested. While he is in custody, have yourself put in protective custody. Make sure you tell the police what you believe he will do if he can get near you again.

Breaking up is the best option. These are your alternatives;

Continue to be beaten by him until he seriously injures you leaving you scarred for life.
Continue to be beaten by him till he kills you.
Continue to be beaten by him, have kids with him and watch as he beats the kids too.
Continue to be beaten by him till you reach breaking point and beat him back/kill him.

Very rarely a person can change, but it usually takes a cataclysmic event to do so.

Don't let this guy rule your life, you only get one chance at it. It is a hard decision to make but you really should do everything it takes to get out, for your sake and for your future children's sake.

Good Luck

Answer 23

Hey yourself!! You know what you gotta do but you got some kinda sick twisted desire for abusive attention. You might as well kill yourself now so this way you can even protect this ashhole even in death cuz that's what this is gonna boil down to anyway. r u stupid or just so damned butt-ugly that you Gotta stay with this jerk cuz the dog won't play with you Even With a pork chop tied around your neck-get with the program or learn to use creative make-up to cover the bruises, Baby!

Answer 24

Don't let this guy rule your life like this. I understand that you're scared but you must find a chance to slip away without him knowing. Then I would suggest you go to the police, then to a friend's or your parents if you can. If not, I believe there are shelters for people like you who need support and protection from a loved one who beats you.

Answer 25

Get his *** put in jail.

Answer 26

If you were my daughter I'd have already shot him.

Answer 27

I curious, how old are you? Are any parents or relatives around you can tell this too? If not go to the police station and file an aggrevated assault and terroristic threatening charge against him. His arrest will result in him having to post bond and if you can talk to the Prosecuting District Attorney and he can recomend a very high bond that will keep him locked up till his trial.Once he's on the can and a few other inmates find out what he has done they may take care of business for you (if you know what I mean). Then find a defensive firearm class offered at a local shooting range and purchase a firearm for self defense and you will never be a victim again

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Watching the news and reading news articles of women who both did and didn't do what I just advised. The ones who didn't ended up in the obits. The ones who did read the obits of the abusive ex-boyfriends that tried to harm them again

Answer 28

The first time he hit you it would have been appropriate to either leave him or call the police. Don't listen to his gibberish such as saying you cause him to hit you or that nobody else would want you. Men hurt women because they are unhappy but are afraid of an existance without the woman they are abusing. Come on! Let HIM take care of himself.

You will need a support system that is familiar with the challenges you face. A women's shelter can be a place whose only agenda is to help you become a survivor. They can hide you in a safe haven and help you get a restraining order. A women's shelter can provide you with counseling and education to get your thinking straight. Which is more important--your relationship or your life? Look under HOTLINE at the beginning of your phonebook for someone to find out information from. Also, many cities have locations such as libraries or restaurants where SAFE HAVEN phone #'s to call are posted in ladies' restrooms. The force be with you!!!!!

Answer 29

CALL THE POLICE, then get help on getting away from him.

Answer 30

Hon, you are to young to deal with this. Go with what Debbie said. PLEASE find a women's shelter before it is too late. You must protect yourself, go to someone you trust. It is necessary that you find not go about this alone. You need all the support you can get. Try to find counseling in your area. Email me please, I have a few links you could check out.I would be more than happy to help. Whatever you do, do not go and do this on your own. There is a way out of relationships like this. There is no need to stay in it. (It is completely normal for a man who beats a woman to not want to let her go. Its their way of taking control.) Take care, good luck.

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(I volunteered for a SW women working together in Chicago. They help out women and children who have been victims of domestic violence, I went through it as well.)Do not hesitate to contact me...

Answer 31

um...have u tried arts and crafts?...nuff said